Unfair to the supportting father
by Gregory Styles
I am a father of three kids, and I am on child support for only two, I am a responsible father who plays the role of a father in my kids life, with or without the child support. I feel it is very unfair to a father to be placed on child support just because things went sour in a past relationship. If a father is willing to be a father to his kids and still take care of his kids then I feel there is no need for child support. Most mothers do it out of spite, they feel that since it didn't work they will hit the father where it hurts, in his pocket. Now I go to work everyday trying to stay on top of my child support, and support me and even just to have extra money when my kids are in my custody, I barely make it and I don't feel that is fair to me, the child support system makes it hard to be a man in this world, I feel that the system should set some responsibility level for the mother, instead they make it easier for the mother, making them feel that it is okay to keep having kids out of wedlock, the system provides daycare, food stamps, Medicaid and housing to mothers, as long as the father is paying child support. The mother doesn't have to work at all because the child and mother are getting everything they need from the government, the money that is paid in child support is spent on anything the mother wants to spend it on, and 9 times out of ten, it's not the child. And the whole time the mother is going on with her life LIVING off the government, the father is struggling just merely trying to EXSIST in this world. The mother is held to no responsibility of taking care of what she helped bring into this world, both parties should both be held accountable for that. I think before child support is decided there should be some kind of counseling or class to ensure that the support of the children or fair on both sides and that both parties are contributing to the child. Because it's funny how the government garnishes the fathers check every pay day to make sure that he is doing his part, but does nothing to make sure the mother is doing her part. Honestly I feel child support is unnecessary if two grown people lay down and have a child then they should figure out a way to raise and take care of that child as adults, together or not, with the best interest of the child in mind. Life is suppose to be a lesson not only for fathers but mothers too, if people feel they are ready to experience unprotected sex, then they should be ready to deal with everything that comes with it, like a child and everything that comes with raising that child. Child support is a bail out plan for sorry mothers, their are more sorry mothers in the world than sorry fathers now, but the government doesn't see it that way. all fathers are dead beats, let the government tell it.
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