They need to be doing it better. After all, guess were the former Attorney General is? In Prison! They are very anti-male and biased. I was originally assessed when I was making about 100K per year in the technology field.
Since then all of the technology jobs have been outsourced to India, Eastern EU etc. and I'm now making 25K per year and in school full-time while working full time. The Texas Attorney General said that's not good enough and they still continue to make me pay as though I were making 100K per year which means if I bring home 1,000 dollars evey two weeks I see about 120.00. I can't pay bills, make my rent or a car payment. How am I supposed to keep paying child support if I can't drive my car to work? How am I supposed to receive training to get a better job in a different field if I can't drive my car to school? How about making rent? How about paying car insurance and buying food?
The Attorney General could care less. It was the AG that helped cause my current divorce by placing so much financial stress on our family it wasn't even real. They are useless politicians that could care less about families. It's an empty slogan. They see men as cash registers that wear trousers.
Texas AG Doesn't have the Best Reputation... They are anti-male
He has access to our daughters account and can see at anytime how the child support money is being spent yet he moans and complains why should I pay? Not to mention he owed me fourteen thousand dollars in back pay if I had chose to take it but I didn't. Did I get a thank you? Nope. Did I ask to be cheated on and ignored and left to raise a baby alone? No? Did I put a gun to his penis and force him to secrete sperm into me? No? It was the both of us so the both of us should have to be held accountable for our actions as adults are. So f'n what if you lost your job or got sick or have more children? WHAT ABOUT THE CHILD? THEY DIDN'T ASK TO BE BORN INTO THE SITUATION THAT THEIR IN! If you men think it's so damn unfair STRAP ON TIGHT! Or have meaningful sex with women that you wouldn't mind seeing a future with. But, for heavens sake STOP expecting the mom and the world to cover you! Children need money to live just like you do are you not both human beings? Step up dead beats and stop making excuses, or blaming the mom in the end the child hurts, and if you really hate paying then sign your sorry a$$ rights over so that the custodial parent can get what they would've gotten if you weren't in the picture. Be there or be gone! Accept the responsibility! When my daughter was with her father for the summer my electric, water, food, and some misc... cash flow was increased by almost $300 so don't tell me that a four year old doesn't use this or need this. It's a sorry excuse for a person that just needs to own up to his own personal mistakes!
Aug 03, 2010 Rating
OUTRAGED! #1 by: Anonymous
I knew that most men were selfish but I had no idea how ridiculous it was until I found this site. My daughters father pays me child support because he refused to give me more than $150.00 a month for help. Two years after our daughter was born I just couldn't do it anymore alone so I filed. Mind you I was on bed rest from being terminally ill during the pregnancy, and was living off my savings. This man makes 50plus a year. When I did file I gave him half the money for the first year and paid all the medical because I believed him when he said he was struggling to buy food and pay the lights and being that my daughter was with him outside of court ordered visitation I felt it was fair. This man went and bought flat screen tv's and various other material things with money that could have been given to his daughter for her health, college etc. Since, he has received two promotions and now makes well over 70 thousand, but still only gives his child what the court takes. Have I asked for more money my legal right? No! Tutoring because of a speech issue I paid, Ballet me. He owes me medical bills as I type over 500 dollars worth. When the child is with him I'm not allowed to speak to her. Since she was born four years ago she has only came home twice without some injury or illness. Yet, he refuses to speak to me or inform me of anything because he is angry about the child support forget the help I gave in the beginning he did. My daughter tells me to be careful because her no no was bleeding? WTH? This is after she comes from her dads house, did he say anything to me? No! I have tried everything in the world to make peace with this man.
Jul 29, 2010 Rating
Here is my story with the lovely Texas OAG!! OMG by: Anonymous
I was married to a woman and while we were married she had two children. I thought throughout our marriage those children where mine. Her and I divorced in March 2004. Then in 2007 she made the statement to me that the youngest one was not mine. So I had a private DNA test done in 2007 and found out that he was not mine. This is where I have one problem she had to "allow" me to sign my rights off to a child that was not mine. Does this not seem to be a problem for anyone here. He was not my child so why would it be up to her to allow me to sign rights off. The REAL father should be the one taking care of him not me. My second problem is I paid her child support from March 2004 until Feb 2008.
So why are there not ANY Texas Laws within the OAG to protect the man and the children from a mother lying to a man about the paternity of a child? And why are there no laws in place for the man that is not the father to be able to get back all the monies he paid for a child that was not his to support? In my case I did not find out until the youngest was 4 years old. How is this fair to me, the child or the REAL father? It is not! Yet there are NO LAWS to stop the mother from doing this just because the man was married to her.
