SO Unfortunate
by Anada
(Manchester)
I am a girlfriend of a loyal man who pays 1,000 dollars a month to his daughter’s mother. He has joint physical custody. Joint decision-making. BUT she has primary. We have his Daughter from Saturday at 6 until Tuesday at One. (Every Tuesday we drop his daughter off at her mother’s baby sitter), every Saturday his daughter gets dropped off by her grandparents and have seen the mother 3 times in the past 4 months.
A year ago my boyfriend went to court for a motion to modify. He was paying 650 a month before. (Mother was asking for 1,200 dollars a month HA)
His job at the time (a manager of AT&T) took up a lot of his time. Could barely see his daughter. His employees were calling him 24/7. SO he quit his full time job to start his own company. BOLD MOVE!! Went into court without a lawyer, because he couldn’t afford one. Judge didn’t like that so then raise his child support to his maximum capacity. Which is 1,000 dollars a month. So since his daughters mother has her for 14 hours more a week I guess that costs 1,000 dollars (EXPENSIVE CHILD)
The mother was living with her parents. Pays no bills and now come to find out a year later is a drug addict who pays more attention to herself and boyfriend than her daughter. We are also finding out that his daughter is spending more time with her grandparents than her own mother.
2008 is now over and it has been over a year since his support got raised. We are finding out that he only made 30,000 dollars in '08. TWELVE thousand TWELVE went to his daughter’s mother. I am very proud of him for not having a nervous brake down.
I have been there and seen him almost crash and burn. I can’t believe a judge would do something like that. I’m sure if the mother wanted to quit her job to spend more time with her daughter that would be OK.
There are fathers out there who see their children every other WEEKEND and don’t pay that much in child support. Something needs to change.
My mother raised 4 children on 9 dollars an hour. You can go to Disney Land with two months of child support. You can pay a mortgage with one month of child support. You can buy a diamond necklace for 1,000 dollars. CRAZY.
We are waiting for a court date to get primary custody. If we get Primary we will not be asking for child support. We jut want what’s best for his daughter.
Her mother is an unstable Parent. Moves in and out of boyfriend’s houses. Broke up with one boyfriend and 2 weeks later introduces another to her daughter. Puts her daughter in shoes that are one in half sizes too big. She would throw parties at her house with her daughter running around till 2 in the morning. There is so much more. We have some of her friend on our side going to court to testify against her.
Maybe a judge should listen to the whole case before assuming the father is a dirt bag. Hopefully he will this time around. Its all about politics. You walk in the courtroom with a good lawyer your chances of winning are SO high. Even if you are the bad guy.
SOMETHING NEES TO CHANGE. I only want what’s fair.
