I was divorced in Dec. 95, and since then it has been an up hill climb for my children to get from their father what is owed to them. This is not the first time I have gone through this. The first time was back in 85' after the birth of my first son. That took me twelve years just to get paternity established, after that he did pay. They didn't go all the way back just 2 years but he did pay. I wasn't even married to him. Now, my Ex-husband is a whole different story. He tried to skip to another state just to not pay support. He was once a Marine got out on a medical and has used that as an excuse ever since. We used to live in the same state,but for the last 4 years I had moved 1800 miles away from him. I feel that since the move my children have been put on the back burner. I have talked with the VA about benefits for my children now 15 and 17,and you wouldn't believe the book I have to write and have proof of just to have them hear my side of things and maybe something will be done. then there is state child support system. If you are not getting any kind of State aid you just don't matter enough to do anything about the situation. And don't think that when the paper work is in that you just can sit back and someone will get back to you soon. NNNNNOOOOO you stay on their butts and keep bugging them until they are sick of seeing your name and hearing your voice and then maybe you will get somewhere in the system. It seems with my Ex they always seem to believe him on his excuses on why he can't work. One story after another and yet he still doesn't pay anything. He owes his children over 15,000 in back support and only has to pay 300.00 a month for support and won't even do that. Good luck to all of you in your quest. Melissa G
