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Mother's rights
by: Anonymous

As I have seen in the other comments it is always about the dad. I am a good mother who wants to see her child. I am paying child support and my ex husband a absolutely refused to let me see my son. I am very scared of him and he flat out starts calling me names when I go and try to see my son, nether the less you can say that I havent got to see my son in 2 years. It is the Dad this time who is playing game and the system does not help, If you have any comments on this, Please help me. I will take the advice of filing a police report now. I will see if that works. :)

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Standing your ground... and yes to CPS!
by: Daddy

CPS is there for the child, I agree. Originally, the government decided to go after all Non-custodial parents because of the increase of custodial parents milking the system for government assistance. I remember when TV commercials started running ads about going after "DEADBEAT DADS". This was a result of private agencies receiving big government contracts for helping custodial parents (most of the time, MOTHERS) secure child support payments based on "before-tax" wages. We all know that most courts awarded child support payments to be 22% - 33% for the first child. This absolutely shot those 'Good' Dads down because they had hardly no means to sustain themselves. Even if you received visitation, you had nothing to take care of the child while in your care.

BE TRUTHFUL!!! Mothers saw another golden opportunity to take advantage of the system. I have firsthand experience of seeing mothers flagrantly hold the father of their child hostage. I have even seen the system persist even when a mother request that the child support cease collection. The private agency continued pursuit and even advised her that all Child Support payments paid to her outside of the system be counted as a 'Gift'! Now, how is that taking care of the child's best interests, to pit the parents against one another?

I believe that before any Child Support is allowed to step in and make decisions, both parents should be requested to attend neutral counseling. During this counseling, a 'realistic' financial picture of both parent should be assessed. The two parents should be guided as to how much child support should be paid to sustain a healthy structure for the child. Everyone's finances are not the same and will definitely change for the better or worse.

Finally, I believe that Child Support Laws should continue to evolve and become less involved the process of a man and woman having consential sex resulting in a birth of a child. Would you have a baby if you knew that you would not get any support? That's a hard question to ask. However, I grew up without Child Support payments and I still love my father and mother. So, let's be civil to on another for the best interest of our children. Who needs government to regulate that? Maybe this will help slow birthrates and make more people be less likely to bring a child into this world with someone the will not spend the rest of their lives with.

Call it 'OLD FASHION'... but it works!!!

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GROW UP!
by: Anonymous

Don't ever call CPS in less you know for a fact that child is in danger. CPS has so many cases that really need their help. They don't need to be investigating a case, just to get back at the other parent. Grow up and stop spending our tax money. CPS is so overloaded, social workers are so stressed out about the other cases, leave them out of your case!

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what do you do?
by: kelly

What do you do when its the father that refuses to support and have visitation with their child, but continues to raise someone else'schildren. I mean in 8 years no birthdays no christmas no first day of school nothing. Someone that walks past your child and ignores him. what do you do when your 8 year old ask why his dad hates him. whay doesmy daddy lie to me? What do you do.. I am fully aware that there are as many dead beat moms as there are fathers and that when two people as fullminded adults agree on something for the child.... be it in verbal or written agreements, that thats what should happen., but what happens when the other parent refuses to help? I need some advice badly. Please help me anyone if you can. I live in Mississippi and the laws here may be different than yours but please any information would help....
Thank you.

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