My husband and I have been married for 13 years now. We have 3 children and have worked very hard for these 13 years just to make ends meet. He had a relationship with this woman before we married and after we were engaged she tells him she is pregnant the child is his, that she didn't want anything from him, but just to let him know. Now 13 years later she has filed for child support. Of course he is asking for a paternity test, but if it does turn out to be his biological son, then what. This is ridiculous. She has always had plenty of ways for the AG to contact us before now. It's not like we moved all over the country... same city and always with a listed telephone. So I have to ask... why now? This child is now 13 years old and trying my best not to sound demeaning, but neither of us really wants anything to do with this woman or her son. I know how that sounds, and my husband isn't a dead beat dad by any means and if ordered to pay child support, he will. But I honestly do not believe this child wants anything to do with our family and that his mother is just doing this for some estranged personal gain of her own. I have heard several stories that for cases like this the father may sign over his rights to the child and not have to pay child support, but other stories state that this is only an option if someone else is waiting to adopt the child. I'm sure there are people out there who have gone through something similar and would like to hear some of the different outcomes. If he can't sign over his rights and is enforced to pay child support on this child, what about visitation, especially since he really doesn't want anything to do with the child, nor do i believe the child wants anything to do with our family. Do we then force visitation on this child. My husband and I are not vindictive people and do not feel that anything good can come of forcing something like visitation on this child, but if we don't, then what are we paying child support for? Any open thoughts would be greatly appreciated.