Trying in Corpus Christi, TX

by Amy
(Corpus Christi, Tx)

Well where to begin. I'm a single mother of two, and I'm trying to collect child support. I am currently waiting to go to court because the father of my two children is a disabled veteran, and he cannot afford to pay the $191.00 a month that the state is requiring him to pay. His arguement is that he cannot stand for long periods of time. Therefore, he cannot hold a job. I, on the other hand, am a Correctional Officer with the Texas Dept of Criminal Justice. I work on average 13-14 hours a day, and travel an hour each way to work. It's frustrating that I have to work so hard, and he is allowed to sit at home and play video games all day. We stuggle to make ends meet, and the insurance alone is $158.00 not including dental. My children are ages 16 and 10, so naturally they need alot of things for school, and just normal things that kids their age want to do. I'm struggling to get their needs met, and I have little help from their father. I would just like it to be a little more fair. Hopefully the court will help, but I doubt it, because if he is unwilling to work, where will the money come from? Putting him in jail,or taking his licence to drive will not solve anything, only put him further behind. Anyway, this was a nice place to vent my frustrations, and maybe I will get lucky, and this issue will be resolved some how. Thank you, A. Trevino

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texas law
by: Anonymous

I have never had any children,never wanted any. But I have watched my stepson pay his exwife and has never missed a payment and his exwife is a B----. Sets on her a-- and never does anything but complain. She even had an operation to lose weight and that didnt work either,can't put down them bom boms.On that she is a pig and he should have never married her.
My stepdaughter has two boys that mywife and I have raised since berth and are now 16 and 18 and their dear o dad works for his wifes mother and she pays him under the table.He lived no more than 5 miles from us and never a birthday card,christmas gift,nothing and then around a month ago he decided to contact the boys on facebook and now he wants to be their friend or dad has he called himself.

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It's about time??? Ridiculous!
by: Anonymous

Not all "Stay at home moms" sit on their a** all day eating bon bons and watching soap operas. I'll admit, there are some terrible women out there who are only out to make everyone's life a living hell if they don't get what they want. But, there's no need to insult us all. It's true, the bad ones give us good ones a bad name. Just like not all dads are bad, same goes for moms. It's up to the state to enforce the child support order, whether it be for the mom or the dad. Doesn't matter! If it were the mother who was ordered to pay the support, she'd be the one in jail. That's just the way it is. Another thing that men seem to think makes a difference is if the mother was working, they wouldn't have to pay so much.. WRONG! What the other parent makes holds no bearing whatsoever on the amount that's ordered to be paid. Meaning, if the MOTHER is ordered to pay child support, the FATHER's income has no bearing on the amount ordered, and vice versa... There are deadbeat moms too. Then there are circumstances where child support should be adjusted to allow for things like a job injury, the economic downturn we're having right now.. Absolutely, yes!! I'm all for working with the other parent in difficult times. But when someone outright refuses to pay child support and help raise the children they helped create, that's what is RIDICULOUS, and they should be punished accordingly.

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pay up no matter what
by: Anonymous

this idiot man who commented on your post is just that AN IDIOT!!! i am a woman who has a dead beat ex husband who hasn't paid child support in years and also has made no effort to see or even call his child in years. There are a lot of bad parents out there both men and women and they give the good hardworking and caring parents a bad name. To generalize and say men should not be punished by jail or whatever other actions is just plain stupid. Also to generalize and say that all women who are stay at home moms are lazy and just wanting to live off of child support is stupid. DON'T JUDGE WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW THE WHOLE STORY. I remarried a man who had been married and had a child so I have experienced both sides of the spectrum. It is not right when you have a child you MUST support them whether you like it or not. My ex has always had a good job nice house and lots of good things but refuses to pay his child support (claims he doesn't have any money) but lifestyle proves different. On the other side my current husband has always worked hard paid his support (even during hard times and while being laid off from work) always there for his son but his ex never finds it to be enough. she always wants more. So like i said I've seen both sides. That is why I feel like no matter who it is that is ordered to pay You created the child pay the support for them that is the least you can do. no matter what everybody has an opinion on whether the money is being spent on the child or the ex but get over it. not paying is just wrong and if you have a problem with supporting your children than you have no business having them in the first place.

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Its about time
by: Anonymous

Well I can say its about time. I am sorry but women get away with that all the time. Why don't you give him the children?? Then he will only be able to play games while the children are in school, like women do watching soap opras while the kids are in school except the women don't have to pay child support. Its funny how you get upset when the shoes on the other foot. Remember women have been doing that type of stuff sense the beginning of time and now something like this happening to them. Imagine how millions of men feel knowing there ex's are sitting at home not wanting to get a job just child support to live out there lives. How many women have you ever heard of that pays child support?? Because women are held to a diferent standard. How many women have you ever heard of that has spent a night in jail for not paying child support?? I was forced to pay child support to a women who did nothing but sit on her a** watch tv all day everyday. Looking to me to pay all her bills plus my own families. To make it simple why don't the children stay one year with the mother the next with the father. And I don't want to hear it would be to rough on the child, no it would be rough on the women because there would be no child support and that would make her have to get a job, (imagine that). I am a military brat and I moved from school to school state to state even out the country and it didn't kill me or make me a bad person. I think it only fare for both partys, then they both get equal amount of time with there child and it makes them both equally in debt to the child. I am sorry but if the guys is a disabled vet. then it is what it is. If he had died instead of being disbled then you would still be doing it on your own. I can't feel sorry for what you are going through when us men go through this sh** all the time. But we don't use our children as leverage or revenge tools or even try to put our ex's behind bars.

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