TX LAWS FOR CHILD SUPPORT SUCKS! Get Real Greg Abbott!!
by L Pastrano
(Austin, TX)
I'm a custodial parent of a child that recently stopped receiving child support. Needless to say this deadbeat father that lives in Elgin hasn't seen our son since he was 3 years old. He's now.... 15!
I recently went into one of the office here in Austin to speak with a CS Officer because I never get any updates from them regarding my case. I wonder if OAG is really there for the non-custodial parent or the child?
I spoke with an officer there and concluded with this 'FACT'. (As I sat there in tears) Texas State laws feel as long as a non-custodial parent pays child support at least 4 times a year that is sufficient. How have I come up with this determination you ask? If a non-custodial parent that owes child support stops paying child support they will then get a letter from OAG. They give them 30 days to respond to this letter. And if they don't respond within those 30 days, they send another letter giving them another 30 days. If they still don't respond.... they send a third letter giving them another 30 days to respond. And think about this... if that non-custodial parent sends in 'a check' for 'one payment' within that 90 days window they are off the hook. And then the cycle can begin again. So in actuality, the non-custodial parent can get away with paying child support 4 times a year and stay out of jail and out of court. DOES THIS SEEM FAIR?? But this is Texas Laws for you. This is a disgrace, no wonder we have so many crimes against children.... they don't have any rights or no one to stand up for them. But we as society wonder why our children are into crimes and wonder down the path of destruction. Well heck, they don't stand a chance without appropriate financial backing. So Texas leaves it up to the single parent that's trying to raise their child(ren) on a single income or one that's working two jobs to make ends meat.
It's true.... this is a man's world, because if it was a woman's world, this probably wouldn't happen. Lord knows we need a man to be a hero and stand up for these children! GOD HELP THEM.
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TX LAWS FOR CHILD SUPPORT SUCKS! Get Real Greg Abbott!!
The sad thing is that you have no chance of getting any of those payments back, because they never give entitled refunds back to fathers. Even fathers that have been paying for a child proven to not even be his. The state loves that money too much. They love it so much they're willing to destroy father/child relationships, willing to destroy any and all lives involved, in order to keep getting it. It's all collateral damage to them.
Fathers are always blamed when they have no relationship with their children, or can't or won't pay child support. The fact is that the system is set up to defeat fathers. It's rare to find a father that wouldn't love to see his child more, who wouldn't do or pay anything IF HE WAS TREATED FAIRLY BY THE SYSTEM AND ALLOWED TO PARENT HIS OWN CHILD! That is rarely allowed by custodial mothers, and even more rarely enforced by judges.
I applaud mothers that encourage their children to spend time with their father, even when they don't have incentive (other than their child's happiness) to do it. It's a proven fact that fathers go above and beyond what is expected when they are treated as a parent, instead of just an interloper providing a monthly check.
Mothers, how would you feel if you were court-ordered to pay hundreds of dollars every month for a new car (just as an example) BUT you could never see or touch that car. You're told you have no ownership rights but still have to pay. Would you continue to pay year after year with no resentment? Of course not! And fathers love and miss their children a whole lot more than you'd love and miss that car.
Children need fathers every bit as much as they need mothers. Americans should be fighting for changes in the system to bring fathers back into families, instead of continuing to throw them away.
Aug 24, 2010 Rating
Stand up by: Raheim
I have been reading internet post for the last 3 weeks. I have heard enough talking lets start doing something. Let?s stand up for what is right and fair for the non custodial parent. I have 3 kids that I am paying child support for. Its time to stop all the talking and stand up and do something, We need to elect a day for the people who are tired of being used and neglected to stand and make our voices be heard. I think we could get a lot more attention to our cause that way. Then blogging on websites. Who's with me?
Jul 22, 2010 Rating
Do your JOB by: Anonymous
I havaen't received a payment since 7/2007 he has a warrant for his arrest and have not been arrested in 2yrs...cause it's not in their precinct...her father stays 10min away and never comes to get her and they say they can't find him....I told them his new BM receives chilsupport for 2 other kids why can't you find his address through her. THEY SUCK BIG TIME
Jul 21, 2010 Rating
20 years of non payment by: Anonymous
I have been going through the same thing of a deat beat father not paying his child suport. He still owes over46000.00 and the attorney genral office just keeps sending him letters and he refuses to pay. I heard that the attorney genral office filed on the deat beat and they would go to jail for non payment. not with this one. He has never spent a day in jail for not paying. This has been going on for over 20 years now. the attorney genral is not on the children behalf. They are for the dead beats of the world.