The reason my ex-wife did not go after the real father is because he does not work and could not provide her with the support I could. So she lied to me leading me to believe these children were mine. In my eyes this is a form of FRAUD. She knowing lied to me about the children of our marriage.
Currently it has come to light that now my oldest with her maybe my brother's child and not mine. Which my brother is in prison this is why she lied about the oldest. So if this is the case I was lied to just to get money from. Currently I have a great job and pay ALOT in child support. I do not have a problem if the children are mine paying the support set by the state however I do not feel it is my responsibility to take care of another man's responsibilities.
So how do I go about getting some kind of Law pasted to protect the man, children and the REAL fathers in cases like mine? As I fear that I am not the only one that this had happened to in Texas.
Jul 22, 2010 Rating
Texas Child support voilates mens civil rights by: Moe313
I am 37 and pay child support. In 2007 the mother was awarded $913 a month, I was laid off in 2009 and have been trying to get my child support modified since march of 2009.
What can be done about the Texas Child Support system and how unfair it is? To make a man pay %65 of his wages if they fall behind, but the funny thing is in most cases you start off in arrears.
Jul 19, 2010 Rating
A DEAD MANS TALE by: Arthur J Blye
For years I paid on my child support to the state of Texas, then I got hit by lighting twice in the same week and now I am very disabled and very sick and can not work at all. I am lucky to be alive still. I notified and sent all the paper work I could to the A.G.?s office from my doctors about my condition, well they don?t give a dam they want there money so now they have garnished my SSDI of which I only get $878.00 a month, they are taking $250.00 of it, so now I have to pay my rent and all my doctors co pays and med co pays, home phone, and food and gas out of what?s left and there is no way to do it. So now I have to shut off my phone which I need to call for emergency help from time to time to stay alive, no more car which means no more doctors which means no more meds to help keep me alive, which means I am a dead man and the state of Texas has Murdered Me!
THANK YOU TEXAS MAY I DO THE SAME FOR YOU SOME DAY, I CURSE THE STATE OF TEXAS ALL THAT WORK FOR THE A.G.?S OFFICE AND MY X WIFE MAY YOU ALL DIE A HORRABLE DEATH LIKE ME!!!
Jul 14, 2010 Rating
I am the Custodial Parent and I think the Rules Suck!!! by: Anonymous
I have custody over my children and since the father thought it would be better for the funds to be withdrawn directly out of his check instead of trying to remember to send me money for the kids, we both went down together and signed him up for child support. Well when he got laid off, I assumed medical coverage for the kids and even went in and forfeited the back pay cause I knew they were going to apply interest to it and I knew he wouldn't be able to afford that and the new payment once getting back on his feet. Well our modification review came around (he does have a child from a relationship before me) and his eldest kid is now 22 years old but now because he still owed back pay for her, is being made to pay 20% for her as well as 20% for our kids. I sympathized with him because after all, he's a good father to all of his kids even though our relationship didn't last. The interest their serving up on his eldest kid is rediculous. He'll NEVER see the end of that money that AG is receiving because the child nor her money see's the money he's paying from what they have told us...
Sad part is she is well past 18 and out of college and money is being taken from him but not benefitting the child..... And again how is this in the best interest of the child????
Jun 27, 2010 Rating
Start a campain by: pjp
Listen folks. I am in the same sorry sitution as all of you with childsupport. Men are being abused in this country. Our only hope is to start campaining and get your Rep. involved. Make our concerns known and when it comes time to vote. That is what you make as an issue. It is the only way to combat this, other wise we are all screwed. Just keep hammering. Some will say I dont have time. Well then you will continue to be abused. Lets go, if enough people keep writing or emailing our congress or senators. We wil evently get help. But till then we have to live with it. Be a pest about this sitution.
Jun 17, 2010 Rating
Good Luck Dads by: onefather
My husband and I requested assistance in obtaining child support from his children's mother over one year ago. We have yet to see a dime... and had our FIRST court date only one month ago. He is mistreated whenever he calls or visits the local office- having to explain over and over that HE HAS CUSTODY of the children. I have written the governor's office and preparing to move forward with more complaints. Anyone interested in joining- please contact me at onefather@ymail.com. Valid concerns and complaints regarding the TX AG only, please. I do not wish to hear from anyone simply upset that they are being forced to help raise their children.
Apr 15, 2010 Rating
$46,000 in back CS by: Texas Teacher
For a kid that my husband didn't even know existed until the child was 8!! The attorney general & small podunk town in South Texas says...too bad! I feel mother & father should be EQUALLY responsible for their children! So...that must mean that it takes $1800 a month to raise one school age child with no health issues?
