As I have been reading these blogs, I realize most of you have come across the same problems with the Texas Attorney General. I have a way to solve it, or help you with your situation. It is called change.org, they want Ideas to be voted on to Be presented to President elect Obama on his inauguration day. Now here are just a few examples of ones that we as Non-Custodial parents should look at and vote for. Or maybe you want to summit your own Idea.
1. Non-Custodial Parent Income Tax Credit. 2. Non-Custodial Parents who pay Child Support and is Responsible for more then 50% of the child’s expenses should be entitled to that percentage of the earned child income credit given to parents.
Start policing our Government assistance programs! Start cutting back on government programs to people that just want the taxpayers to pay there way, like food stamps, unemployment, and child support. Don't get me wrong there great programs but 99% use it so they don't have to work. Start cutting the funding to people that won't get off their butts to work. If we policed these programs yes it's going to cost money but in the long run we could start saving Billions of dollars a year. Now as far as child support a majority of custodial parents get the child support payments raised so much that the non-custodial parents themselves couldn’t even survive. While the custodial parents work and collect a check that is supposed to go to the child and doesn't. Make it that the custodial parents are required to show where the money is going each month. There are a lot of custodial parents that use their child support check for everything else except the child. Also the interest rates are so high on the parents that owe back child support that they may never get ahead. So the interest rates need to be lowered.
Now here is the website, lets get our voices heard all the way in Washington so maybe us Non-Custodial parents get treated better instead of like dirt.
I am a custodial parent & I agree with the last posted comment. I have a child whose father hasnt paid any $$$$ since the order went into effect in Feb. 2010. I will always be financially supportive to my child. Yes, i want and need help. I filed child support for "responsibility." i declined back child support. I just want the father to understand that if you make a child you should "help" take care of that child. To this day he hasnt & i even provide medical support. I also provide everything else. But i have given it all to god. i "will not" stress over it. We will make it, because i will do what it takes to provide for my child. I assume the role of mother & father. The greastest child support payment that you can give your child from their father....is to "always" be there as their parent. Remember ****It is whats best for the child******not all about the money.
*think....if the lord wanted to take everything that you have yet you still recieved that child support payment........what would you complain about then??????
Dec 10, 2009 Rating
Grow Up! by: Anonymous
To all the custodial parents posting about all the extras you have to pay to care for a child, my question is, if you did not have that child/children would you not have rent or a house note, not have to purchase toilet paper, or groceries. I am a custodial parent myself who does not recieve any child support for my children. I am not using the fact that I have to pay a house note so my kids will have somewhere to live because I have to have somewhere to lay my head at night as well. I knew when I had my children they were my responsibility to take care of and I refuse to spend my life fighting with my ex for a man or women in a black robe to tell him what his responsibilities are. I think what everyone needs to understand, custodial or noncustodial parent, is that instead of spending all your efforts on trying to make the other parent pay to stick it to each other. It is your responsibility to raise your children! As long as you are doing the right thing for your child, God will be the one to ultimately hold them accountable for their decisions. Each individual situation is different so no law will ever be suitable for everyone. Grow up and take care of your kids!
Sep 29, 2009 Rating
IT IS NOT....Child Support...AT ALL by: The Broke Kid
Lets just Call it what it IS!
I am so sick of hearing that Child Support has anything to DO with US Kids!
My Father has paid enough to my Mother that she could have Bought a House With it. She Didn't! We lived in a crappy rent house(she could have paid for almost 3 times) because She couldn't keep two nickles in her pocket that she didn't need a new phone, new cloths, a New Car she couldn't afford or some other crap. Relatives bought us school supplies.
She Swore to us and everyone in Town that Dad didn't pay a dime....and didn't want to see us!
Except the reality was....he paid MOST of the time and helped us Threw those Relatives. Guess what My mother did with the Christmas presents he sent us.....Took them back and spent the money while telling us....he didn't love us.
I am an ADULT now....and it took a long time before I Knew this. I love my Mom....but lets face it.....She happens to be a selfish vindictive person who USED the courts and every wheapon she could to Hurt the man who DID NOT leave her for Cheating! She left HIM....and only wanted custody of us to Hurt him. (nope didn't get a word against her from him until I had found this out from my own Research)
My Dad still owes child support because he got sick, behind on his own bills and simply could not pay. He don't make excuses for it...he hates that he gets the whole DEADBEAT routine.
