The Attorney General office is interfering with my parental rights!
by Akilah Parks
(Sacramento, Ca USA)
The father of my son has been hiding him from me for the past five years. I am the biological mother and he refuses to provide an address, phone number, or any visitation schedule. Me and my family have gone broke paying for a lawyer and private investigator.
Now he wants back child support when he is refusing me visitation or any contact with the child. I tried to explain to the child support officer that i want to reimburse the state for any monies incurred from my son being on the state medical and food stamps programs. However, I told him i was very uncomfortable paying money to a man who is actively hiding my son from me. The father has removed him school, when I go and visit, and has even brought in someone to help him.
He has remarried and this women is helping him hide my son in a different school district. She disenrolled him from the elementary that I, and the father, enrolled him in. She places him in a new school telling them that she is the boys mother and that I am the deranged woman attempting to kidnap the child. This is not a case of child or spousal abuse and their are no drugs in either homes. We seperated because of religion and I left him because he didn't want me to earn my own money or complete college.
I attempted to represent myself in court and file my own paperwork but its like I'm a nobody to the courts. They lost my paperwork but remembered to cash the check for fees and left me in a lurch with Child Support court.
This man disappeared with my son and left me an email address. Which he has since cut off because I refuse to pay him $10k in child support.
He told me if i paid him the money then i can have one visit with my son. Everytime I offered him money in the past he refused saying he didn't want me to have the address and that he wanted $1k per month or nothing.
His apartment is in his wife's name and sometimes under his sister and he is constantly changing phones. He has gone to child support to request the $10k in back child support plus future child support payments. I don't want to pay a man who is actively alienating me from my child! My son does know my name or where i live but i keep emailing my contact information in hopes, that my son will contact me.
He is only ten but maybe he'll sneak and call me.
The Attorney General sent me a letter today saying i need to be in court on the 22nd to assess child support. I have requested that The 255th Family Court provide me with a lawyer because Free Legal Services cannot help me and i have no money to pay a retainer. I have received no confirmation of my request. I was going to call the child support officer to see if my request had been filed but, I realized he was using the information i willingly gave him against me. He didn't care. I have all my reciepts of travel, my sons school records, and hostile emails sent to me by the new wife. I don't know what else to do because i can't make him accept money from me or give me an address. I also can not force him to call or write me to tell me how my son is doing or even let the child contact me.
My only hope is a strong lawyer who will protect my parental rights. The Attorney General was able to get their paperwork filed fast. Me? I'm still waiting on the District Clerk to confirm that my motions have been filed. I call every two days to inquire but the receptionist looks around her office for about forty minutes and even goes upstairs to check but eventually comes back to tell me that paperwork is pretty backed up on their desks. That it is probably somewhere in the piles of mail and that when she finds them she can call me back. She never does.
I honestly thought the Child Support officer would stop procedings once he realized that I, the biological mother, had been alienated from my child. He told me the law does not recognize alienation and that no such law exists. When i told him i was unwilling to give money to a person who actively absconding with my child he replied,"Are you saying you don't want to support your child?" He was incredibly loud over the phone and I attempted to keep a professional voice with him but i eventually began to cry. I didn't understand why he couldn't help me find my son? He even led me to believe that my sons address would be in the letter he would send out from the attorney generals office but there was no address for my son.
I couldn't sue the father if i wanted to. I don't have an address for him and the courts do not find people for you. So thats why i believe The Attorney Generals office is unintentionally interfering with my parental rights by possibly ensuring that i won't have the income or a clean record needed to ensure employment.
The Child Support worker is just doing his job. He has a script and knows little of family law or Constitutional Rights but is given the power to ruin a person financially because they owe child support. It is a machine! Human nature and emotion do not apply.
255th Family Court