The State of Texas on Child Support are worse then the Mafia

by Broke in Dallas
(Dallas,Texas)

My x lived in another state She moved to Texas for 6 months and moved again and again. She filed child support which I paid to her in another state and came directley from my pay check. I had a car accident and was not working for nine(9) months so I got behind.


The State of Texas arrested me put me on probation,community service, classes, and dues of 150.00 per month and charged me with a felony and now I owe 40,0000 dollars in back child support? All the payments to her I made for 15 years they said do not count. I have paid and paid not to go to jail. My kids are grown and have been for three years now.

The interest paid to Texas is as much as the payment. My lawyer was a work of art and as bad as the system this was his negociation or go to jail. After I paid him $3000.00 so he can throw me under the bus. I have tried to get help but as lawyers go they always want there $3000.00 up front (like I have it to give) Wish I did.
So seeing that Texas is taking 70% of my income here I am broke and working for the State of Texas.

How is this legal I do not know. Keep in mind the system is made of of nothing but lawyers and do not help anyone but there own pocket books on our misery. Why is it they these women do not have to work? How much of ths money goes to the children and not there shopping sprees and cars and there new husband who enjoys your hard work and money while you live like a homeless person
I feel the State is out of control and they act as if they are Hitler. They are not helping anyone but the State so they can justify there jobs and salary's (because "they are helping the poor mothers"

The money should go to a fund for the children and used for there needs. I sorry isn't that what this is all about? So here is hw it goes the State of Texas makes as much as the worthless mothers who are to lazy to work and the State of Texas wins lottery off every man who made the mistake of having children with a worthless lazy -----who figured out the system.

Something needs to be done for the men in Texas when it comes to child support. Maybe make the women get a job and not live off welfare and wait for the check in the mail. I did not make these children alone and there care should not be ALL on me. Maybe a fund of 300.00 per month from the mother and 300.00 from the dad and they the mothers can go jail if they do not pay. The fund should go directley to the children and the money in vouchers for the childs needs not the mothers needs. A card with there identy like a debit card for certain items. That would mean the State wuld have to earn there money and think of a better sysytem. God no, you mean a government worker actually has to work? The system has to be changed not designed for the State to make money off anyone. I have not been a dead beat dad and feel this is being run like a dictatorship.

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texas vers wiscoson
by: Anonymous

if you think tx is bad try wisconson no pay for 120 days = class j felony thats 3.5 years in prison no pay for 1 year = 11.5 in jail and the women there know this & take big time advantige of it it,s better then welfare pay or prison

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texas does suck when it comes to child support..
by: Anonymous

I have a 7 year old.. his father lives in georia. I file child support here as this is my home state and i can tell you from a mothers side it was the worst mistake i ever made. I am letting my son go to Ga this summer as i do every summer only difference is he will be attending school there afterwards. I have called and begged the oag to drop my case, bit because he has Medicaid they tell me no. So when my son leaves in june iam dropping it going to theoag and demanding it be dropped. Then i will be moving to Oklahoma. I truly hope things are better for you. That is so stupid. My husband now pays child support on his 2 sons in tx when the payment doesnt even go to the person they live with.just so you know we are not all lazy gold diggers. Good luck to the lady that commented too!

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reply to the reply to my comment: bringing it back to reality
by: Anonymous

Let me address the private school part. All private schools are not good for the child basically some limit their social skills. It is in Virginia and for one it is a Christian school who's religious belief does not even go along with either her or mine. Second sometimes like in this case your child would benefit best in a private school. I am a christian and graduated from a Christian school. But I can tell you first hand most are not worth the dime you pay. Now I live in Katy Texas and drive a school bus as one of my jobs for Katy ISD which was ranked just a few years ago as one of the top three school districts in the nation. If you look up that Christian school and what they were ranked just in Virginia well you might want to start looking at around 1000 or so before you would find it. She has pulled this mess before with a psychologist in getting me to pay for something not needed.

It seems to me that your ex might definately fit the dead beat figure. But I tell you I am not. My ex like I said cost me $4000 that with interest rose to over $12,000 but I am just about caught up now. Sometimes you have to realize that yes a human Judge does and can make a mistake like one told me but you still need to pay even if you know that amount is not done fairly. I am a disabled veteran. The compensation we get no matter how small or large it is by law cannot be used to calculate child support unless and only unless that money is used or paid as retirement pay. In other words if that is their only source of pay. Well I had a Judge that could have cared less about any law. So my child support was as if I was making over $40,000 and had two kids. I did get that Judge dismissed off any future case of mine. He was a complete jerk to say it mildly.

Good luck to you I hope and pray it all works out for you, I have been going to courts because of these issues for last 10 years and she involves our son in the court cases. That is pathetic.

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reply to the reply to my comment: bringing it back to reality
by: Anonymous

I never said all guys are deadbeats. But fellas, you CANNOT withhold child support because you don't agree with or don't know where it goes. If the judge orders you to pay it, you need to pay it. If you don't, you're a dead beat. The least he could do is come to me to pick up and drop off the child...but nope. He just wants to screw me over and make things hard any way he can. I really think he's hoping I'll hand over the child if I get too strapped for money....clearly he doesn't know me at all.

