Tricked

I met a female through the internet. We went on three dates and then she calls it off. She then comes back into my life and tells me she's pregnant. I couldn't believe it. She told me she couldnt get pregnant because of a medical issue. She calls the pregnancy a miracle. I offer to get a place together and she flat out refuses. She tells me she doesn't want me to be a part of the baby's life, of her life, that she doesn't need any man to support her, and that it's just her and the baby. As much as it hurt, I accepted her decision. How could I be so stupid? I believed her cancer story. My daughter was born and after 5 or 6 months, her "mother" files for child support.

She is awarded a lot of money and back pay and back medical support. She told me she wanted nothing to do with me and I get screwed with paying her a large amount of money. Since then, I have been threatened with the credit bureau, the denial of my passport, and jail. All these threats from the Attorney General's office happened shortly after the child support hearing. She refused to give me visitation and to give my child my last name.

I was given visitation (the first 7 were observed, the next 7 are for 5 hours, and the time increases after that) and she was ordered to change the baby's name...which hasn't happened yet. She then wanted 6 months notice of any changes to the visitation schedule and the Attorney General staff conducting the hearing supported that. I fought that and that was not included the visitation aggreement. This woman is only after the money. How can the Attorney General's office allow this?

I don't mind paying the child support but it should have started when she filed it not when the baby was born. She lied and the Attorney General's office believed everything she said.

Gentlemen, beware. The Texas Attorney General's Office does not have a slut clause. We were both irresponsible and yet I am the only one paying for this irresponsibility. Custodial parents, usually the mother, doesn't have to show how this money is supporting the children. She can spend it on herself, which is what usually happens, and the Attorney General's Office does nothing more to protect the children. What system! This office is suppose to protect our children and yet all they do is make these women a lot of money. Why not enforce a savings account with a portion of this money or a college fund. That would really benefit the children.

The Attorney General's Child Support Division is a lazy organization. I know of many situations where the custodial parent who refuses to pay are not harrassed or hounded. Why?...because the non-custodial parent moves around, they don't work, or do whatever they do to avoid child support and this is too much work for agency who supposedly exists to benefit the children. Yet so money hard working men who are trying to do the right thing constantly get threatening letters.

My paycheck is now a joke. I get anywhere between $5 to $125 every 2 weeks. How am I suppose to survive on this? How does my child benefit from this? My fiancee put me on her bank account so that I can get gas money or food money, her account now has a lien because of my child support and her savings was taken. My savings was taken and my son's savings was taken. All because of a woman that I dated 3 times. My fiancee is innocent and has nothing to do with the woman. My fiancee did't get that woman pregnant yet she has to pay too. Don't let anyone put you on their bank account when you're dealing with the Attorney General's Office. They will take all that money.

These Child Support Laws are not working. Is there anything that can be done to change the law? Is there an organization or a law group interested in taking on this challenge?




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Jun 11, 2009
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P.I. Advice
by: G. Young

I'm a former Private Investigator and the wife of a paternity fraud victim...

First, make sure the child is yours. Get a mail-ordered DNA test (cheap around $65 for non-admissable to court type if you just want personal confirmation or heafty around $275 if you want the kind that you can use in court) then make nice with mom long enough to get a visit with the child. Swab the cheek and wait for your written evidence.

Second, RECORD any comments about the child not being yours. Get her mad over the phone, put the phone on speaker (if you don't have a built in digital) and use a recorder. It's not illegal to record your own conversatons within your own house and the tape is admissable in court.

Third, hire an investigator before hiring an attorney. Find out who else knew what she did and have their full name and current contact info available for summons when you're ready to take the mom to court for fraud. Try to find the most religous based person close to the mom as they have the tendency not to lie on the stand. You gather as much info as possible before hiring the attorney because attorneys will hire investigators to obtain background on cases and charge you double the fee. Not only is she getting support from you but may be getting money under the table from "the real dad" and then there's welfare fraud to consider. If they lie to one state agency for cash, they lie to several.

We've been there - Good Luck - and please read my posting TWINS. I'm experimenting in volumn posts concerning paternity fraud as gathering massive victims could lead to a CLASS ACTION suit that could get the laws changed in this country. Leave some contact info if you're interested. Thnx

Jun 08, 2009
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Pay Jerk
by: Anonymous

You talk about all you have to pay; however, this woman has to bathe, feed, dress, discipline, love, console,and much more for this child. You cannot put a price on the energy a mother invests in raising a child. 3am feedings are no joke for infants. Who are you calling a slut? You are the slut, now pay!

Mar 31, 2009
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Same boat
by: Anonymous

Wow,did you guys not have any inclination that over the years the rules have changed! And if you inhabit any bar what so ever that the kids babies think think that they can find a sugar daddy by becoming pregnant because they can get child support from an established man. Let's get serious I am a woman that was paid $200.00 a month a child support when my ex had nothing and OBTW I was married.

Now he's close to a millionaire so it's a two edged sword. I've watched way to many of you guys fall for the hard bodies without even recognizing their motives. You guys need to take some accountability for the fact that you allowed something else to take precedence over you.

Mar 27, 2009
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DNA
by: Anonymous

Not one time did you metion anything about a DNA test. Your best bet is to get a DNA test, then file for joint custody.Put her on child support. It's a shame that this child has to go through this because their mother is a money grubbing whore

Oct 27, 2008
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I feel your pain
by: Anonymous

Same story for me almost. Just got hit with child suopport for a 16yr old that I didn,t even know about.And only new the mother for a week. That alone should be a crime.

Oct 13, 2008
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dead beat grandparents and father
by: Anonymous

Well i'm in a really tough situation where my son's father is dodging being served his parents lie and tell the sheriff that he doesn't stay there and he do he's unemployed a mommas boy and my thing is she been through the same situation why not encourage your son to step up to his responsibility and be a man

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