Single mom of 4 sons

by Stacey
(WV)

I am a single mom of 4 sons.. My sons have different fathers.. My oldest son is 8 year old, second son is 4 year olds, third son is 1 year old and my fourth son is under a month old.. My oldest son's father pay child support without a problem and if i need him to help out with extra stuff he 95 percents willing to help me out.. Second son's father doesn't pay child support we are waiting on the dna test cause he swear he not the father and hinding from the court systems but they find him we went to court now waiting for the papers work to get the test done.. My 3rd son father just started to pay child support but only half of it.. That is because he want to go back to school instead of working.. My 4th son's father is a deadbeat 100 percent. He is on ssi and ssd.. Running around with a older women and he gave up his right to his 2 oldest kids (a son and a daughter but claims he still has right to them).. I got the paper from my lawyer about it.. Plus we have a no contract order. But his new women has a 12 year old daughter he told me he was going to adopt her.. There is no way he can adopt her cause he had abuse charges on him that is why he gave up his other kids.. She text me and tell me they are going to fight for my 4th child... There is no way there are going to end up with this baby.. I am not saying that cause he is mine.. I love all my sons the same.. I been thought hell in my life and i am not going to take this from them.. I told them to leave me a lone or i am going to make a phone call to my lawyer and get them since him and i have the no contract order in place.. The don't believe me 100 percent about the order.. He order a dna test on this baby and Now he say he the father.. This baby look like him 100 percent.. I am very light skin (white) and he is somewhat darker then i am.. (This baby is alot darker then i am but lighter then he is). Right now i do live on my child support but i am getting ready to have back operated on in july or aug.. Is there a way i can file a paper to see if they can get him to sign his rights over to me for this baby so i can get rid of them out of my life since i don't need them or have to worried about child support from him. Since he won't pay it being he is on ssi and ssd. I really don't need child support from him or her.. How do i get rid of unwanted people..

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by: Anonymous

Well that was a really helpful post. Not judgmental or anything.

The last dad w/ssi and ssd, the state can garnish his ssd every month. have you opened a case against him yet?

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Wait just one darn minute...It ain't about you!
by: Anonymous

Hello - This post is disturbing on so many levels. I can't even answer your pressing question due to the fact I can't understand or even begin to fathom how you got yourself in this predicament. First off, why do you have four children by four different men? Why didn't you stop after the first one? Do you know what kind of life you are creating for your children? Furthermore all of these fathers with the exception of the first one sound like deadbeats and I know that you knew they were deadbeats when you first met them so why sleep with them and more importantly why sleep with them without protection. Besides the fact that you got pregnant you could have also gotten, herpes, gonorrhea, Chlamydia, HIV, and a host of other diseases. I don't think you should get child support from any of these men. Though they laid down with you and did make the baby it is your responsibility to protect yourself since you are the one that ends up with the responsibility of taking care of the baby. I do not understand why women have more than one child out of wedlock. It seems logical that after the first one and the struggle associated with that, you would learn from your mistakes. Don't you know children without fathers most often end up being very rebellious, some become criminals, some become drug addicts, they treat women like crap or men like crap and they treat themselves like crap because they don't feel they are worthy to be loved because they are missing the void of their father? This ain't about you. If that man is truly trying to be a father than let him! He was good enough for you to sleep with unprotected so that means you thought he would make a good father. So what has changed? Cause you mad he is with another woman. Get over yourself, again I say it's not about you! I want you women to stop thinking it's all about you! Once you make the decision to have a child your life is no longer your own and your decisions should be made in the best interest of the child. So my advice pray that God changes your heart to allow your children to have fathers..and pray that he changes the fathers' heart so that they will be good fathers.

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