I moved in with him. We planned on me going to College! I am! I wanted the Child support lifted so we could apply for financial aid, student loans and stuff. Guess what. My brother and I don't get to say Boo about money Supposedly allocated FOR US!
My mom never opened a savings account for us...it was HER money.
Now, if I want to go to College. Dad can Help me...and Be a Deadbeat....or Pay My Pain in the Pocketbook Mother to Drink with her friends. Yes...her beer consumption is So much more important than my education....THank You Nice Government for making That Choice For me!
IT IS NOT CHILD SUPPORT....NEVER WAS!
I Can't discharge the Debt. I can't Get it paid to me for Books and Tuition. My Brother and I and every kid has gotten Screwed by this fake Word.
Call it what it is.
TAX FREE ALIMONY
How many of you would be all Defending this if it was Called what it truly IS?
Not me. I wish my Dad could have Kept the money....He would have Saved it(proved by what he DID save for us) and I wouldn't be wondering How to Pay for my last two years of school!
And MOM....wouldn't be laughing every time she gets some collection service all over us.
Dad's take care of your kids cause you want to....Moms....If you really love your kids....Don't Demand YOUR MONEY...and Pretend it is justifiable. We are not your little pawns...and when we grow up....It Hurts!
Mom's think.....I know my Mom by her Deeds! Is that how you want Your kids to see you?
It's shameful. It's a LIE!
Jul 31, 2009 Rating
My husband's worthless ex. by: Anonymous
I have been married to my husband for 8 years. His ex-wife has custody of their 11 year old. The ex lives in a very nice 4 bedroom house they pay for, they pay for her new SUV, they turn her electric and phone on after she misses the payments every 4 or 5 months. They pay for her cellphone, her clothes, and they also are taking care of the ex's oldest daughter (16) by letting her live with them, but the ex still gets the child support. My husband has paid over $400 a month faithfully and paid for her medical. He was laid off recently. Now the ex is taking us back to court for back child support on the income he should have been paying on and for the medical we should be paying. yet we can't get her to supply us with a copy of what the medical cost for us to reimburse her. This constant court threat from her has been going on the full 8 years. We pay for my stepdaughters school clothes, school supplies, shoes, summer activities, and medical visits when we have receipts. Not to mention our family and the grandparents have her EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND. yet nothing is ever enough. Now that my husband can't afford anymore, she is taking us back to court to get money from me. which this is a joke. But with the economy being horrible I would not be surprised if this became a new law in Texas. I have a son from a previous marriage. He pays me $276 a month. I pay for the medical and EVERYTHING ELSE. This $276.00 is plenty of money to raise a 14 year old boy. If I continue to budget it as "MY SON'S MONEY" then I will be able to buy him a nice used car when he is 16. so for all you money hungry EX wifes that just want more because you think you deserve it, maybe you should cut back on your personal things to provide for your child first. And this is not for ex wifes who are doing what is right, this is for the ex wifes who work the system. AND YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE.
Jun 19, 2009 Rating
CS IS WHAT IT IS. by: Anonymous
TO ALL YOU CUSTODIAL PARENTS WANTING MORE CHILD SUPPORT FROM THE NON CUSTODIAL PARENT, WHEN THE NON CUSTODIAL PARENT HAS PAID FAITHFULLY EVERY MONTH, NO MISSED PAYMENT, CHILD IS USUALLY WITH NON CUTOSDIAL PARENT OR GRANDPARENTS. CUSTODIAL PARENT DOES NOT PAY RENT, CUSTODIAL PARENT STILL LIVES AT HOME,SHE IS 25 YEARS OLD. HER PARENTS PROVIDE ALL HER LIVING EXPENCES INCLUDING CAR NOTES, RENT,FOOD, ETC. ETC.WHY DOES SHE NEED MORE CS? CS IS WHAT IT IS...IT IS SUPPORT FOR THE CHILD, NOT AN INCOME FOR SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T WANT TO BE A MOTHER TO HER CHILD! SHE WILL PROBABLY GET MORE CS BECAUSE TEXAS FAVORS THE WOMAN! CS SHOULD BE BASED ALSO ON HOW OFTEN YOU HAVE THE CHILD. I DON'T MIND PAYING BUT SHE NEVER HAS THE CHILD.
