Someone else has to foot the Bill, because the mothers won't !

by Stepmother of 3
(Houston TX)

I'm so sick of people abusing the system, weather it be lieing to the Texas AG, about the amount of Child support owed, or getting on welfare because they don't want to work! My husband has 3 children a son 11, a daughter 6 an another son 4. He pays $847 a month for his oldest son and $700 a month for the youngest 2.

Now his oldest son was born when he was 16, my husband an his ex got married. At 16 no one finds their true love unless it is an act of God. Any ways my husband droped out of school to go to work to provide for his family. After a few years his ex cheated on him with the father of her second son and my husband left her. When the divorce was finalized he was to pay her 300 a month in child support, hold insurance on his son, and both him an her were to pay half of the Health, Dental and Vision bills that insurance didn't cover, same song an dance for almost any divorce decree's now a days.

Now for his second ex she is a real winner my husband married her after their daughter was born. My husband has always been one to take resposiblity for his actions, he felt it was only right to marry her. They then had a son a year an a half later he was born early with cocaine in his system. The funny thing is after they tested her an my husband, she tried to tell my husband he failed an she passed... Hello the son had it in his system, how could she pass the test. Well after 2 an a half months he left her because he was tired of her lie's.

He went to the AG an set up child support for the youngest two of an agreed amount of $700 a month, same song an dance with insurance. After a year she dicided to give the custody of her child to her steparents because she didn't want the reponsiblity and my husbend went to the AG to change his child support to go to her step parents. It took 2 months for it to take effect and he got behind with the steparents. An because of the AG screw up he had 3 support orders now. 1 for his first ex, 1 for his 2nd ex an 1 for the step parents until he caught the mistake on his paycheck. Instead of putting it toward the back child support they sent him a check for $1200.

So between the steparents and his first ex he was $12,000 behind in child support which is BS because his first ex told the AG that she didn't recieve a dime while my husband was enemployed for seven months, even when my husbend gave her half his tax refund for several years to make up the differance. So now it is 2010 an my husband pays $1547 which includes back child support a month for his 3 children. Now what makes me sick is last spring my oldest stepson needed to go to the denist after his mother let him sit for 2 months with infected teeth so i finally set up an appointment insurance covered their part and the rest was up to my husband an his ex.

So I payed his part and recieved a bill for the half she was responsible for and forwared it on to her certified mail. My husband called her to let her know it was coming in the mail and she thru a fit. She was pissed because she assumed his insurance would cover it all! She said and I quote " I guess I'm going to have to get him on medicaid then because I can't afford $254". What a bunch of BS she gets $847 a month in child support, from my husband. The state of Texas payed for her Minivan she is required to have for her other son since he is disabled. She also collect's $3500 a month for disablity for the child an any other state aided program she can get, an says she can't work because of her disabled son that goes to school an during the summer is with his dad who doesn't pay child support or whoever else takes care of him during the summer so she can sit on her ass, an to top it all off she just recieved a check from the irs for my husbands tax refund of $793 after the AG took out their fee of a $100. While the grandparents of the youngest 2 didn't recieve a dime of the tax refund.

The youngest 2 children's grandparents don't ask for much as long as my husband has insurace on them, an pays his childsupport, they have never sent us a bill for what insurance hasn't cover, they asked us if we could help with school cloths this fall and i don't have a problem with this. But what upsets me is their mother doesn't have any responsiblity to the kids she said and I quote" It's not my resposiblity to pay childsupport on them it's my husbands job". An people wonder why our county is in debt, people want to sit on there ass and make it someone elses reponiblity's to foot the bill! I know their are mothers out there that bust the ass and collect a small amount fo child support, or don't get any at all because of a dead beat, and I commend them hats off to you. But I'm starting to see alot more that just sit there an collect a check, an it makes me sick.

There is a saying God helps those who help themselves. We need to stop the abuse of the system! It takes 2 to create a child it also takes 2 to love an SUPPORT a child. If we could stop all the freeloaders we might not have the problems we have!