Supporting Deadbeat Fathers

by Kristin
(Fremont, IN)

My name is Kristin and I am coming to you in hopes that can help me understand what is going on in the court systems today !I have a son who is twenty now. He was born in 1988. His father (if that is what you would like to call him) left us when I was three months pregnant with our son. It took me until 1995 to find him and prove that he was the father to my son.


When I finally did track him down and paternity was established ,child support was ordered. Well he paid his support for about two years (96-97). Then he moved again. It was about two years after that before he started paying his support again, which he did pay for about two years(2000- 01). Then in July of 2003 he took me to court to stop his support because he was not working and stated that his arrearages were adding up and this was an undue burden on himself.

In court I found out that he had filed for Social Security due to a PENIAL IMPLANT (that’s right his member was not working),remember this is a surgery that he choose to have!!!! At this time the judge abated his support, pending the outcome of the S.S. appeal. I was lead to believe that this would be within three months of court. Well, in August of 2004 his case was finally heard and he did (some how) win his PENIAL IMPLANT case. And in December 2004 when my son was seventeen I was ordered 150.00 a month in S.S.I. until my son turned eighteen, and that I would have to take him back to court if I wanted more. He was married and some how proved that he was supporting his two step kids, so they were entitled to part of his S.S. What I would like to know is how he was supporting these kids yet unable to support his own? He had paid about six years of support for my child and owes nothing due to the fact that during the time we were waiting to hear from S.S. there was no order, because the judge had abated it!

I truly understand that people go through rough spots in their lives as I have been there more then once, but there has NEVER been one day in my life where supporting my children was an undue burden, even when I worked three jobs at one time to support them. I truly believe that my son's father is a deadbeat dad and will do what ever it takes to get out of supporting his child. As it stands he has gotten away with it once again, this time he just got someone else to pay his obligation.

Anyways my question is where has the JUSTICE for the children gone? And when did we start looking out for the deadbeats dad?????

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deadbeat dad
by: Anonymous

sometimes mothers are worse than farhers mi ex takes mi money and smokes crack

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deadbeat dad
by: Anonymous

how much money did the fu--ed up system get 'prob half' my son was molested by the boyfriend of the mother. how doyou like that. and not only that they garnishid 50% of mi wages wile it was happening so up yours

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Kristin's Supporting Deadbeat Dads
by: Disabled Mom

Where has the justice gone? In my humble opinion and personal ongoing experience, there pretty much isn't any. The national child support system is broken and overwhelmed by the sheer numbers, lack of manpower and fiscal budget. Corrupt, arrogant judges definitely play a part as well as badly written legislation. Each of us HAS to stay on top of our own cases, do the detective work ourselves and be prepared to present the evidence to what we pray beforehand is the sitting judge we need. Rememeber that the system wants us custodial parents to give up, that's the goal. Less work for them.

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by: melissa

I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL SOMETIMES ITS BETTER TO LET THING GO. BUT GIRL YOU HAVE GOT TO GET MAD, TAKE HIM BACK TO COURT, MAKE HIM PAY YOU. I WOULD MAKE HIS LIFE A LIVING HELL. IF WE MOMS DON'T STAND UP AND FIGHT WHO WILL? NOT THE COURTS

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