May 31, 2009 Rating
Custodial parents abuse child support by: Anonymous
Yes this is true for most cuctodial parents. You abuse child support. That money is for your child, not you. You are basically stealing from your child. When you say that the money goes to rent, gas , and utilities. These are all things that you would have to pay for if you did not have any children. For example if you bought a house and did not have children you probally would still buy at least a three bedroom even though no one would be in those rooms, but since you have children and a hefty child support payment you make it look like you bought that house for the kids, but you didn't, you bought it for yourself. When you look at gas in your car or utilties, the portion that your children use are really not that much. Basically child support is a free ride for many people that are just hurt and full of greed. The average person that jumps up and down about how the children need child support never really has children in mind at all. For example most people paying child support have other children, but i have never heard a custodial parent say there is no way he/she could pay that and take care of the children that live thier home. People like this are the reasson that we hate the child support laws because the laws are stupid and are not in the best interest of the children. The custodial parent should be accountable for the money for the childs sake. What are you going to do when your child says what did you do with all the money you got.
Feb 18, 2009 Rating
Annoyed by: Anonymous
I just wanted to add my two cents with people saying to tell president Obama about the 50% so you should get 50% of the earned income, I receive child support but it is no where near 50% of the childs care. I get 360 a month, my day care bill alone is over 700 a month, not to mention food clothes shelter, medications, gas to get them back and forth to school. I think anyone who thinks because they pay child support they are doing the custodial parent such a huge favor think again. You are not covering what you should be. My Ex pays 25% of his wages to care for his children I pay 100% of mine... How is that equal???
Feb 12, 2009 Rating
Hostilities! by: David
As I have said many times, there are two sides to every story and these arguments prove just that. The argument that the custodial parent and the AG's office will always make is that the money is in the children's best interest. So, how do you determine what that actually means? You can't! Basically, the law implies the child support guidelines suit the needs of the children. Personally, I think these guidlenes are not a "one size fit's all" solution.
Assuming one child is involved, 20% of the non-custodial parents net income will go towards support. If that parent doesn't make much money, 20% will barely pay for anything. In this case, it's obvious that all the money is used as well as whatever the custodial parent can and should contribute.
Lets swing the pendulum in the opposit direction such as in my case. Because my income is in the six figure range, my ex get more money than she could ever use on my child. She also gets $500.00 extra because we adopted my daughter from the state. This is the side where she should have to explain her expenses. $1700.00 a month for one child in living in South Texas is a bit extreme.
To this date, NO ONE has even tried to explain why this amount is necessary. In the Texas Family Law, it states that the money is "presumed" to be used in the best interests of the child. In some cases I would agree, but not in mine. Of course, the AG's office will see to it they get as much money as possible by law and sometimes more. Reason? The more money they collect, the more funding they get. Definately a conflict of interest here. Attorneys who write the laws also benefit from it. GO FIGURE!
Unfortunately, Texas is behind the times. Unlike other states, Texas does not look at both parents income for support. What that truly means is that some people (usually these women) will set on their butts and live off welfare, child support, or even both. Question is: What will they do when the well runs dry and they don't have the kid's to use as a source of income?
The fact of the matter is: We all get "screwed" now for the "screw" we once had!
Jan 19, 2009 Rating
It does go to the child! by: Anonymous
So here I am telling you (readers) that the money I do or do not recieve in child support does go to my children!!! Rent to keep a roof over their little heads, electric to keep them warm and so they can see inside, gas to keep the stove going so I can cook for them, fuel so I can get them to the dr if need be and yes for my ass to get to work for more money that I have to spend on my children, household goods so they can wipe their butts and blow their noses and bathe to keep clean, food to put in their mouths when they are hungry. I do not see how you can say money is just wasted and not going towards the children. Us custodial parents have to go through a lot with our children!!! It is not easy at all caring for them. They are children and us a parents should provide for them no matter what the circumstances are!! Get up and grow a set,(all of you parents)!! I've been doing this single mother thing for 3 years now and I did marry a deadbeat but knew that going in and knew that getting out!! I got away from all that because my children deserve a ton better than having the things we are getting by me scraping by my fingernails. I am still having a difficult time!! I've been jobless and hate it. My children do not need that. There father/sperm donor doesn't work so when I'm out of work it kills the household. Those of you that work are very blessed to have work!!! So for the whole money thing and the custodial parents not spending on their children is a bunch of hogwash!!!! This is the real world!
