Well that was a really helpful post. Not judgmental or anything.
The last dad w/ssi and ssd, the state can garnish his ssd every month. have you opened a case against him yet?
Jul 01, 2009 Rating
Wait just one darn minute...It ain't about you! by: Anonymous
Hello - This post is disturbing on so many levels. I can't even answer your pressing question due to the fact I can't understand or even begin to fathom how you got yourself in this predicament. First off, why do you have four children by four different men? Why didn't you stop after the first one? Do you know what kind of life you are creating for your children? Furthermore all of these fathers with the exception of the first one sound like deadbeats and I know that you knew they were deadbeats when you first met them so why sleep with them and more importantly why sleep with them without protection. Besides the fact that you got pregnant you could have also gotten, herpes, gonorrhea, Chlamydia, HIV, and a host of other diseases. I don't think you should get child support from any of these men. Though they laid down with you and did make the baby it is your responsibility to protect yourself since you are the one that ends up with the responsibility of taking care of the baby. I do not understand why women have more than one child out of wedlock. It seems logical that after the first one and the struggle associated with that, you would learn from your mistakes. Don't you know children without fathers most often end up being very rebellious, some become criminals, some become drug addicts, they treat women like crap or men like crap and they treat themselves like crap because they don't feel they are worthy to be loved because they are missing the void of their father? This ain't about you. If that man is truly trying to be a father than let him! He was good enough for you to sleep with unprotected so that means you thought he would make a good father. So what has changed? Cause you mad he is with another woman. Get over yourself, again I say it's not about you! I want you women to stop thinking it's all about you! Once you make the decision to have a child your life is no longer your own and your decisions should be made in the best interest of the child. So my advice pray that God changes your heart to allow your children to have fathers..and pray that he changes the fathers' heart so that they will be good fathers.