Child #1
$700 CS
$200 Insurance
+
$1200 Back CS
Child #2
$550.00 a month
So...$2650.00 a month is FAIR????? WTH does MOM have to contribute? Texas is a joke!
And I'm a mother of two that chose NOT to claim CS because I HAVE A JOB! This state caters to prostitution.
Apr 12, 2010 Rating
A FREE COUNTRY? by: Anonymous
MEN NEED TO START A POWERFUL NONPROFIT ORGANIZATION TO LOBBY WASHINGTON TO CHANGE THE LAWS TO MAKE THEN MORE UNDERSTANDING FOR THE MAN.THATS WHAT THE WOMEN DID! IT'S ALL POLITICS.ITS TIME FOR CHANGE TO MANY MEN ARE GOING TO JAIL.I THINKS AGAINST OUR CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHTS ITS LIKE GOING TO DEBTER PRISON. AND WHEN YOU GET A YEAR IN JAIL FOR NONPAYMENT IT COST THE TAX PAYER MORE THAN THE DAD OWES. AND IM NOT IN THIS SITUATION AND SEE ALOT OF PEOPLE GOING TO DEBTERS PRISON FOR THIS ? IT'S BECOME A CITY AND STATE PROFITABLE BUSINESS. AND FEDERAL GOVERNMENT PAYS THE BILL ARE THE TAXPAYER ,YOU AND ME AND YOUR CHILDREN, FUTURE TAX PAYERS!
Mar 23, 2010 Rating
NON CUSTODIAL GIRLFRIEND by: Anonymous
I HAVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR 10 YEARS JUST RECENTLY HE GOT BEHIND BY 5000 ON HIS CHILD SUPPORT. HE IS WORKING AND JUST GOT OUT OF JAIL IN JANUARY FOR CHID SUPPORT. HE PAID 1500 TO GET OUT OF JAIL AND HAS MADE 3 PMT SINCE THEN AND WHEN HE WENT TO COURT TO RESCHEDULE A DATE( SINCE HIS EX WAS IN LABOR FROM SOMEONE ELSE) THEY SLAPPED HIM WITH 6 MONTHS IN JAIL OR PAY 1000 BY 11 A.M. WHEN HE CAME TO TOWN (30 MIN. AWAY FROM HIS COURT HEARING) WHEN HE CAME BACK WITH THE MONEY THEY HAD LEFT FOR THE DAY. NOW THEY WONT ACCEPT THE 1000 AND WANT ALL HIS BACK PAY (5000). EVEN THE MOM SAID SHE WANTS THE MONEY SHE DOESNT WANT HIM IN JAIL AND THEY JUST DONT CARE...DONT BE MISTAKEN, IT'S NOT ABOUT THE KIDS AT ALL...THEY HAVE THEIR OWN AGENDA! NOW WE WAIT...TO SEE IF SHE CAN CONVINCE THE AG TO LET HIM STAY FREE AND KEEP SUPPORTING HIS KIDS!
Feb 25, 2010 Rating
Engaged to a non custodial dad!!!!! by: Jennifer
I am engaged to a non custodial father, He has been responsable to the best of his ablities. Recently he fell through an attic while at work installing cable. He is on workers compensation pending the rehab result. I am a former security officer, now author attempting to break into the field with my self published books, although we were barely making it he said i should persue that. Now the mother is pushing the AG's office non stop for money because in the past he had a bank account and she froze it. Well now he is broke we sold his car to pay her. and only have my truck which is in both names, they tried to take his workers comp benifits even though it clearly states it's against statute to attatch to these benifits if intended as alternative to wages.
Now they are trying to put him in jail even though he called and told them the situation. it's like these custodial parents have a mob at their disposal and it's the ag's office. Honestly it has to stop. These women don't have to comply with vistiation orders becasue the father's are already broke so they can't file.
signed mad as hell and frustrated!!!!!!!!!!
Jennifer Bergerson
Feb 24, 2010 Rating
Learn the system by: Anonymous
My ex has 2, yes 2 lawyers, and at the final divorce hearing she had one with us and the other filing paperwork behind my back.
I was able to prevent OAG from wage withholding, as long as I am current with my child support tghey will never touch my paycheck.
I got in good with the manager of the local enforcement office, and was told how to beat the system, and to never give up. Yes I wasted half my day down there, but I am beating the system.
Now I am dragging her and her 2 lawyers back to court for harrassing my employer to withhold my income.
Fight the system gentlemen, it is your paycheck!
Feb 16, 2010 Rating
This Sucks by: Anonymous
Well after reading all of these I am crapping in my pants because I got served about a month ago ...I have been without a job and basically being taken care of by my wife I thought i had valid reasons as to why i'm not working but it seems the AG really could care less ....