Jan 11, 2009 Rating
arrearages for grown kids by: Anonymous
My husband owes over 50,000$ due to not paying for a few years, the X kept him in court everytime he went to visit(he lived across the state) or they were just not there for pick-up. After many waisted trips and much money he stopped trying. When the 2 kids were young teens he tried again to see them, same dead end. Bottom line the x waited untill the kids were emancipaited to file for any additional $ She got it, all the arrears plus interest. The kids are grown, she has been remarried since the day after the divorce was granted, there are grandchildren and she is still collecting $ andtrying to get more at this time. My husband is seeing and building a relationship with the oldest(24) So we know for sure that non of the thousands of $$ have benefited them since they were teens. Why can't the laws reflect on this issue. It is supposed to benefit the child, it should be sent to them not help the bitter.X. buy a boat, That is what was purchased a few months ago when she received several thousand from our savings.
So is it ok to take the kids while your husband is at work, hide them, lie about them, lie to them and wait until they are grown and then go after every dime a man has? some Dads are labeled as dead beat and deserve it but so many are screwed by evil vendictive women. Some laws need to change and judges should look a little closer at the situation.
Dec 30, 2008 Rating
One more thing by: Wife to a Non-Custodial Parent
It is my business what they do with the money. Especially when the child is eith with us or her grandparents. OBVIOUSLY,the money isn't going to the daughter now is it?
Dec 29, 2008 Rating
Wow You must be my husbands ex wife by: Wife to a Non-Custodial Parent
Look here don't be bitter because your ex is a dead beat and mine isn't to his daughter. I am not selfish. I had a job. Actually I recently got out of the army. So I put MY life on the line so you can have the opportunity to run your mouth. I got out because we just had a son and I wasn't about to deploy for a FIFTH time and leave a newborn here while his parents deplyed. So now we are on a tight budget. So what you are saying is the husband is not allowed any happiness because he left is psycho, cheating ex wife. Oh ok I get it. So his new family is suppose to suffer and live on welfare so that his ex wife can be happy, get remarried, technically have THREE incomes and have everything she ever wanted. OH WHAT WAS I THINKING!!! Sorry my husband deserves no happiness. Your right we should all suffer.no wonder he left you. Good for him.
Dec 29, 2008 Rating
Dead beat men and their crazy new women!! by: Anonymous
You know I am a mother of three and I get no child support for my children and haven't for the past few years. My exhusband had his drivers license taken away and he has the nerve to call me to see if I can talk to our support enforcement officer to get it back. I am sorry. I dont feel sorry for him. He has chosen not to pay any child support for many years and work under the table. The women who stated her husbands exwife went to Cabo to get married, has a new car, new house just wants his money to herself. They are allowed to have a few luxuries in life. Just because you get child support doesnt make a needy person. That is what welfare is for retard. The childrens father has an obligation to help support those kids. As long as the kids are taken care of, it is frankly none of your business what they do with the rest of the money!!!!
Dec 28, 2008 Rating
I agree by: Wife to a Non-Custodial Parent
I COMPLETELY agree with your statement about keeping track of where the support money goes. If the custodial parents are hard up for money how is it mine went and got married in Cabo???? And flew all her friends down to join them???? But yet she needs the money and we can't lower it. I would not mind paying the $600 for the ONE child if I knew it was going to her clothes, food, toys, and education. But since they have a new house, car, ad vacations, and a new baby I am very hesitant now. It's almost like they are punishing the non custodial parent for not spending every moment with the child. I think the support should come in the form of a visa card. (Like food stamps) so that no haste, waste, and abuse can take place.
Dec 17, 2008 Rating
More info by: Stepmother of 3
Most of these IDEAS are found under the economy, and domistic poverty so you can either vote or submitting you own IDEA on how to change the chidsupport laws in your favor.
