Texas child support laws should be amended.....

by RG
(RGV, Texas)

I am ordered to pay child support to my two sons. My oldest is from a previous marriage and the second is from a long-term girlfriend I had after my marriage ended. I was ordered to pay $375 to my first son at the end of my marriage, based on the salary I was making at the time. I had no problems paying that until I lost my job and had a very hard time finding another. I went two years paying what I could here and there, while building a very large back child support account with interest! My ex wife was patient and understanding. Then my relationship with my girlfriend ended after 4 1/2 years. We had a verbal agreement on support for our son. I would take him every other week, offering 50% support, both financial and emotional. That was until her new boyfriend and family convinced her to take me to court. I was ordered back child support of $9000 because she lied in court. I was also ordered to pay $450 a month, plus an additional $50 to cover back child support. All of my income tax monies go to her because she lied. I mean what kind of crap is that??

I firmly believe that the non-custodial parent should pay child support and help with medical expenses, not held responsible for the whole amount. I also believe that the cost of court should be shared by both parents, and not on the father or mother being taken to court. My ex took me to court, not because I wouldn't agree on an amount, but just to screw me over. I feel that the current system is not as fair as some people make it out to be. Custodial parents should be held accountable for not allowing non-custodial parents visitation as in my case. Modifications should automatically be made when the parent ordered to pay child support has a change in income. This would avoid so many squabbles about money between parents. Because in some cases, a father can go from making a good living to making significant less money. Instead if you don't make enough money to pay what's ordered, they take half...HALF of what you make. How in the hell is anyone supposed to live like that? There are so many moms getting screwed by deadbeat dads who avoid paying at all costs but by the same token, there are SO MANY MORE WOMEN hell bent on getting back at their exes and use the system to do just that. I remember my ex telling me, "I'm going to get you where it's going to hurt the most, your wallet!"

For me, I'm trying my best to get back on my feet, change careers to become a teacher so I can spend more time with my boys, having to live at home with my parents at 35 years old because I have to try and live off of $500 a month because HALF of my income goes to my ex, which doesn't even use all of my child support for my son. Now isn’t that a b%tch!

In the end, it's the kids who suffer because of moms like my ex. Maybe I'm seeing it from one perspective, but the current system in Texas is for the birds and needs to be updated. I have a lot of friends who are single moms and dads and they agree on both sides. The only ones that would oppose are those who are using the system to screw over their exes.

Regardless though, I do everything I can for my boys and always will. I've said my piece.

Peace

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I am all in on some kind of change...
by: Brian

I am a victim of several issues wrong with the AG system. My stories could keep you reading for hours. I always said if I cam into millions I would takle this issue head on. Im all in on change I recommend some of us chat on email and start the ball rolling. We all have different backgrounds so this could really work. The problem I see is that nobody has made a move. We say we need change we b*tch and complain but we do nothing about it but pay and pay. I am in Texas and look forward to talking to anybody over email.....

Brian Emery
bemery@satx.rr.cm

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sick and tired
by: Anonymous

Me and my husband have been victimized by his ex. This girl is Crazy she told the judge that 100 dollars a week isn't enough for her and her 2 kids to. Live off. F.y.I. he only had one kid with her, and she has not had a job in 4 years since putting my husband on child support. We are holding up our end of the bargain, it's not a lot true, but maybe she should get a job and file child support on the secound kids dad Instedd of thinking we are an easy mark.

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-Holcy
by: Anonymous

If you still get on here I am with you Im in the same situation as you!

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What I don't understand?
by: Anonymous

What I don't understand is how the government can monitor every other kind of assistance, food stamps, child care assistance, unemployment benefits...the second your income goes up these benefits are decreased. Why not the same for child support? I am on the other side of the fence. My support was set 7 years ago when my ex husband was unemployed. Now he is at a good job and I've sent in for a modification. Because I had to move to be closer to family, for help, I am expected to drive 2 hours away, and miss a day of work for the hearing that my ex husband's attorney keeps postponing. It must be nice to have the money to hire an attorney, especially being that you pay under $200 a month for 2 children.

