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Tired of waiting!

by Emily
(Washington)

My name is Emily and I am a resident of Washington State but my twins were conceived in Dallas Texas so my case is Texas jurisdiction. The problem is that my Twins were born October 6th 2005 by October 26th I had went to the prosecuting attorneys office and took a paternity test. It has been 3 years since I took that test and the state of Texas has still not served him papers to go to court to take a paternity test. They have attempted to multiple times but to no avail. I have giving Texas phone numbers and addresses that were accurate but for some reason he is getting out of it. In the past three years he has gotten married had another child and adopted one of his wives children knowing all along that he has two children that he is not taking care of. I am tired of waiting for Texas to do something i have spent that last three years supporting my children alone while he helps another woman take care of her children its not fair and I’m angry what do I have to do what information do I need to get for this to finally be over.

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May 02, 2009
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Spousal contribution
by: Anonymous

There are instances, if the non-custodial claims inability to pay and raises the legal issue of support of the second family (usually by downward modification)....CSE can legally request documentation of the gross income, the new spouse contributes to the household. Regardless, you have the children of the first marriage and your children take precedent in a court of law. If a man takes on a second family and the additional financial burden, that is his problem.

Apr 20, 2009
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I FEEL YA
by: KN

Emily,

As I read the previous comments I think its real easy for a person to make comments when they have not walked in your shoes!!

I do not have twins but an in a very similar situation. The AG'S Office in Texas stinks. There is a huge disconnect and no one seems to have the answers. I live in WA State, I had to get DNA proved and there is an order in place in Texas. I think alot of that has to do with the County you need service in also. (i got lucky)

I sent away for the DNA testing almost immediately after the child was born and because the order was not set for another year,(at the mercy and time frame of TX/WA) I get no payments for the first year of the child's life. SO UNFAIR....I had no say so in that.

I think the key is to call the AG's office on a weekly basis along with your local State Worker and to file complaint(s) with the Texas AG's office and be diligent. Inform the IRS of any income not reported. Not angry but be informed and educated.

The Dad in this case works for himself, has no checking account, gets cash and checks that he cashes at a local grocery store. He doesn't pay taxes and has no real assets. He does have a nicer vehicle than mine and seems to be in business for himself. FEELS LIKE IM NEVER GONNA GET A DIME....

He is on supervision for a misdemeanor. In the State of Texas if a person is on probation for a crime it is a violation of their supervision if they do not pay Child Support. They will be held in contempt civilly but criminally they will be violated. So now he will atleast have to go to jail for the criminal charges he was already in trouble for. A LITTLE BIT OF JUSTICE, but still no money.....some consequence.

I work 2 jobs to support my child and my life. Meanwhile he takes care of the new baby and girlfriend. He forgot all about us after 6 yrs together.

YOUR NOT ALONE - GOD BLESS YOU!!!

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Apr 20, 2009
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Emily, As I read the previous comments I think its real easy for a person to make comments when they have not walked in your shoes!! I do not have twins but an in a very similar situation. The AG'S Office in Texas stinks. There is a huge disconnect and no one seems to have the answers. I live in WA State, I had to get DNA proved and there is an order in place in Texas. I think alot of that has to do with the County you need service in also. (i got lucky) I sent away for the DNA testing almost immediately after the child was born and because the order was not set for another year,(at the mercy and time frame of TX/WA) I get no payments for the first year of the child's life. SO UNFAIR....I had no say so in that. I think the key is to call the AG's office on a weekly basis along with your local State Worker and to file complaint(s) with the Texas AG's office and be diligent. Inform the IRS of any income not reported. Not angry but be informed and educated. The Dad in this case works for himself, has no checking account, gets cash and checks that he cashes at a local grocery store. He doesn't pay taxes and has no real assets. He does have a nicer vehicle than mine and seems to be in business for himself. FEELS LIKE IM NEVER GONNA GET A DIME.... He is on supervision for a misdemeanor. In the State of Texas if a person is on probation for a crime it is a violation of their supervision if they do not pay Child Support. They will be held in contempt civilly but criminally they will be violated. So now he will atleast have to go to jail for the criminal charges he was already in trouble for. A LITTLE BIT OF JUSTICE, but still no money.....some consequence. I work 2 jobs to support my child and my life. Meanwhile he takes care of the new baby and girlfriend. He forgot all about us after 6 yrs together. YOUR NOT ALONE - GOD BLESS YOU!!!

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Feb 22, 2009
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Too bad, so sad ....
by: Anonymous

Did you ask the man if he wants to father children? Did he want it wholeheartedly.

I bet my lousy paycheck he didn't.

So now, you're holding the bag, and the children suffer because of your irresponsibility.

I hope you get nothing. Niente. Nada.

Now go and get a stinking job, there's no time for wailing.

Oh, and I forget, get your tubes tied. No more children for you.

Oct 29, 2008
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Are You TRULY Tired?
by: Ian Kull

Emily, first, all parents should support their children.

Secondly, it does not matter where the children were conceived. The state where the children have lived for the past six months determines jurisdiction.

I also find it interesting that any court in the State of Texas would carry a case on its docket for three years without any activity. It would be dismissed for want of prosecution.

Have you spoke with an attorney? Have you hired a private process server to get the guy served?

If you are truly tired and fed up with how the free system (I'm assuming that you're going through the Office of the Attorney General based on what you wrote) then step up and take care of business.

The options are available to you. It is up to you to take advantage of them!

Oct 29, 2008
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Washington
by: David

All men should have to take care of their children, but some of the accountability should rest with you. I'm hoping that you had an honest and long lasting relationship with this man before you decided to have kids. If not, then one has to wonder about your true intentions of giving birth to kids you may not be able to afford. Sorry to say, but just making babies in the heat of the moment because neither one of you played it safe was purely irresponsible. Hard to feel sorry for you.

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