May 18, 2010 Rating
Deadbeat Daddies always win...SMFH by: Anonymous
Texas Laws do Suck!!!
I'm a single parent of a 2yr old. And his father does NOTHING!.... For some reason they cant find him. But they have his number and moms address. He doesn't see his son or take care of him. I filed support on him a year ago. Since they cant find him they Dissmissed my case so I have to start all over again and miss Work. It'slike there's taking money from my son werther than getting me money. its sad how they treat u more as a number than a person.
May 03, 2010 Rating
unfair by: Anonymous
i am a 22 yeal old male who pays 921 dollars a month. i only see my daughter 2times a month because i work out of town. it is unfair that her mom is driving a 2010 silverado while i drive 1996 van because i cant afford another payment but my house and bills. worst of all my daughter is not even use to me, her mom intoduced her to her step dad who spends evry day of his life with her, and i just work to provide for her, because of course she is more attached to that other man than me,i get no credit
Nov 07, 2009 Rating
The state cares nothing about fathers, mothers OR children! by: Anonymous
Having to deal with the insanity of the TXOAG is bad for naerly anybody. Who wins when the parents are pitteed against each other in court, the judges are bound by what's "politically correct" instead of what's best for the child, and the state only cares about the almighty matching federal funding they recieve?
NOBODY BUT THE WORTHLESS ATTORNEYS, THE ARROGANT JUDGES AND THE STATE of TX! THE BIG LOSERS ARE CHILDREN AND PARENTS!
There are too many fathers that are not allowed to see their children, and the judges are too biased to enforce their own worthless visitation orders.
It's "politically correct" to give mothers custody even when proven unfit. If too many fathers are getting a fair hearing in court, the wrath of the local feminist organizations (which runs the system) come down hard on the head of justice.
There has too be a better way to do things. There has to be some way to stop the bleeding of the American family, the waste of throwing away decent fathers and some way to stop the destruction of the children.
It's all a matter of money all along the filthy government line. Nothing else matters.
My family has been destroyed by the corrupt TX family court system. It's like a nightmare that never ends, the suffering never stops.
Parents, don't put your children in the hands of the entity that LEAST cares about them. Work together in your divorce to do what's right for your children. Don't let the corrupt system make those decisions for you.
Sep 16, 2009 Rating
I disagree with anon person by: Michele
You are saying that we don't spend a fraction of what the father pays on our kids? Sheesh how much do YOU pay? I only get 185 a month and he can't even keep up with that. And let me tell you, 185 pays for maybe a week! Of food... and kids need more than food! BUT, her father comes to see her every weekend. He's court ordered to see her every other week, but he comes every week. He has 2 other children to take care of... in my eyes he chose to have those kids and if he can't afford all 3 kids he shouldn't have popped out the second two. Even so I'm understanding. I don't complain to him about his lack of payments. As long as he's there for my daughter I'm fully capable of taking care of her finacially myself. Without gov. Assistance I might add. TOO many people are having kids they can't afford and I think it's ridiculous. Our kids suffer because we are irresponsible, and they learn from us and do the same when they grow up. "It's ok to live on food stamps child support alimony and have as many kids as you want because you get PAID for it" it's a bad message. It's not only texas that sucks, it's the whole United States! We are brought up to be stupid.Also that whole "every 3 years you go back to court to assess your case and end up paying more money" that's your ex's doing. It's an OPTION to do so. I disregard the option, we've only been to court once and it was because he hadn't paid in a year. My daughter is 6 btw. But to your post, yes I agree. Texas is lacking to help our children. They are not put first. My ex got a letter in the mail stating that if he did not make a payment within 5 days they were going to have a court hearing. In his letter they complained MORE about him owing for the state for medical insurance than it complain about his back child support. They care about their interest and the money THEY get rather than the money owed to the child. Some of these mothers were stay at home moms and when their husbands left are now screwed. Those mothers actually need the money to help rais the kids and the fathers aren't paying. And who cares? No one.