Jan 07, 2010 Rating
help by: Anonymous
you are why is there nothing we can do about this. I got a second job to compensate for the supoort loss and they took that check too. Women run the world.
Nov 17, 2009 Rating
non custodial parents by: Anonymous
Texas is one of the worst states now on child support. Texas does not review or care for that m atter what the primary parent is making. They only follow the 20% rule. They will take 20% of your net pay each month or how ever you are paid. I must correct someone that said only 24% of non custodial parents pay child support:
facts:
82% of women that are ordered to pay child support, stop making payments.
Most men will try and pay child support if ordered to. 72% of all ment that stop paying child support are either dead broke or lost their jobs. I am almost broke now due to how much I pay for my son. My ex wife is remarried and uses my sons child support for mainly herself. Texas is a joke and it is totally a man hatter state.
Oct 22, 2009 Rating
Now a full time dad and getting screwed by: Anonymous
My ex and I agreed this past summer to let me have custody of our daughter. She lives with me full time now. My daughter is autistic learning is a real challenge for her and since Ive had her for the last 5 months, Ive got her potty trained, talking some and got her to make eye contact with people. After I got her into school here (her mother lives in another city) I naively thought it would be a simple process to end the child support payments I was paying to my ex, BOY WAS I WRONG! The AG's office told my I have to fill out an affidavit AFTER HAVING HER FOR 6 MONTHS stating that I have my daughter and that it would take up to a year for processing, and that I have to pay for an attourney to speed up the process. FIRST, my daughter has special needs and is very expensive, SECOND, I dont have the time being a single parent to drag this to court. AND WHY? my ex and I agreed to this arrangement. Meanwhile, with all of the extra expenses Im incurring AND paying child support, Im about to be broke, and Im about to have to send my daughter back to her mother for strictly financial reasons (whole back story to why this is a horrible option for my daughter). This is a crooked game, the system doesnt care about kids, they care about money, and especially about getting money from dads, even when they try to do the right thing!
Oct 14, 2009 Rating
RE: Male Custodial Parent by: Anonymous
YES, THIS HAPPENS TO NON CUSTODIAL MOMS, TOO. My ex and I have joint custody and he has primary. Mind you, this was awarded to someone who ATTEMPTED SUICIDE! This was and still is, a VERY immature person who excessively smoked pot, drank, physically abused me with the kids around and sometimes even when they were in my arms, could never hold a job, sponged off his parents and as he has grown older, NONE of this has changed. The abuse and neglect turned to our kids over the years and mainly with our younger daughter, whom he smoked pot with when she was just 13. Now she is 17 and after we went to court over a year ago to modify what I pay in child support, HE THEN AGREED TO SIGN HER OVER AND GIVE LEGAL GUARDIANSHIP to a neighbor and DIDN'T TELL ME. More importantly, she is stable and very happy and that's what matters. But what a sad example he showed our daughter. He signed her over AFTER an amount was decided on what I will pay HIM in arrears.
For all the reasons above, I have struggled for years paying this person "child support". BUT I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN INVOLVED IN MY KIDS' LIVES, and continue to do so. I just can't afford to pay him arrears, provide for them and raise their youngest sibling all at once. It's so sad when deadbeat parents don't pay. I thought of myself as one too, but realized I am doing what needs to be done for my kids. I'm just spiting myself legally when I don't pay him. That day in court I also learned, MONEY IS MONEY AND ALL THE REST IS A SEPARATE CASE. I showed up that morning with a letter from the high school. My younger daughter (daddy's pot smoking buddy) had marks and bruises on her from him. The school called CPS and I gave that letter to the judge, she looked at me and then at him (and I KNOW she was thinking, "Oh my God, we made a big mistake here") and she said, "I'm so sorry, but this case is only about child support. This is something separate you'll have to address with an attorney." My ex was standing next to me practically crapping himself, but ONCE AGAIN, HE ESCAPED. Only for now, that is. He even had the audacity to tell the judge, "She's a really good mom", after the payment amount was established.
Sometimes the courts make a mistake. Sometimes the kids don't go to the right parent. But that parent had better representation, more money, help from family, whatever. I'm still fighting this even though my girls are now 17 and 19, but no matter what, owe him arrears, even though he has signed legal guardianship over to someone else. What's done is done and I owe that money and it's wrong. He won't be sharing it with our girls, either. Oh, what I wouldn't give to spend just 1 hour alone with him in a locked room! His selfishness has caused A LOT OF PAIN FOR THOSE KIDS and for me. Knowing the "wrong parent" was given the gift of raising two wonderful kids is such a hard pill to swallow. But I am still fighting for them and I always will.
