Texas Laws and suffering children

My daughter is now 8 years and has had a mental break down. I made her angry by refusing to marry him when I was 3 months pregnant. He left and never heard from him. I worked 3 jobs and was a single mom of 2 boys already. I had to be put on state insurance to finish out my pregnancy so they went after him. I have never asked him for money I am a strong woman and will make it on my own. Well she was fine until 6 yrs ago and court order visitiation he decides he wants her in his life. I had to let her see him. He would visit her 5 mins at time out of his 2 hour visits. He saw her 3 times so a total of 15 mins. Then he asked me to meet to her to toys r us so he can take her Christmas shopping so I did. He than called my cell and told her that he was running behind and he would be there in 30 mins and go ahead and pic out what she wanted he had 500.00 for her. She did and he never showed up and he never called again.


It destoryed and hurt her so bad my 6 yr old child shut down and had to see a therapist. Here I am upset I failed her as a mother. I am never going to let it happen again to her. Now on her 8th birthday he calls and she hates him. The oag says he has rights as her father and I will be in contemped if I refuse him visitation. So us as parents are responsible for our childrens saftey and wellbeing. I let her make her mind up on this and now I am on the run evading jail for contempt. Really she made her mind up and told him herself. I am told my child has a right to know her father, but yes she does and she does not want to.

So as her right under our federal law she has rights to as an american. I had to hold her for 9 hours and tell her I promise nothing is gonna happen to you. All she could do is cry and say please dont let them make me go. I am not going to make my child fell afraid. 8 yrs the state had me play by their rules and never forced his duty to help me finacially and I never asked cause I was doing fine. I cried as my lil girl blew her birthday candles out and wished for him to go away he can chose his kids so I can chose my daddy. God I pray to you for help. How as a parent can force her? Parents can be charged for endangerment, neglect, and abandonment cause they did not stand up to protect them from mental and physical harm, now when I do I am going to jail. So where is the justice for her? All you mouthy people put there think us women want money and you really have no idea.

We want our children to be happy and complete. All my lil girl wanted was a father and now this. I will protect her If I get caught they still will not get her. I never asked for money and I never will. I have told the state when she is safe I will turn myself in but I will be there until she is 18 cause I was her mother and I am going to protect her for life. So please dead beat fathers feel the burdern whatever. You cannot pick when u are parent children are smart and have hearts and souls too. Let them selfish childish men have their money, the state will never get it for you and the state does not truly have a clue on what is best for your child only you do. So when I have her safe and happy all you think of how she feels about losing the only parent who has been there.

I had to tell her where I was going and why cause I am never going to bend the truth for her. Every morning she says blessings thanking God I am here another day. But with all this I know when she is a mom she will put her kids first. I tear up when she says I have the best of everything, momma I know you love you cause you are doing this for me. Thank you and God will help us I know. So men as long as I live and breath never call yourself a daddy unless you truly earned it. And I pray that one day the state and absent parents relize you are hurting part you and in the end the children know how you are and they suffer.

But I have to say to all that say we just gold diggers for fancy houses cars, my children will never be bought and I got by on my own and tought my kids to give to less furtuned people and I am at peace with my life and we the world needs more giving people and than things will be right. Money is just tool to ease your childrens suffering temporally what they want is a parent who shows them love, safety, and happiness. And do to the nature of words my daughter used to her father I cannot post her feelings on here so you could understand how she feels. But thinks for your time I hope you all go home and love your kids and family hold them tight and hope they know you love them cause you never know when the last hugs and kisses and mommy I love you is. And to the woman who is bashing us real mothers here I pray your kids never hear it cause if their parent is gone and u on your own they will not respect you cause you are not ever going to be strong enough to fight for them as you should. Thanks for listening guys I hope things get better for you all and may God give you a blessed day and peace for your children and loved ones. And Texas OAG get your laws staight for the children not for you to get rich.

I am a mother, and a father the protector for mine I know my children know whats best for them not me or you. I have asked for years to leave us alone and my daughter does not need no more. Whats best is the absent parent to stay gone so the child never has to feel unwanted or like they are burden. Your not God so stop playing with the hearts and souls of precious children.

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Feb 19, 2011
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grudge
by: Anonymous

for one this story has a few glitches , first of all she refused marrying the dead beat father when she was 3 month pregnant, but yet she is full of anger,for him leaving. then only letting him see the child only 5 min.sounds like she is holding some grudge, and what really gets me mad is who told this child that her mom was going to jail if she didnt see her father, i believe the mother has been brain washing this child and telling this child everything the father says to a point that the child doesnt want to see him........i have children and my ex is not perfect we fight and i dont share my believes to my children about their dad..because i love them and to avoid any psycological problems for them.thats me..

Oct 15, 2010
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Think About why Cildren are suffering
by: Rjamison331@yahoo.com

I have not explored the laws of Texas, I do know the Attourney General office accepts anything that's said to them, with out investigating the situation.

I do believe that children should not suffer,but at the hands of the system things would not get any better. The Courts and support system, are taring up families and cuasing non costodial parents to give up what they work for on sometimes false allegations.

Example, If a woman has a child in a friendly encounter. She know nothing about the person or she does, it is her choice to have the child. If she and the donor don't agree why make the child suffer or the next person, and this is what has been going on for years. This is why the system is flooded with so many cases, that the ones that need the attention don't get it. To much inventory, so it become get rid of it. If there are 25 cases for that one room they can only take 20-25minutes per case unless theres a lawyer involved. And here comes the game, money making deal if you can afford a lawyer then you can afford to play.

