Texas Military Mom

by Milgrl3
(WF, Texas)

I am military and stationed and a resident of Texas. I have 2 children with my ex-husband who lives in Indiana. I am the non-custodial parent. I wanted divorce while I was stationed in Korea while he had the kids in Indiana. He filed for divorce (in IN) the day after I returned to get my kids in Indiana to take them with me to Texas. We agreed on no child support and we would have joint custody. Since I am military, he would have primary custody in case I deployed. In June of '08 my kids came to Texas to live with me and did not return to their dad until June of '09. In August of '09 he filed for custody and I counter sued for full custody.


My ex-husband has had 2 DUIs and no high school diploma or GED. The Indiana court system awarded him with full custody and over 1100 dollars a month in child support! I would like to take him back to court and try again, but now that I am paying so much in child support, I had to get a second job. Since Indiana now has jurisdiction, I cannot take him to court in Texas.

I have now re-married and my new husband has a son from another marriage that he has full custody of. My Stepson's mother does not pay a penny of child support for her son so we are forced to live poor. Even though I make a comfortable living in the military, and should have plenty of money, I can't afford to even put gas in my car!

On paper, I make too much to get government aid to get food stamps, so because of my ex-husband, we live life as poor people.

There is nothing wrong with me except for the fact that I made a bad decision to trust my ex-husband with the promise that he would never file for child support or custody. I have a diploma, 2 college degrees, in the military for almost 13 years, and never been arrested for anything. We live in a gated community, and each child has their own bedroom and a fenced in backyard.

Don't get me wrong, I have no problem paying for my children because I love them and they are my responsibility. But when my ex-husband gets a second DUI in less than 4 years not even a month after getting the first check, I think I know where that money is going to.

I wish that there was a waiver for jurisdiction for military since IN is not my home of record, TX is. My oldest son was born in the same town I am living in now, and my youngest was born in NC (where I was born). So neither one of my kids are originally from IN. I am stuck between a rock and a hard place and have no where to turn.

I pray that when my ex-husband has his sentancing hearing for his second DUI, that they will give him the maximum time in prison. (1 year) In Indiana, a 2nd DUI in less than 5 years is a Felony! If he goes to jail for that long, I can file for jurisdiction down here and I know I will win, because Texas is not a corrupt state like Indiana is. They will see that I am a responsible, fit parent who loves her children and wants what is best for them.

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WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
by: Anonymous

WE NEED MORE COMMENTS EVERYONE. THIS IS GOOD THERAPY AND EDUCATIONAL! :-)

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No, no, no...Texas is horrible!
by: Anonymous

Child support is broke in Texas. The children are not priority. Texas makes it impossible for the father to have a life and pay child support. Modification is impossible. Attorney General's office talks to fathers like they are criminals. They would rather have my ex get fake nails and a nice hair do, rather than allowing me a little extra to come down for more frequent visits.

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I can relate
by: Anonymous

I am in the same boat as you in a sense.
My ex-husband made my child say that I molested him to retaliate against me for leaving and filing an attempted rape charge against. He is a retired Naval Chief and a disgrace to this country. He has beaten all of his children. One is homosexual, due tot he abuse, one is a prostitute and dancer, and my 13 year old wants out. i have been fighting for Sole Custody for two years and the Burnet County Sheriff's Office supports the abuser. They have done nothing but try to prosecute me for fighting for the safety and welfare of my child. My last attorney withdrew from my case, and I have hired another to clean up the mess. My son has been physically, mentally, and emotionally abused for years by this man. he beat me out of my hoem and is now taking his anger out on the adult daughter in his home and my 13 year old. Pray that this gets resolved soon. I also pay child support and he used the money for drugs and alcohol. I can definitely relate. Hope that we prevail. Good luck!

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Sorry but No
by: Anonymous

Sorry for everything you are going thru I understand how you feel. On the other hand..NO, sorry Texas not corrupted sorry but NO. I live in Texas and my child support is very corruptted. Hope things get better for you.

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