Texas Child Support-The BIGGEST Shame

by Lisa Harris
(Bedford, TX)

Texas child support laws need to be rewrote. They do not in any way make sure the child has the same standard of living with both parents. It's sad that the custodial parents and the state get to rape the non-custodial parents legally. Texas does not take into account the monetary income/assets of both households that the child shares. So whats the non-custodial parent to do when they have visitation. Well you can't do anything.....No MONEY. You can't buy them anything....No MONEY. You can't take them anywhere....No MONEY. You can barely feed them while they are with you....No MONEY. If it's your second marriage you can't feed yourself or your kids.....No MONEY. The state takes it all and gives it to the custodial parent regardless of weather they need it or not. They are not required to spend it on the children or account for it. Meanwhile, the non-custodail parent still has to pay taxes on it and doesn't get to claim the kids on the income tax even though they are supporting them. The custodial parent doesn't have to work or even contribute anything to the childrens financial status. plus if they get remarried their new household income is not taken into account. They get a free ride no questions asked! The non-custodial parent is stuck trying to support two households.

Why do the custodial parents HAVE to take child support? Because the State of Texas is trying to decrease they're welfare roles. I don't want child support and don't need it. I have far more money than my ex, but the State of Texas insists that I have to take it.....why? You are just causing ill feelins between me and my ex and sending him to the Poor House!!!

Reform child support now! Equalize the Incomes in both houses so the child has the same standard of living wherever they are staying. Let non-custodial parents have a fighting chance at supporting themselves, their ex's and their family's both past and present.

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nothing in the house.
by: ozzy

Went to iraq, when I came back wife is gone and kids too. No number or location to my kids. Ordered to pay 900 dollars a month. Credit cards maxed out and 9000 missing from bank. I have filed for divorce but I still have not seen my children in 11 months. I have never been late on payment but not seen my children why? She moved with another man while I got let with all the bills and a mortagage. I have got hit by her and I have called the cops on her. I have never hit her or thrown into jail. But on this recent child support court she got labeled custodial parent. She is illegal and no driver license. Kids call me saying no food dad. I have to wait again for another child support court. How long will it be until I see my children? Child support not a scam? Really. I am afraid that she will run to Mexico and I will never see my kids.

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You can pay what you want
by: Anonymous

I know someone who did not have to pay 20% of his income to his ex. The two parties agreed with the arrangement.

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A little of both sides.
by: Anonymous

the bad part of this Is I pay close to 1200 dollars a month for one child. I am married and have a second child.
Every month she is asking for more money to buy clothes, or for band camp. I pay all of the deductibles on his medical as well and have him on my company medical as a supplement.
My Ex has 2 more kids from her second marriage since we have been divorced, he ex has 5 or 6 kids that he pays hild support to. guess where the money I pay for child support goes, yet I am made to feel guilty that I want to do something for my youngest son and my wife. I have never missed a payment and everytime she gets upset at me I have to do a revamp on my child support because the state sends me the paperwork, but she never has anything to do with it. She always says this.
i Love my son and I am at a point my son I feel is being used to take care of this woman.
I do not feel Child Support is a sham, but I do feel that certain women use it as a sham..

When we were together our entire paycheck for housing and everything was maybe double this.

Anyway Texas needs to revamp its laws and set them up correctly so that children are taken care of and if a custodial parent has issues with it, they can always give the child to the non custodial parent. I would take my son in a heartbeat and she could even keep the money.

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child support
by: Anonymous

If your husband has lost his job, then thats the attorneys fault for not getting on the ball, you have to notify them of the lost job situation and they will lower the payments it says on the attorney general website.You shouldnt have a problem helping your husband out on his child and for his well being, its not the childs fault. you have to stay on the attorney generals butt even if he has to call everyday.

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Custodial Parents
by: Anonymous

I am so sick of this child support argument. It takes two parents to make a baby! BOTH should have to provide financially and emotionally. What about parenting. Most fathers are just happy to write the check to make the ex-wife shut up. Many fathers are afraid for the kids to come over, call, etc. Because of the drama of gimme gimme. If only JUSTICE could be served to the parent who causes drama, and creates a hostile enviornment for the children. It's not about YOU! Don't children deserve to live drama free. Think about this the next time you tell you child to call the non-custodial parent asking for a check. Of BASH and interrogate.