This is why women so smart and dominate, need to teach their little Earth's the true meaning of seed planting. Once it's planted it is going to take a long term watching it grow fully and that become responsibilaty.

The key to this situation is women, you must be honest with your selves and what's the reason. You already know the outcome when you got in the situation, and men as well. It took you the effort to get it rather it was paid or rap fore, we must make conscience decissions for that child. Meaning it's not always two there are always choices in what's the next step.

I know personaly, I have been cheated twice. and paying for it through this monsterouse system, My first situation began with three wonderful boys that was taking from me by this woman and her many relationships, I had fathers come up to me you know those are not yours. I'm laying in the bed one night and one of the other father kick in the door, she ran to the kids room and told me tell him I'm not hear. The last straw was I had a gun to my head by her new man telling me to leave her alone she does not want to be bothered and I knew that those children was not mine and she was there. Don't you know after she went down to child support and to this day I'm paying for it. And my second time you can read about it, DO I Have Rights, All I'm trying to say not all of you women are like that I know as well I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter and a handsome 13 year old son that play football. on his way to a scholarship for highschool, and both my children go to Catholic school. So with all of my pain and these other two women just taking from me the ones that I have bring me life, though I can't afford to much because what the system and the other women done to me I know with these two I'm bless so much that I sometimes cry. So think about why these children are suffering

Oct 14, 2010
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Not the only one....
by: Anonymous

I am a single parent of a beautiful baby girl, she is 2 and my miracle baby, born on Valentine Day. Her "donor"...is what i call him because, he has not earned the right to be called "daddy". He left us when i was in my last stages of pregnancy. I had 4 weeks to go, but by my 2nd week i had to go in and have educed labor because of my high level of stress that effected my baby. I was busy worrying about the dead beat and it effected her and there for coming into this world 2 weeks early. Long story short, he left us for a married woman, to another state. Contacted us the first year 3 times, seen her those three times, swore up and down to always be with us and care for us. OH!! Didn't mention he has 3 other kids, a daughter fr. 1stlady, and 2 from ex-wife. So he says his "kids" are important and his world. I have encountered many unbroken promises to his other kids, so knowing his history, i finally swore to myself and for the sake of my daughters feelings, i don't want her to go through those heartbreaks, unbroken promises, hopes, and wishes of ever having that deadbeat as a father. He recently started contacting again and again promised to be there and support us. But once he got that call, he was out of here in a heart beat with that woman again. Didn't think about the feelings and emotions i had to go through again and just left his kids with unbroken promises to be with that woman again. I am so glad my daughter does not know him to ask for him and cry, but i will never see her go through that and watch her heart break and ask me questions of "why daddy isn't here or wants her". I filed a restraining order to have him stay away, he as put me through so much hurt, abuse, and lies. So with that he is ordered to pay child support and to stay away for 5 years. He says he has rights of a father, but no where in the 2 years of my daughters life has he ever tried to provide. After having my daughter, I ended up with no job, no money, no home, and no where to go. I moved back to my mom's rested for 4 months, went back to school, got my AA in a year and now i have a job. I was not happy living off of welfare, food stamps and donations. I had to work my ASS OFF to provide for my daughter. With that said, its paid off because i no longer live off assistance and my daughter is happy. I don't have to hear her ask about "daddy" or question me why he didn't show up, In couple of years i will leave that decision up to her, right now i just want her to be happy and content to know she has a strong working mom who loves her and will do anything for her. So to those who think we "single mothers" are just after money BS!! We could do with out and show that, but we have to play by the rules too. To all the single moms and dads, be strong and don't let no one get you down or say otherwise, its is us that make our childrens world turn when they are loved, cared for and most of all WANTED!!

Oct 14, 2010
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I am soo sorry
by: Anonymous

Your ex is a peice of crap. I am a father thats is no way like that. He is the definition of a dead beat peice of crap. I only wish my ex was more like you. She was and is just a gold digger and kept me away from my daughter for 13 years while I still paid child support. All I can say is our child support system is realy screwed up they seem to only go after the fathers like myself who love, cherish and care about there children. The real dirt bag, dead beat fathers are the ones that get away with sh** like what you are going through. How can he do that to his fleash and blood, especially his daughter. I would kill to get back the 13 years I lost with my daughter because her mother was only thinking about herself. WOW I am floored by your ex and his frame of mind. Good luck and please let your daughter know that all fathers are not like that. And I cry in my heart for what she has had to go through.

Oct 14, 2010
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There Are Three Sides To A Story
by: Rjamison331

I Agree with this independent strong woman, from the way you have scripted your endevours. No if the child was agreed upon, then it should be no way that this man should not take care of his child. Unless he is unfortunate mentaly and physicaly, Like you have stated you have used the service when there was no other means. But there are other women that use the out dated system as a come up for their own selfish purpose, and this is what the concerns are about. By the system taking from that parent or puting the person in arrears only causes fustration to the injured person, making them a void in the childs life. Unfair but this is what the system have caused for many of parents that they call (Dead Beats) and when this accur, it become painful do to the fact. The court system was not involved when everything was going good.It's funny that you responded from Texas, that is where the woman I'm trying to fight my case on. Fled too, and went to the Attourney General office there with her lies of abuse and threats. We had no commitment, and in fact I don't know what she like or dislike. But there is always 3 sides of a story, you see how that works.

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