Oct 05, 2009 Rating
AG SUCKS by: Anonymous
How about this crap....our home is suppose to close tomorrow. But, the dang AG put a lien on the house. Gets even better....the child support has been caught up since Aug 2006. They never even notified us that damn lien was placed and didn't bother removing it.... So, sit and wait they said "It could take awhile"...Jerks! Bet they'd get in a hurry if it was some low life trashy woman waiting on their cs to blow on crack.
Jul 03, 2009 Rating
unemployed dad by: Anonymous
i am the wife of a ncp,i think the ag is so unfair. my husband has been unemployed off and on for the past few years. work comes for about 2wks then he gets laid off. when we went to child support we notifed them that he was unemployed, they didnt care.we notified them that he was with a temp service and even provided then name and records. they still didnt care. they then suspended his drivers license making it even hard cause now he can drive anywhere. then they suspended his pluming license making it impossible to work. how are these men that are trying to find work suppose to provide for their children if the ag is suspending peoples licenses. that is completely ridiculous,yet if the child support goes unpaid they are quick to throw them in jail. what really gets under my skin is that yet all theses men are trying to bust their asses and the majority of the babys moms are just sitting on their ass's not working and on welfare!!!
Jul 03, 2009 Rating
Texas Unfair Calculations of Child Support by: Anonymous
I understand everyone's frustrations, and I have my own. Texas is unfair how they rate CS payment on non-custodial fathers. They do not take the time to verify the lies that mothers annotate on their applications, in that they misrepresent their income, so the state can access the maximum child support on the con-custodial parent. It is set up in a way to screw you if you don't retain an attorney to research and proove the income that the custodial parent makes. But its a double-edged sword, either you pay an attorney to ensure the state access the proper percentage of your salary or you over pay in child support payments for eighteen years. Example: My husband is in the military and pays $869 per month for one child. WHY: because he did not challenge the system to dispel his ex-wifes fraudulent behavior by repoorting that she has $0 income. She rapes the system by claiming disability for two previous kids at the working people's expense. She immediately remarried after divorcing my husband, and has income from her husband and she is employed also. It is tottally unfair that she play games when it comes to visitation rights. We are stationed in VA and they live in Temple, Texas, and she will ot cooperate to allow the 13 yeorold to fly with the accompanionment of a flight attendant to see her dad, nor will she negotiate driving half-way to allow the child visitation with her father. This is what's so frustrating and unfair that the system doesn't intervene to assist constituents that are in this situation. We have incurred so much debt for the last 5 years, on expenses to just visit the child. Not to mention, one year she would not let us see her, because we drove 25 hours and was running 10 hours late, and she refused to allow the child to go with us because she claims we did not notify her of the delay, when she did not answer her phone. We checked with the local police department for assistance, and they statted they could not do anything unless we had a specific court order to enforce. The divorce decree which states he was granted reasonable visitation was not enough. So, my point is: protect yourself when you get a divorce by specifically stating the times you will be receiving your child. In our case, due to the nature of my husband's job, we could be in any state within the US or overseas. If you want to sget your child on spring breaks, major holidays, etc, you'd better make sure its in writing. If not, you will spend more money taking her to court for a modification or filing contempt of court charges against her. I wished every parent had sense but they all don't. Some only want to have children to support their income because they're irresponsible and too sorry to get off their lazy behinds to get a job and set good examples for their child. they also want to use the child as a pawn to hurt the other partent. People, you will answer to a higher power for this type of selfish and irrational behavior.
Jun 17, 2009 Rating
Women get to skate through the AG office and the Legal System by: Anonymous
I am the wife of a NCP that is being nailed for indefinite child support because the 23 year old daughter and mom are playing the system. They party every weekend, live in an apt complex w/two pools, shop, get their nails done, etc. while my husband scraps for overtime and I work full time and go to college full time earning a law degree so I can fight some of this crap being dished out. If there is a divorce, if there are children, the fathers automatically lose....them having custody isn't even considered. Why is that? Didn't it take both of them to make the child. I'm all for supporting children, but come on, what is fair about the legal system that is in place right now? What happened to the father's rights and the children's rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness! When I was a single mom...I raised my children and I did not make their visits with their dad about a dollar bill...how could that possibly be good for them. If the mom's can't afford to raise them...talk to dad...maybe he can. Are we truly interested in preserving the "best interest of the children", or are we serving self interest?
Jun 17, 2009 Rating
Modifacation can be done by: Anonymous
I'm actually going back to court for a modifacation. I tried since march of 08 to geet a modifacation done thru the office that I paid support to. I lost my job to a injury (had 3 back surgeries and my job would not let me go back to my job.)I was making 45,000 a year plus bonuses and no problem paying support, When they wanted a increase I siad ok and she got her increase.