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100% agree
by: Anonymous

i agree 100% its rediculois that a father that actually pays on time every month, gets classified as a dead beat dad. My husband lost his job a year ago yet we still have to pay 800 for one child so where is the money coming from me. yeah and im not the one that spit that kid out.However my husband did find another job but the attorney is not getting on the ball with the support to get it lowered. Unfair!! when the child comes to stay with us we still have to support him and all his needs, and pay child support.

Truth of the matter is they stick it to the fathers regardless of there other family, or income.

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WHATEVER
by: Anonymous

Oh i agree on the attorney generals part, yes the mother should encourage the child to see the father, i try to encourage my daughter, but we live 450 miles apart and when the child wants to stay home and do activities and stay with her friends, the father needs to make time to come visit every now and then, he has only been down once and we have lived her 4 yrs. Im sure in the hell not greedy by no means, so you dont know every situation. everyone is different. If i didnt have attorney general he would not pay. He cant even send money for medical when i send a reciept, so not every father gets screwed, sometimes its the mother and we would still be together if he would have kept a job and not run around on me either, so maybe yours is differnt!!

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man haters?
by: Dawn

I so agree tat the Texas State attorney generals office is CORRUPT. It is not about the good of the children or encouraging good family relationships. It is as if they are TRYING to tear families apart. I believe if I was in a situation where I did not NEED the support and the state INSISTED that he pay it anyway...I would give the support right back to him when I received it. That way he would get credit for it and still have enough money to have a great time with our child. I would do it to spite the system! Refuse to let the system tear your family apart. I am so frustrated with trying to talk to these people in the attorney generals office.It seems as if they are a bunch of man haters.

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child support
by: Anonymous

I agree on some things, but if the non custodial parent losses a job, the support can be lowered. and yes the non custodial parent should pay child support, it doesnt matter how much they make. Do you people know how expensive it is to raise a child and pay for activities and clothes. My child support is not even half of those things that add up. So think about it. My daughter is 12 she is in gymnastics and cheerleading. hell that isnt even enough to cover that crap, not even the clothes shoes school supplies, help put a roof over their head or food. KNow come on. what about when they start driving, you think about ins, a vehicle, gas, ohh what about college, i wont get no support for that. They go by custodial parents income. well if we make to much, guess what i have to pay for her college.

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Let's change Child Support Laws in Texas!
by: Anonymous

Yes---I agree with some of what is being said on child support issues. But remember---it takes two, to make a baby. It is not just the fathers fault. They are usually the ones getting raped by the Attorney General. The State of Texas needs someone to change some of these ignorant laws. Put the shoe on the other foot---if the people that make these laws had to live and go through what others endure -- I guarantee they wouldn't like it either. The mothers should have to show where some of this support money is going. Or why doesn't the AG put a percentage of this money towards a college education for the child? The dad has to show and prove everything, why does this not apply to the mother? I know someone that only sees his daughter when she wants to see him, not when he is supposed to have her. Why doesn't the mother make or encourage the child to visit her father. She can't wait to get her child support money, but she does nothing to see that the father is geting to see his daughter when he is supposed to. Then when he gets behind -- he is threatened with going to jail. No one threatens the mother. The father has to hire an attorney to file contempt on the mother if she is not abiding by the court order, but the mother gets FREE HELP FROM THE ATTORNEY GENERAL. Where is the JUSTICE??? If a father is working and trying to support his children, the AG needs to leave him alone and stop threatening JAIL. There are some fathers out there that aren't doing anything, give credit to the ones that are, and put a STOP to OVER GREEDY MOTHERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Solution?
by: Anonymous

As a non-custodial dad, I don't see Texas Child Support as a scam but it is flawed. If a man fathers a child, he should be responsible for financially supporting that child. The biggest problem is that it doesn't recognize the financial gap between the custodial and non-custodial households. If a NC parent is deemed "Involved" by the courts, then BOTH parents should be required to pay child support to each other. That would level household incomes, keep either parent from being at a financial disadvantage and theoretically get both parents more involved in raising the child.

