I am a firm believer that child support was derived out of someone’s pride taking a 'hit' as it were. And so, it has been made into law that when someone insults their mate by divorcing them, they must PAY!!!! .....that is what I think (yes, yes, I am bitter, and I realize that in some cases violence ended the marriage/relationship. For that I truly grieve for you) As it stands I owe a GREAT sum of money for insulting my 2 x-wives. Yes, you may say that I am a fool for going at it twice in life, but for your information, I had STILL believed that man and woman could live together as one and of one goal: To raise children in such a way as to change this sorry, miserable, tired world for the better. Unfortunately, we each have our own way of doing things and that brings about the end (united we stand, divided we fall). Now that I have vented, let me get to my point... When child support is paid, the state takes it and holds it for a while. They open a high interest bank account and deposit these payments into it. (see where this is going ?) After the state has leeched off of MY HARD EARNED MONEY to their satisfaction, they then disperse it. Now... when an obligor gets behind, they are brought in for questioning (just as in socialism) and usually made to serve time. At that point EVERYONES tax money goes to house, feed, and clothe this person. All because the state hauled you in to demand why you thought they no longer deserved to earn interest off of money that was NOT theirs in the first place. So it comes down to this... You are never arrested because the custodial parent has not received their payments, you are arrested because the state has used the custodial parents complaint to exact their own revenge against you for not allowing them the pleasure of leeching off of your payments.
Because of this bank account, the child support 'black hole' came into existence. The state is flagging as it is in constant flux due to this commission suddenly dissolving, or that commission taking precedence over another. Paperwork gets shuffled and lost, (and from what I've read here at this site) and some poor slob gets a letter informing him/her (more times HIM than HER) that no payments have been received when YOU know you have been paying all along!!!
I say abolish the child support system. In more cases than not the custodial parent earns more than the non-custodial parent. In many cases the custodial parent re-marries, sometimes to a person more affluent even than themselves, thereby adding an over- abundance of money to the welfare of the child ( and if anyone out there fits this last scenario and STILL says their child is still ailing because of money then THAT is a load of CRAP).
The system is geared to give advantage to the one, while not having one concern for the other. The custodial parent (unknown to the courts) can make the non- custodial parent jump through hoops JUST TO SEE THEIR OWN CHILD in a lot of cases. SCORES of cases have passed through where the CUSTODIAL parent has flagrantly ABUSED the system ! And NO one seems to notice THAT illegal activity. During recent times, a lot of states have come out with a debit card that the payments go directly on to. A female acquaintance of mine took that card to a local convenience store and purchased CIGARETTES and BEER with it. I can tell you from first-hand observance that the state did NOTHING to correct that situation. Again I say, abolish the system. It is unfair, and gainful only for those that would benefit monetarily from it!