Now the table has turned and after several phone calls and faxes and letters I finally got them to set court date for a decrease in support.I had to write a letter to Greg Abbott to get this resolved. His office is the only one who responded and they did within 1 day of me sending them a letter. No I'm going to fight to get credit back for the months that I had tried to get a decrease. I had no income for 9 months until my Workers Comp started paying, and what I get in Workers Comp. Benefits is half of what I was making.
So if you keep writing and faxing and calling eventually they'll give in to a point.
I still don''t know what the outcome will be but I got the paperwork trail to show how persistent I was in persuing this. They by the Law failed to grant my modifacation when I first requested it so hopefully the Judge will see that.I'll keep you all inform.
Jun 09, 2009 Rating
READ YOUR ORDERS by: Anonymous
You should be reading your Orders. Why are you walking away without a clear understanding of what you're leaving on the table? It's your own fault & your own duty to know your responsibilities. Perhaps the CP is having her hair & nails done b/c for so long she hasn't depended on the inconsistent child support as part of her budget. So, when she finally gets it, its used as 'spending' money. Oh well. These blogs are too full of whining babies. Perhaps your parents should have paid for child support to put up with you, too!
Jun 09, 2009 Rating
AG office SUCKS by: Anonymous
I am the wife of a man that pays his CS on time every month sees his children every "court" ordered time.. (mom will not let him see them more) anyway when the divorce took place he was making good money.. since then (6 years) his income has decreased however the AG office doesn't give a darn.. they think that he should pay the same as before knowing that the economic hard times we are in right now.. we have an attorney.. his ex thinks that since we own a business (part owners) then we are loaded.. hahah I wish.. anyway we are fighting this all the way.. she wants more we want less and apparently her attorney thinks that the AG office will roll over.. which who knows the way they have been in the past it is very possible.. anyone fight the system and win?
May 18, 2009 Rating
It's all about being Responsible Everyone! by: Rafman
I'm up for re-evaluation of what I pay in support for my two lovely children. It's all about them. I'm a great dad and my kids will have what they need. I trust that God will provide in all instances, nothing the mother or father does, or the state of Texas is sufficient enough without God involved. I have always paid my support, offered anything that is needed if needed, and have covered my children's insurance and half of their daycare needs. The bottom line is it's all about their welfare before mines. In the end, they will benefit from a thing that the mother and father produced called a divorce. That is why child bearing with a plan is so important. That is why marriage isn't just a contract but a covenant between you and your fiancee and God! Not a contract or just a close relationship you have. It's far more. People need to be more responsible bottom line. If you have to sacrifice for a season or two, do it! If you have to budget more and eat at home unlike before, you have to do it! Sorry about reality but you have to do it for your children, both parties. There is no winner and losers. The children suffer the most when parents divorce. Think of them first, before you go out and party, cheat, and do sinful stuff, that causes divorce, abuse, and seperation in most cases anyways. If on a whim you like to gamble, you take the risk of going through the headaches of the support system and divorce system the state has in place. Look at it as an unfortunate tool and stop-gap measure the state has in place because of our inability to reconcile as parents and as husband and wife. For parents who are irresponsible which there are so many, the state is there to protect the interest of the child in a basic way, and it's not seemingly fair or perfect for everyone. If you want changes, we have a democratic form of govt., call your congressman/woman. It's not perfect, but the state has to intervene because many folks don't want to support their children or uphold their responsibilities as parents and adults, very sad....So don't be a fool, don't use your children as pawns in the game of getting revenge. Revenge is the Lords! Stop whining and complaining, being like children. When you were a child you spoke and acted like one, you are adults (99%) of you here, act like responsible ones and be an adult. Quit fighting God! Without God, you'll have no spiritual discernment to understand and conform to what TRUE sacrifice, unselfishness, and being humble is truly about. One thing I found compelling here is that most stories here are about irresponsibility, lack of sacrifice, foolishness, selfishness, plain stupidity, and anger. God is nowhere to be found and sought to answer these easy tasks and worries about what "the system" is doing to your wallet, and boastful pride and revenge. Be blessed my brothers and sisters! I hope this message brings encouragement and a blessing.