Jul 30, 2009 Rating
Overboard by: Anonymous
TX laws do suck. If you are a hard working father that pays child support 100% of the time, sees his son almost as much as the mother 60/40, then why should one be raked over the coals every 3 years to have more money taken out. The mother dosnt even spend a fraction of the cash the father spends in child support. He must scrounge around to survine, exhaust all his credit in hopes that the next raise will be enough for him to survive, only to be taken back to court and ordered to pay even more rediculous amounts of money. Although she can now drive around in a luxury SUV while he cant he even afford to take his son out to eat in his 200k+ mile vehicle. Seems like the real focus is being lost...
Apr 08, 2009 Rating
I AGREE W/JORGE by: Anonymous
IT IS ALL ABOUT WHO HAS MONEY!!! I HAVE BEEN FIGHTING FOR CHILD SUPPORT FOR 3 PLUS YEARS...MISSED TONS OF WORK BECAUSE OF IT AND ALL THEY DO IN COURT IS RESCHEDULE...THE DAD IS A DRUG ADDICT ..I FOUND OUT IN FAMILY COURT AFTER HE CAME TO MY JOB AND ASSAULTED ME.... HE MARRIED HIS "BOSS" AND SHE TOLD ME I WOULD NEVER GET ANY MONEY FROM THEM....LOOKS LIKE SHE WAS RIGHT....IF YOU QUALIFY FOR GOVERNMENT ASST OR HAVE TONS OF MONEY...YOU MIGHT HAVE A SHOT AT GETTING SOMEWHERE...OTHERWISE.....FORGET IT!!!
Feb 06, 2009 Rating
I Pay My Child Support by: JORGE GUTIERREZ
I pay my child support and try to stay current, which I've done so far. I have a problem; this lady doesn't get paid child support or the father doesn't even want to see his kid...I totally disagree with the Father's Action. I in the other hand am not allowed to see my 3 year old son, and I've taken San Antonio Police with me at the time of visitation, I've contacted Legal Aid, I've consulted several lawyers who charge and arm and a leg, and yes, I have a court order that allows me to see my son. This lady has destroyed my feelings by not letting me see my son, the son that has my name and that I love with all my heart. The law can't do nothing for me unless I pay a lawyer like 2,500 dollars. Why do I have to pay again if I already have a court order? Why can't the police department do anything if the mother is in direct violation of a court order? That is a bad combination; I guess it's all about money and not about the well being of our children. This is so stressful and this lady gets away with things like that. She also has a daughter from a different man who does not let him see her aswell; and still the law can't do nothing. God Bless and Protect our children.
May 19, 2010 Rating
I understand Jorge! by: Susan
My son goes through the same thing you describe Jorge. The entire system is so ANTI-father it's rediculous. They rarely enforce a father's meager visitation rights, and then wonder why fathers get upset at having to pay the state ransom (child support)that never gets them any time with their child.
My son has not been allowed to see his only child, my only grandchild, for 5 years now even with a visitation order in place. He has filed motions in couirt and done everything he can and all is ignored. It's no wonder fathers finally give up and walk away. The courts care NOTHING about the children OR fathers but only about the mothers, due to the feminist regime that runs the entire system now. They've done tremendous damage to so many children.
The laws are blatantly anti-male AND anti-child!
Jul 26, 2010 Rating
1 YR. by: DADS WHO DO PAY
MY SON TURNED 18 A YEAR AGO AND I STILL TAKE OF HIM WHICH HE LIVES WITH ME BUT IM STILL PAYING CHILD SUPPORT AND THAT HE STOP GETTING NOR THE MOTHER. IM GOIN THROUGH HELL TO GET IT TO STOP AND GET MY MONEY BACK. ITS EASY TO TAKE IT BUT HARD TO STOP PAYMENT. WHY IS THAT? THEY TELL ME TO GET A LAWYER BUT I CAN'T AFFORD ONE. I GUESS I CAN TREAT IT LIKE A 401K AND WAIT TIL THEY DESIDE TO GIVE ME MY MONEY BACK BUT I MIGHT BE DEAD AND NO ONE WILL KNOW. THEY SUCKS FOR THE GOOD DADS THAT "DO" TAKE CARE OF THEIR KIDS.