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I'm interested
by: Anonymous

I also disagree with the child support system. I think that they should see each case individually, and not just see each case as the "custodial parent" (victim) and "non-custodial parent" (dead-beat). My husband had a son when I met him. He pays $300 a month (supposed to be 20% of his earnings). Supposedly, if he has other children, they lower the percentage. Our son is now 1-year old, they haven't lowered shit. He went to ask for a change the week after our son was born, turned in the Birth certificate(supposed to be part of the procedure), and nothing. He also asked for another modification when he was without work for 2 months, and nothing. He still had to continue paying the same amount even when he wasn't working and with another child. OH!!, but wait, then he qualified for unemployment, and that was garnished immediately. He was getting only $800, enough for nothing. We almost got evicted because he did not receive enough, we starved for a couple weeks, but the ag said they had a work overload and it takes time to get to the modifications. What a sorry excuse. CP is supposed to be for the best interest of the children, what about my 2 children? Their father is in prison, and I get nothing for them What about my husband and my child? A minor deduction of the percentage they take away from him would be enough to buy pampers. I have to limit the amount of times I change him so the pampers can last longer, because we can not afford pampers. Mind you, my husband's son LIVES WITH US!!!!! She only sees him about every other weekned, if she feels like it. We still have to buy him, and clothes, shoes, when he needs things for school. In total, there are 4 children who live with us. His 1, our 1, and my 2. And, when taking it up witht the ag, they say they can do nothing. She is the mother, and unless we can claim her "un-fit" we can't take custody of him. It's so stupid and frustrating. So, if there's a movemnet to change the laws, count me in.

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to Not fair
by: Anonymous

In Texas if you have a lawyer the judge don't care! In Texas we still haven't found a lawyer that will go up against the AG been searching for over 6 months now! Children are looked at as Credit cards (has been said by the AG and was rec.) Non custodial parents especially men are treated like dead beats. I wish the laws could change because Non custodial parents have know rights!!!!

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not fair
by: Amy H

You really need to get a good lawyer and take her back to court. Her income should be factored in also! So many women use their uterus for a paycheck and it makes me sick! The laws are for EVERYONE not just the custodial parent. You have to fight her and don't even think about going in without a lawyer! It will pay for itself in the end. My husband just had his ADULT support (the kid is over 18) reduced by half because I got a lawyer this time. They were taking 400.00 a month and giving him 100.00 a month to live on and then wanted insurance to boot! Fight like hell don't let her rake you through the coals. You have rights too! The court won't let him have custody because she is an 18 year old adult but they want him to pay (child)support!WTF!The system is screwed up so please get a lawyer and get YOUR rights! Good luck
and God Bless You!

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Let's start a movement because I feel your pain
by: Anonymous

Do you know how to begin the process of introducing a new law? I am looking for some people to start a movement with in order to change the child support system. My husband is also a victim of a vindictive x that won't allow him to see his son but he still has to pay child support. I believe if the woman is not allowing visitation then she shoud not get child support. We are in GA and in GA if the child is not legitimized then the non-custodial parent doesn't have any legal rights to visitation but he does have legal rights to pay child support. What kind of B.S. is that? And get this, the mother can contest legitimation but can still receive child support. Isn't that the most ignorant thing? Oh so you can say he is not the baby's father but you still expect him to pay for the baby's care?? So I have been on this site reading about the horrible expereiences of other people, listening to cases where athlethes, rappers - thinking of TI at the moment - and other people have been victimized by their xs because the court sees women as victims. They are not victims and should not be treated as such. I don't know how to begin making a difference but by golly I am ready to try. Any type of assistance you would like to give or advice you would like to give, I am willing to accept it. I will come back to your site to see if you have commented on my post, if you have I will give you my email address. Thanks.
Frustrated enough to make the system change!

I am a parent paying child support myself. If there are any rights that would help the custodial or non-cusotial parent I would be happy to collaborate with you to help parents in need. -Holcy

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Two Sides to every story
by: Anonymous

Child support laws do need to be modified. But how do you determined what is a fair percentage across the board to calculate child support payments. Or if AG office looks at each case on one-on-one and spoke to both sides what they make and what they can live on with their new family and still able to make CS payment for their other children. In my daughters case, it was court ordered for her ex to $170 a month. He did not pay for two years until the AG office enforced the issue with back payment attached. She worked and went to college and things were tough. His CS did not go up when AG office got involved. He was making good money at this time but job hopped making it hard to locate him an obtain CS. Finally the courts increased his CS to $340 month based off 17% as he has another child by another mother. He makes around $3000 a month and complains of unfair CS amounts. He is now married with another child by this wife and they blog "how lets make CS fairer" It works both ways.

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