The system is flawed

I have not been allowed to see my son in over a year. I missed his 2nd birthday, and all major holidays including Christmas. His mother has used the system that is flawed to make seem almost impossible to see my son. I moved out of state to better my life and make a future for my son and every since then my ex has painted me out to be this bad guy. I have sent money on attorneys but for the b.s. criminal case that her and her friends have placed against me (she was sleeping with one of the married cops in her small town). This was a clever move made to prevent me from using that money to pay for a family law attorney. I have been bled dry and have nothing to show for it. I actually received a text with a picture of my son, stating if I paid x amount of dollars in child support I could see my son (the amount was larger than I actually owe). I work at least 100 a week in the start up phase of my own business and struggle to pay my rent, while my sons mother works 3 days a week as a waitress, collects welfare,has free health care, milks the system,plus her rich mommy and daddy buy her a house,a car, and she walks around with a Chanel handbag (no knock off). My son's mother thinks she is just hurting me but my son is the one who really is losing out. My son is in Ohio and I live in Pennsylvania, does anyone have any ideas??? Help!