I wish I could say that I was withholding visitation, but I don't. The idiot just keeps neglecting to show up. I'm not gonna wait all day, or cancel my whole life because he doesn't want to read the final orders. We're ordered to meet in public, bc of his DV past...I keep receipts from when he doesn't show :)

And beyond that, I get that your ex lied. Not all of us are after money. The jerk is only supposed to pay $220 a month, and has been behind for 8 months now. I'm filing for modification with the enforcement, and I'm not including an increase, even though I could probably get it.

Besides all that: why would you NOT want to pay for half the educational expenses? It's your kid, if she has him in a private school, you should be happy he's getting a decent education. I assure you it's not just to get money from you: the kid benefits from it.

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Let's bring this back to reality reply
by: Anonymous

Look I think many are grossly misled. Not every man is a dead beat just because they owe child support and not every woman is trying to take their ex to the bank however the later is more true than the first. I have been told by Texas OAG that the dads that pay and have jobs and are legal pay for all the dead beats, so that is why most dads that owe anything are considered dead beats, and that is just not so. It is and should be a case by case basis. I owe because my ex lied on a federal document called a child support worksheet that she was paying so much for child care when that was a lie and instead it was for a private school which the Judge cannot make you pay. Also remember that child support is completely separate from visitation. In other words just because he or she does not pay child support does not give a woman or man to limit the non custodial parent the visitation with child.

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Let's bring this back to reality
by: Anonymous

You mentioned shopping sprees, cars, and new husbands? Let's try this on for size.

My son is only 2, the custody agreement is less than a year old, and already my ex is over a $1000 behind. I don't see this coming to an end any time soon. His gf posted that it's because I "want more money to NOT spend on his son". Lets dissect this a bit:

I pay rent, I pay electricity, I put gas in the car, food on the table, running water, etc. I am a full time student, so no I don't "work" in the traditional sense. I just stay up all night studying so I can get into grad school...so I can provide for my son alone, since his father refuses. What about paying all these bills doesn't go to the child? And this is all BESIDES the diapers, wipes, clothes, toys, etc etc that I buy for him. WITHOUT CHILD SUPPORT.

My car, I just spent $800 to get it fixed so it would pass inspection. Again, no family, no financial support for my son. Just me, by myself, making it on financial aid.

To make matters worse, my son is in speech therapy. Does his father respond to communication or bother to cooperate with this? Nope. But he'll be sure to pick him up for visitation...just to confuse him for a weekend and send him back. Every time I get my son back, he shows signs of stress and anxiety, and it takes a day or two for these to subside.

Beyond that, my current boyfriend, who is YOUNGER than myself and my ex, provides more for my son than his father. And we don't even live together. THAT, fellas, is a MAN. Not a boy, not a child, not a "guy": a MAN.

And you want to say lazy? This past summer I was in school FULL TIME- 12 credit hours- and worked 35 hours a week. I made a 3.75 GPA for the summer. There are not many people WITHOUT children who could pull that off.

So, I'm sorry if this has been YOUR experience, but the bottom line is this: the state of TX sees both parents as financially responsible. No, fathers do NOT have a right to know where the child support is going, but if the child is provided for then it goes to the child, doesn't it? And if a father isn't paying child support, he's a dead beat. I would probably be more lenient if my ex were TRYING, but I got $6.10 for this MONTH that was withheld from his check: he's a waiter. He HAD a "real" job, and quit it once he realized they were going to take half his pay check until he was caught up. Sorry, guys, that's a dead beat. Beyond that, he keeps switching restaurants and his family keeps moving and changing numbers (that's right, he lives with mommy) trying to outrun the OAG. You don't want to be in this situation, wrap it up.

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the fathers rights
by: Anonymous

What about the non custodial parents rights to visitation. the right to know where this child support is going. What about the right to know where the child is at all times.

Some of you women who do have the kids tend to forget that the father has rights too.

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Texas laws on children suck
by: Anonymous

We pay my husbands X 800 per month, my stepson has failed the 7th grade and is now failing the 8th grade, his doctor says that he is underweight and has emotional problems, he has been raising himself since the 5th grade. His mother has taken a trip to Italy, Alaska, Michigan, Minnesota and Ohio this year without the child, but with her boyfriends kids. We paid our attorney 5000.00 to help us get custody, the state of Texas could care less that he is neglected, they blamed us for not flying him to Oklahoma 1 weekend a month for visitation. They did not care that his mother has personality disorders and has tried to commit suicide. She lives with her boyfriend and she makes 60K a year and complains that we need to help her buy the child clothes because she is a one income family. In Oklahoma child support is computed on both parents incomes. You can be assured that the State of Texas and its attorneys could care less about the welfare of children and the non custodial parent.

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I agree..
by: Anonymous

Texas does favor the poor mother, even if she has previously lost custody of two kids. Lets give her another kid to let her better herself this time. She looks pretty good in court when her lawyer pays for her apartment, gets her a car, lets her "work" for him and gives her plenty of cash. Then let's make an irrevocable mediation requiring her to stay in the area but let her leave the state
Less than a year later.

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I did not make my kids by myself either!
by: Anonymous

Not every woman just sits on her butt waiting for that check. Lord knows if I did, my kids would have nothing! Guess what?!?! I did not make my kids by myself either! But I only get help with one of my children-visitation and financial. When I was little, my mom told me that when she got child support from my dad(on those rare occasions), that was my share of the bills! She worked two jobs to support us and still struggled! All men are not the same when it comes to supporting their children, just like all women are not the same when it comes to receiving support! I am sorry about your situation, but there are custodial parents who get screwed around as well!

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