Very sad, frustrated and not sure of what to do
I am now disabled and can't work. My ex-husband owes over $46,000 in child support. He has earned really large money in the past. I know in 2001 he averaged $25,000 a month, yet didn't pay any child support. He lies to the courts and the judge seems to believe him every time. He is to pay $150 a week in child support and just refuses to do so.
The state finally was able to garnish his wages and after just one paycheck he quit his job! He has had nothing to do with our daughter. She is almost 14 and he has only seen her a few times in her life. He was actually with another woman the day she was born. He was an abusive husband too. I know she is probably better off without him. I just am so sad and don't know where to turn. I feel so alone.
Some times it seems that I have the weight of the world on my shoulders. My daughter is pretty understanding, but some times she feels jealous of other children who have loving fathers and money to do things. Right now we can't even afford to eat at McDonalds. Life is so tough now.
Her birthday is coming up in two weeks and I am feeling so horrible as I don't know what to even do for her.
I didn't worry about him not paying before as I made enough to take care of us, but now I can't work and I am hoping to be approved for Disability. I was denied once and so hope they will approve me on an appeal.
Life is just so tough now. My ex-husband is working and has money, but he just won't pay any. I have never been mean to him or hurt him in any way ever.
Right now, though, I just feel so discouraged. I wish he could be made to pay. I don't understand why the judge never does anything to him. He promises to pay a certain payment and never does, yet he never gets punished for it.
I don't want him in jail-- I just wish he would pay what he can as right now I really need some help.
He has never bought our daughter anything for a Birthday and only remembered 2 Christmasses in her life.
He has another daughter who he sees every other weekend and does for. He is divorced from her mother as again he was abusive, but at least this time he does care for his daughter.
I am happy for her, but also sad for my daughter as she has never had a father.
Thank you for listening. If anyone has any advice I would love it.