Tired Of This Dead Beat Dad

by Anonymous
(Syracuse,NY)

I have a beautiful 9 yr. old daughter, and 11 yr. old son who lives with me currently. I also have a 13 yr. old son who is a juvenile delinquent who lives with his father. For 3 1/2 years my children's father was incarcerated and I never received a single support check even though I had an order for my 3 children who were all living with me at the time. Upon my ex-husband's release my oldest moved in with his father and their father took me back to court to modify his support order. I was told an income execution would be issued for the arrears he owed over 6,000 dollars but I wouldn't be awarded any current support because our support offset each other. They said because he had our son and I was disabled I would be ordered to pay 25 dollars and because he was receiving public assistance he would be ordered to pay 25 dollars as well so that made the amounts offset each other. Well, since then he has obtained work, he has stopped receiving public assistance, and now I haven't received a check since June 2009 for the arrears. It wouldn't bother me if he was really hurting financially but he is driving around in a new car every couple of months. I have had the same vehicle for 5 years and it was bought used. Where is the justice for my children?! I am just wondering what can I do to force this man to pay for his children. Yet he wants to take them every other weekend and act like a father but doesn't want to be financially responsible....NY needs laws like other states no child support no visitation!!

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It is still paying to see our child...
by: Anonymous

How can you sit there and say that its not paying to see their child?? You want no visitation if the other party is not paying. So, that means that when they do pay they get to see their child....Call me crazy but that sounds like paying to see your child. I hate the other women that use that against the fathers. Its uncalled for and ILLEGAL! Hey heres a thought, lets get the fathers that do pay some support against the mothers that keep children from paying fathers. It is clearly stated in the court orderd suport that even non payment is NO REASON for keeping the child from the father. You dont have my sympathy. There is no sympathy from me for mothers like that...

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No wonder fathers dont want to pay
by: Anonymous

Mothers like you are unbelievable. What did the woman do back in the 1800s. Yes their bearly got by but that is all you are trying to saying now. Today when women have more opportunities now than ever. Get out their make a living do the best you can . Kids dont needs mp players , cd , games , xbox etc. They need shelter , food , clothing and above all they need unconditional love. My mother never received child support and we did not have everything the other kids had but we did know we were loved.That made us more a human and we got out and worked . What I see with all of the spoiled kids today . They expect parents to furnish everything even when they leave home. we have a nation of lazy spoiled kids with no chacter. Which ends up making woman like you expect the man to support you and the kids even if you are Ok. I dont advacate not paying childsupport but people are human they sometimes just cant meet all responsibilities just as if you were truthful with yourself you would have to admit that you dont meet all responsibilities at all times . Our economy is going down hill. Oh and by the way I am a woman. I do believe it is time the courts reconize that men are being abused on child support.

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agree with no support, no visitation
by: Anonymous

It's not paying to see your child. It's paying for your responsibility. Why should the burden be on one person. There has to be some consequences for non payment of child support and I feel that no visitation willget better results than license suspension or jail time. Some fathers don't care about getting either. They still drive without a license and 6 months of jail time is a slap on the wrist. Obviously anyone who thinks that a mother is wrong for feeling this way either has no children or a deadbeat themselves.

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you are right Seriously
by: Anonymous

Yes Seriously you are right about women like her. Their are all kind of those out their. It is time the men get a fair break. When will the laws change to implement that. I am a woman and I believe the men are just not getting a fair shake in this nation. Get over it lady.

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Seriously???
by: Anonymous

No child support, No visitation?? Who do you think you are hurting the most if you do that? Come on...

This is what makes the system bad. Mothers like you that want the fathers to pay to see their children. Kids arent your money makers!

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