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where's the justice?
by: Anonymous

Let's see here... I pay $870 a month for one child, When I was together with the ex, I hardley dished out that much raising my daughter. Now I am HAPPLY married and just had another child. My income was based on a year were I had alot a bonuses, which I won't ever see again due to the recent oil spill in the gulf. The trash ex is driving around in a brand new car, while everytime I see my daughter, I end up buying her more clothes. There has to be a way where the other parent has to provide receipts on what they are spending my hard earn working money on. It's so hard to see all your money go on your ex's boyfriends toys... has to be a way.... this is america, wheres the justice? My income is around 60k now, and I have to provide for my family I have now... where's the justice?! I don't want to stop paying, I just want to know that my money is going to my daughter, not to a new car or a night out on the town...

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i agree 150 percent
by: Anonymous

my ex husband is a teacher making 3600 clear a month. I am clearing 2000 a month yet pay 880 a month in child support. he lives the high life. demonizes me to my kids and has no worries as to where i am going to get 300 bucks for an emergency visit he just decided to go to emergency room because he didnt want to bother with the doctor that i am having to pay. i never see my teenage girls and he is busy buying new cars every year.. I think the law needs to change it needs to be based on the needs of the children and not the needs of the custodial parent. my ex got 50K of my 401k. the house, all the furniture and part of my social security when i die...he will never be hurting for money. it is ridiculous

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Its unfair
by: keep it real

What happen to being responsible and handling your business. Ive been on both sides of the situation. You make a excellent point. How does a non-custodial parent suppose to survive? If your a custodial parent how would you feel if soomeone is taking 20-50% of your earnings. My husband pays $1600 a monthe for 3 cases on child support and works construction. If a job is complete or they have a layoff and he has to get unemployment til another job comes through, does his payment change? NO. Being a custodial parent if my sons dad doesnt want to help raise our son, forget him, Im woman enough to do it on my own. When is child support gonna start being CHILD support and not CUSTODIAL parent support.

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child support
by: Anonymous

I believe the non custodial parent needs to pay child support, to help raise the children and out a roof over their head and feed them, the custodial parent should not be responsible for everything. ANd also everybodys case is different. My case the non custodial parent has not paid for medical ins. i pay for it all and he jumps from job to job so i get support here and there. yes he sees our kid. on his visitations. why should the custodial parent be responsible for everything!!!

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Another loving father who cannot support his son
by: Paul in Fort Worth

I commend you on what you say and wholeheartedly agree. I am a now single but share joint custody of our now 7 year old son with his mother. I have been paying $600 a month since he was 4. I never have money to do anything with him and must have roommates to have a house that I can still barely afford . I have to pay for his medical insurance and am not able to claim him on taxes. In the divorce papers the only difference is I get him 17 days a month and she gets him 19. As well as she picks the primary school and residence (hers). Answer me why... I pay x amount of $s to her that I have never heard where it goes and she has never been accountable for when I have to account for everything (which is not much). In fact I had to file for bankrustcy and owe the IRS now because I had to pay child support when I did not have roomates. Texas CS laws must be changed. Men are not all dead-beat fathers... Some of us love our children and can still barely provide for them... even though we have then 2 less days a month... Hopefully in the upcoming election a change will take place. I can tell you now that I am NOT voting for anyone who has already had a chance for reform. - I wish everyone luck and lets keep the word going and maybe we can get something done!

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this dad never recieved dime
by: Anonymous

Tis dad got divorced bac in 1977 in missouri, my kids were 4 and 5 years old..the ex paid not one dime....now on with it...ever heard of CROOKS, if not look at the child support SCAM.. average dad with average working man wage, gets stuck with child support in the case iam speaking of is 385.00 per month, He is forced to pay and if he dont he goes to jail,on the other hand the ex "wife' recieves, yet she does not have to account for anything as to where the money went. she could be supporting a "john" cell phone gas to cruise eating out..if the dad is force to pay, the the ex should be force to give account as to where it went..MAY THE LAW WRITTERS OF THIS UN JUST LAW ASK GOD TO FORGIVE THEM...i could and want to say more but I wont...how much money is sent in by dads each month? 2 million if that money sits in the gov. hands for 2 days...how much money did the gov. make off of this scam...damn them to hell

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CHILDSUPPORT INJUSTICE
by: Anonymous