Apr 28, 2009 Rating
IS IT REALLY ABOUT SUPPORT? by: Anonymous
WE ALL KNOW 9 TIMES OUT OF TEN THE WOMEN RETAINS CUSTODY OF THE CHILDREN. ALSO MOST OF THESE CASES ARE NOT IN PLACE DUE TO DESPRATE NEED OF SUPPORT. THE SYSTEM IS IN PLACE FOR A MANIPULATION TOOL, AS WELL AS THE ABOLISHMENT OF THE WELFARE SYSTEM, OR SHOULD I SAY EXTREME REGULATION OF THE WELFARE SYSTEM, THE GOVERNMENT DOES NOT WANT TO CONTINUE TO PAY FOR IRRESPONSIBLE PARENTING. IF YOU DENY OR TRY TO ARGUE THAT MEN DON'T GET THE SHORT END OF THE STICK, THEN YOU ARE THE PROBLEM AND MOST LIKELY YOU ARE A SCORN WOMAN WHO HAVE NO SENSE OF SELF WORTH AND NEED AN IDENTITY. THIS IS WHAT IT BOILS DOWN TO, VINDICTIVE MANIPULATION. MOST OF THESE CASE ARE PURSUED BY WOMEN WHO ARE NO LONGER (IN SOME CASES WERE NEVER) WITH THE MAN AND THE ONLY TOOL THEY HAVE FOR EMOTIONAL RELIEF IS THE SYSTEM TO MAKE HIS LIFE HELL, BECAUSE HER'S ALWAYS WAS SORRY.
Apr 14, 2009 Rating
Girlfriend of a NON-Custodial parent and what AG hasn't done by: Erica J
My boyfriend and I have been together 3years now and he has had the worst time with his daughter's mom. I remember the day we got the letter to go to court and when we did the lady that pro sees everything, the mom, and this other lady I guess from the AG ganged up on him in the court room. Then his ex wanted more money and said well I have 2 kids this and that. Luckly the pro see asked well are both his? She answered no and then she goes so it is not his responsibility to take care of your other child. Mind you the other child's dad is a 3 time loser in prison for drugs and that is the guy that caused their break-up. Now she always gives him a hard time and she won't talk to him. Now my boyfriend and I have a 7 month old son together adn she wants to be all nice. She still won't talk to him, but she'll talk me. Especially after I put her in her place that one day. My boyfriend called the AG shortly after the order was placed because his daughter was coming over in nasty ratty clothes and there was (and still is) signs of emotional, mental, and possibly sexual abuse. The AG told him well you're just trying to make her look bad. To this day she still never wants to go home and hates it there. Her mom doesn't work and more than likely is still striping. She never uses the money on their daughter and the mom lets her little sister pee on their daughters bed!!! It makes me sick! i just don't know what to do anymore.
Dec 23, 2008 Rating
child supportis for dead beat dads or greedy mothers by: mother/partner of a non-custodial parent
so, i had a son before i met my boyfriend and he had 3 kids before also. we have known each other for 2 years now. His ex never worked before they got to san antonio because they came from Lubbock. So 5 years she was taking care of their kids at home and he worked full-time and plus hours to support them. well she wanted to be promiscuous and did stuff behind his back with a family friend. He took her back because she left. He still took care of her cause he thought he loved her but it was really for the kids also. Well they separated and they lived together with his bro. Well she got him on child support because she "didn't trust him". She was really just jealous. For what? i dunno? anyways i just told him to let her cuz it was too much and maybe she might calm down. Well he moved out now she's with his BROTHER and shes PREGNANT! YEAH I KNOW DISGUSTING WENCH! Anyways she still has him on child support its not right cuz hes gonna end up taking care of that kid. Now he has to pay back child support from like 3-4years ago on top of the time he lost his job. BULLSHIT! and to top it off those kids are dressed in the same small,dirty clothes and shoes while she has her hair done and nails done... must be nice. Plus she lays her fatass on the couch all day... im just upset cuz my son's father is not on child support because he pay daycare and picks up his child. My boyfriend did the same when he wasn't on child support. Child support is not for men like him or my son's dad. We also have a 2mth old baby. she don't care that instead of making 700 every 2weeks he ends up with 200-300. WITCH!
Dec 17, 2008 Rating
i've got views from both ends... by: Anonymous
so, i have a son who i get child support for, his father pays about $300 a month, he was supposed to keep insurance, but dropped it without letting me know. It took a year after our order was in place for him to even begin to pay (only because i finally reported him) and recently went another 3 months without paying (which is fine, i would rather him leave us alone). i asked about a year ago for the ag to look into possibly having him give me a little extra for insurance, they told me that i would have to provide them with proof of exactly how much my son costs a month (employee + child - Employee only). meanwhile, i decided it wasn't worth me having to sit at a table with him, besides, he probably couldn't stay sober long enough to go to the meeting. Meanwhile, my fiance had a 1 night stand (which he DOES NOT remember) with some (girl who's own family thinks she took advantage of him when he was drunk). She takes him to the ag for child support and he makes less than my ex but pays more, he is ordered to pay $90/month for medical support (which by the way, i work at the same place she does, and he is paying for HER and the baby) she never had to provide proof of cost, he mentioned to the case worker that he didn't think the amount was correct, she didn't even look into it and told him that he was wrong. since then (march 2008) she has had cps called 3 times (not by us, by her daycare and other people). He is never clean, she doesn't strap him into his carseat right and he is overweight, she pretty much just gives him gatorade to drink and junk to eat (i.e. donuts, easy mac, and candy) (HE just turned 1 in November).....i can't tell if the ag is biased against men, or if they just dont want to do research as part of their job....
