I'm dealing with an abusive narcissistic sociopath, who happens to be a general surgeon. I supported him throughout his medical training for 10 yrs. He knew nothing about life, never traveled out of his state of PA ever, totally uncultured, never played anything, nor swam, nor skiied, nor skated, nor boated, theaters, opera and symphonies. Who doesn't know how to swim in this age?! Good grief! Showed him everything he knows now, which he uses to lure women, to pretend he has any class. I paid for his swim lessons when he was 28yrs old, along with the wedding, carribean trips, cruises, honeymoon, home renovations! I taught him everything about life which his family never taught him. I bought him whatever he wanted, even the Rolex as wedding gift. I worked my tail off, and very successful at my career at the time to support him in his medical training. He thanked me in front of his entire graduating medical class that he would never have made it through medical training and residency if it weren't for me, I was pregnant with my first baby. We moved to NC b/c he wanted to finally provide me a better living down South, b/c it's cheaper to live there. I'm a city girl, but I compromised as a supporting wife. I gave up my successful career at the height of my career believing his empty promises. When I had my first angel, I stayed home, playing the doctor's wife, put all my energy into helping his practice to setup, hostess dinner parties for referrals, etc. I then caught my ex on porn websites, perverted teen websites, he started affairs with his secretary and nurses, it was like an explosion of ego! Once he became an MD, no laws or rules applied to him. He became abusive verbally, mentally, and physically. Long demented story short, he met a Philipino girl online, married her within one month of meeting her online using my timeshare out of the country for their honeymoon, while we were still married!! I thought bigamy is illegal?! He used my timeshares to take her and other women on trips, without me ever knowing, b/c he became such a good liar. The second he makes any income, he's sure to spend it that day, so he doesn't have to pay child support. His constant excuses are, he's not making enough money to pay taxes, can't eat, can't pay his bills. But he's seen riding a Harley-Davidson which he bought cash, his truck cash, and his 800K mansion, which he foreclosed on in 6 months after purchasing it. But if it's to pay child support, he never has the money.
Sep 12, 2009 Rating
To sad and frustrated by: Anonymous
I used to live in Indiana, and collected child support from my ex-husband through a wage withholding order. When he switched jobs, he didn't bother to let me know, so the support stopped. I contacted the prosecutor's office and they were able to find out where he was working through a software program that looks for him (by tracing him through taxes or social security being withheld from his paycheck for example). They tracked him within about a month and filed a new wage withholding order on my behalf. My understanding is that this is a nationwide system. You might check with the prosecutor's office in your state.
Sep 03, 2009 Rating
I wish you were My Ex by: Larry of Tucson
I hope this makes you feel better. I wish you were my ex. I would have paid you weather you had a job or not, just for taking care of my daughter and understanding a father needs to be a part of there childs life.I hope you can get him good. I only say that because of fathers like myself who have been screwed out of a life with there child and money. And irresponsible assholes like your ex who make the rest of us look like emotionalless brainless men. Please Read my Blog "No One Wants the Child Support". I love my children and would pay a million a month if I could afford it just to be a part of there lives. I missed so much time with my daughter from age 3 to 16 and I tried to pay they closed my case, quashed my wages, and refused payment for over 8 years "Read My Blog NO ONE WANTS THE CHILD SUPPORT" and now I/WE have to pay out our butts for doing nothing wrong and now my 5, 10, 15 year old children are going to have to suffer the judicial systems finacial wrath on our lives. I would like to wish you good luck in getting the real "DEAD BEAT DAD" but please do wish me luck in fighting the "IRRESPONSIBLE, GREEDY CUSTODIAL PARENT"