I feel the Texas child support enforcement should do some investigation in my husbands case.His ex-wife filed for childsupport on their two kids a month before their daughter turned eightteen.Now he is stuck paying for arrears on two adults.She filed only when we decided to have a child also. He has been paying since 1998. His kids by her are 29 and 31 yearsold. the ag claims its arrears and will not even give my husband a chance to explain that the their minor children at the time lived with us since they were 14. My husbands son came to live with us when he was fourteen and his daughter was 16. How can this woman go and claim she has right to childsupport?Where was my husbands childsupport? They had a mutual agreement out of court. Never did childsupport issue come up until a month before their daughter turned eighteen. She claims that she didnt have anything to do with it,but they just dont go after the father not unless the mother pursues it. If anyone has any information on what my husband can do to fight this injustice it would be greatly appreciated. my e mail is Tammydavis7113@yahoo.com Also she claims that it cant be stopped due to it being arrears. the ag also informed us that we would have to come to Texas to fight this.Where is the justice for a man THAT has supported his children?

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Really
by: Anonymous

My ex and I divorced and I got custody of the kids. She pays $240 a month in child support. She gets a new car every year. I have the same one that we had when we got a divorce. She has money to do all sorts of things with the kids. I scrap by month to month. I have a really good job but still have the same bills that we had when we were married. Every case is different. I really hate when people ASSUME that child support is a scam. If it is, then, why do I not receive more money. I work hard everyday to give my kids what they have.

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Not true
by: Anonymous

I know personnelly that my husband has cistody of his children since the ex walked out on them. She has a good job and she does not pay child support. When they got a divorce and figured out the custody he told the county that he did not want child support. They said that was find but that he could not go back on it later. I think what he did was a good thing. He is able to support his children on his own and the state did not make him force her to pay.

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SOME PARENTS DONT HAVE TO PAY CHILD SUPORT
by: Anonymous

I know personally of a case of my family member that DOES NOT have to pay child support. The father has custody of the kids and he agreed he did not need child support from her. He had a personal lawyer draw up the papers and she and the judge signed off. It has been since 2002 and she never has had to pay child support.

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really it not a shame
by: Anonymous

State of texas is so backward.Ok u put the man in jail still no support.U put the man in jail for 2yr And still no support.Tax dollar is feed the man that not paying support and want give the women the help to feed the kids,In texas its still dam with the systems.

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Wow thas the best description i've ever heard!
by: Anonymous

The goverment has to under stand that every case in very different from each other, they can set a base but have to analize every case very difrently.
I do belive they have to rewrite this whole law it sucks!

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WOW, I can't beleave what I am reading
by: Larry of Tucso Arizona

WOW, I must say you are the first costodial parent I have read that is getting child support who can see that child support is a SCAM ran by our government. They are trying to decrease there welfare role but don't realize they are trading one families walfare to force another to go on walfare, in which most cases they will not be able to get on welfare because they will say he makes to much (not counting child support payments). Wow I must say you are a good person who is not motivated by greed like most others. The child support divisions need to hea from people like yourself who also beleave that these laws are unfair and unjust. I can't blame it all on the custodial parents they just see an oppertunity to be set for life on someone elses back with the government leading the way. I beleave if it is all about money and supporting your child then why don't they just leave the children with the parent who can support them the best,finacially and emotionally at least until the other parent gets there sh** together then split it 50/50 (everything, time, money, living, etc.) the military has been doing it to families for years. Keep it up. You should read my post "No One Wants the Child Support" it's eve crazier.

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Simple/ Agreement
by: Jay Nonymous

Ok, To the person who wrote this...Just because they make your ex pay doesnt mean you have to keep it. If you feel so strongly about it, GIVE IT BACK TO HIM. Secondly, I commend the state for trying to make the other parent responsible but I do believe the custodial parent should have say. I put my ex on child support to get help from the state. HE HASN'T DONE ANYTHING. So I figure Im supporting my child on my own and I dont even want him on support. Im paying for everything my child needs and Im going back to school so I can provide a better future for my child and NOT be on support.

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Crazy people
by: Anonymous

Those of here that are against Child support are plain ignorant. No matter what everything should be split 50/50. A man cant just pregnant a woman and run, he needs to take care of his responsibility.

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