Dec 01, 2008 Rating
Girlfreind of Non custostal Parent by: Anonymous
I agree,my boyfreind pays $1175 a month for his 3 children, and he is making a 100K gross but after taxes, heath, dental, and vision insurance for the children he receives 70k net a year. But due to the econmey being in the situation it is in he is not making the money he is use to making so we are making it, but barely every month. We also had a savings account set up for us but the bank recently closed it because we couldn't keep money in the account. Also his Oldest sons' mother has threated to up the childsupport because she said she isn't getting a enough. We all know it takes two to make a child and that a father that does his part no matter how big or small should be able to get it lowered if he comes in on bad times, and if the mother that is collecting the CP isn't happy about it she need to GET A JOB and do her part too. Both my Boyfriends ex's don't have jobs and they just sit back and collect a check, and half the time the children get pawned of on grandparents, aunt and uncles so they can go out and PARTY so where is their RESPONSIBLTY!
Nov 28, 2008 Rating
Hmmmmmm....I see BUT..... by: Single Disabled Mom
I see what you are saying and yes I agree to a point BUT I know my ex-husband was making REAL good money and when I FINALLY got him to pay child support he was 15,000 in arrears so guess what he got "fired" from his job so he would not have to pay but a little bit and was still getting work UNDER the table. I had prrof and showed it and he got nailed for it. I am truly sorry for the ones who are good and do what they are supposed to do but unfortunatley only 24% of non-custodial parents pay child support so in turn as screwed the ones that are.
Sep 23, 2008 Rating
I agree by: Anonymous
The Texas AG is only for the moms...they don't care that my daughters mom wont let me have my court ordered visitation but they certainly will go after dads for child support. My daughters mom will not work and yet with child support and all the public assistance she is making more money than me.
Children should be a gift not a paycheck!
Aug 28, 2008 Rating
The other side by: Anonymous
It is not only always fair for the custodial parent or just the mom. I lived for 7 years only getting 25 dollars a month child support for two children because my ex wouldn't get a job. It was to hard for him to work because he was going to college. I do not feel a man should pay based on what he made previously if he lost his job for reasons he could not control. In other words if he lost his job because of downsizing or his company went out of business as long as he tried to find a job in his field where he could be making the same amount of money or close to that. I now get 401 dollars a month. After the first month my ex quit his job. Luckily they are taking my child support still from him. He may struggle but I have struggled with my girls for 7 years and am still struggling. I live with my parents because I can't afford rent. I pay 300 dollars to have my daughter on my insurance at work and I am about 60,000 in debt in past medical bills for her which the state will not make him pay. It does go both ways.
Aug 08, 2008 Rating
the ag office by: wife of noncustodial parent
They get paid on how much they collect. It is totally unfair. In my case only the divorced kids matter and not mine. The government needs to take both parents income into consideration to decide how much one parent should pay. Good luck.
Jul 22, 2008 Rating
Be glad we have a system at all. by: Anonymous
No system is perfect. Change happens but takes time. Could be worse. Could be much worse. You have the duty to learn your own rights.
Jul 15, 2008 Rating
Male Custodial Parent by: Laurie Kaemmer
Er...
Does this same rediculous crap apply to men that have custody? In other words, do the women get nailed as hard?
Jun 27, 2008 Rating
Enough Said by: Anonymous
I agree, the system needs re-adjusting. Your kind of situation really does tend to make the bitterness take over and not pay just for simple spite. There should be ways they should help instead of being so cold in this issue. I understand the payment part, but it needs to be where both parties can survive. It needs to be more personal, instead of using one law for one person.
Jul 08, 2009 Rating
Whatever! by: Dreamin
My fiance is sitting in jail right now due to past due child support issues. This man sees his child every 2 weeks , without fail.......and usually drives 2 hours plus one way to get him. He was ordered to pay 600 a month a while back when he had a good job but had since lost that good job. My ex husband who is 9800 behind has NEVER spent one day in jail, my fiance is 4000 behind. Why are rules different for each county ? I do not understand why one father can get away with not paying and another can be behind bars? Anyone explain?
