The wife of a man with kids not mine
I am a stepmother to 7 kids, who all have different mothers. I took on the task of being married to a man as well as the 7 women he had kids with before we met and married. I will say this. The mothers are women who use their seeds are pawns in the "battle to win my husband back." If you come see me, I won't take you to court. If you don't buy the kid shoes, pay school fees, I'll go to court and up the child support. My husband has paid all his orders for years and years...... until the day came when one mother ( drug addict) and the other one(mental issues) called and said, hey come get the kids, I'll give you custody, I can't take care of them anymore. So now we have custody (FULL CUSTODY) of two kids plus our own. In the past, we have done the suspended license thing, the 30 days in jail thing, the going back and forth to court because mothers refused visitation.
Been there done that, lived through it. So now.. that the mothers are the NON CUSTODIAL PARENT WITH VISITATION, do they show up on consistent basis? NO. My husband, being the man he is, told the courts he did NOT want child support, he wanted the mothers to be parents and deal with him accordingly out of court.
Do these women you know, help pay for sports, buy feminine products, or even ask if their kid has any needs that need to be addressed? NOPE. My husband filed charges against one of the mothers for using drugs and being on drugs around the kid...... proof with pictures, etc. The court stated HERESY and threw it out. My husband begged the court to give court ordered drug testing, make her show she's no addict.....
Court stated there was NO NEED. So, after 8 years of living through these women tearing my husband apart, they get off scot-free. All while these kids look to me to be the mother they want their real mother to be. I embrace the position I was given. But women make me ill.I hate that the State of Ohio gives men that try and fight and pay and parent the cold shoulder. Now.... after all this time. My husbnad's wages are being garnished because one of the mom's was on welfare( And still is) for back support.
He was petitioned the court to make what is garnished taken off what he owes, and the mother not get it, as she does not have the child nor does she have custody. THe court's reposnse was, she is entitled to that money. HOW? See gets money for a kid she doesn't see or provide for?!!! A REAL WOMAN WOULD SAY I DONT WANT THIS MONEY. MY CHILD NEEDS IT IN THE HOUSE SHE LIVES IN. BUt nope, it pays for her tanning, clothes and new car. SICKENING.
My motto to men is this: If you don't want to deal with her, for the REST OF YOUR LIFE, wear a rubber. Use plastic wrap, ANYTHING TO PROTECT YOURSELF. Use caution before you lay down with a woman. Someone that looks good at the club will show her true self as soon as that kid pops out. And then you'll have no one to blame but yourself. You cannot blame the woman, you took the risk and now have to deal with it. I wouldn't trade my kids ( the only steps in my house go downstairs) for anything. But I do wish my husband had had enough insight to think twice about who he chose to procreate with. It's been a nightmare.