Support???

by Ella
(New York State)

I have a 10 year old son, whom his non-cosdodial "parent" he doesn't deserve credit to have parent as a title, has never had contact with, (and deined and was proved he was wrong)my son was born early and had many problems, when I told his "father's mom" all she said is when will the baby be home, never asked if it was a boy or girl or if he was ok or anything, this is the only grandchild she had at that time. Anyway I have been in and out of court several times, child support is paid then all of a sudden it stops, exspecially right before it was time to buy school clothes, well 8 years ago I became involved with my fiance, and he has supported my son and myself, and has been a dad to my son, good thing. My son's "father" pays $50 a month in child support and it changes several times over the last 10 years to nothing for months at a time. So this last round I requested a court order. Well, I had to wait about 4 months or more and they finally said we can go to court. We go and he doesn't have his papers, we rescheduled, came back for a second time and he is asking for a lawyer, the third time he has no job so he can only pay $25.00 month in child support. The judge asks if I can support my son on this. Well, my response is I guess I'll have to, was she kidding, then she asks me about my bills and how we pay them, I said we do it every month, but I should have said not with "His"money, I was sick with the flu that day I went to court and was caught off guard. If I would have been with it I would have said I would like to see him live off $25 a month, but like I told my fiance, $25 is better than nothing, he might as well not pay anything. Then "he" asks if I go to work and report it - what? She said of course. Don't worry I will be ready the next time.

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Ella...
by: Anonymous

If you read this. I hear ya! I too am in New York state...the capital as a matter of fact. The man for lack of better words, that fathered my wonderful child to date owes $34,000. The Judge, for lack of better words, has let him slide for 3 years. She finally sent him to jail but only on weekends which he didn't show up for. All the while she has been believing his "good intentions" to pay and take care of his son and never once has asked how I do it (subsidy through my local social services) or how my son eats, is clothed, has heat. It has soley been about him getting a job and her 'belief' in him...THE VIOLATER. I just don't get it, and I understand your frustration!

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BAD JUDGE
by: Anonymous

I PAY MY CHILD SUPPORT AND HAVE FOR 12 YEARS AND NEVER WAS LATE. THIS MAN IS WHAT MAKES ALL OF US LOOK BAD.I LOOK AT IT LIKE THIS, IF MEN OR WOMEN PAYED THERE SUPPORT, MAYBE THE COURTS WOULD NOT BE SO HARD ON THEM OR GIVE THEM A LITTLE BIT OF A BRAKE. AGAIN THE JUDGE IS BEING UNFAIR TO YOU AND MOST OF ALL THE CHILD.

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SUPPORT
by: MELISSA

ARE YOU KIDDING ME HE ONLY PAYS $25 A MONTH WHY IS HE NOT PAYING MORE? WHAT KIND OF JOB DOES HE HAVE? HE SHOULD BE MADE TO PAY MORE OR GO TO JAIL. THEY CAN MAKE A BABY BUT DON'T SUPPORT IT WHAT IS GOING ON HERE? WHY IS IT THE STATES DON'T MAKE THESE PARENTS PAY? BUT HAVE NO WORRY WE CAN SUPPORT CHILDREN IN THREE WORLD COUNTRIES. JUST NOT THE CHILDREN IN THE UNITED STATES. STAND STRONG HIS DAY WILL COME

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