Currently going through the same thing and we all live in the same house. Only thing I think you can do is just pay what is owed and close your case.
Apr 17, 2009 Rating
A suggestion by: Anonymous
Now, because you are receiving some type of State, or County Aid is and you guys are not married is why he has to pay. Now keep in mind when I say "AID", this could be cash-aid, medical coverage, excluding foodstamps. Now your to options is this.
1. Get married and combine the income and receive the help you need that way.
2. Get your own income (work)and receive no State or County help and help pay back what he owes the State or County help that you are receiving.
What this boils down to is that the help you are receiving is for the support of his child and the way the system see it is, if the have to help tie up the loose ends then he has to pay them back, or You guys can get married and come to them as a family.
Feb 03, 2009 Rating
We live in the same house by: Anonymous
That happen to me nine yrs ago with my husband. My boyfriend at the time but we went to court and he explained that we live together and he support his daughter. They told me the reason that they were going after him is because. At that time I had a order for support in the system for my oldest son. From a prevoius relationship.So since I was not receiving cash assistance from the state they dropped the case.
Jan 29, 2009 Rating
For one thing!!! by: Anonymous
For one thing you said the guy that fathered should pay you and her. Hello it is not about you. It is her money and your probably being punished for feeling that way so there is nothing you can do until you change your attitude.
Feb 02, 2009 Rating
YEA IM ALMOST GOIN THROUGH THE SAME THING... by: Anonymous
I HAVE A SIMILAR SITUATION I HAD MY FIRST CHILD WHEN I WAS VERY YOUNG WITH A DEAD BEAT, IT TOOK FOREVER TO GET THE CHILDSUPPORT AND WHEN I FINALLY DID GET IT IT WAS ONLY 50$ A MONTH. AT THE TIME THAT WAS FINE BECAUSE I WAS GETTING PUBLIC ASSISTANCE. BUT NOW MY SON IS 5YEARS OLD AND I HAD BEEN OF ASSISTANCE FOR 3YEARS ALSO GOT MARRIED AND HAD ANOTHER CHILD. I WAS RECENTLY LAID OFF FROM WORK SO ME AND MY HUSBAND SEPERATED FROM ALL THE STRESS. I WENT AND GOT BACK ON PUBLIC ASSISTANCE FOR FOODSTAMPS AND ALSO TOLD THEM MY HUSBAND WAS STILL PAYING HALF OF OR MORTGAGE. THAT WAS ONLY 2 MONTHS AGO AND THEY HAVE ALREADY SERVED HIM WITH CHILD SUPPORT PAPERS!!! I COULDNT BEILEVE IT!!
May 31, 2009 Rating
stop thinking about yourself and think about your children(especially your daughter) by: Stacey Kay
You need to grow up and think about your daughters feelings about not ever seeing or feeling the love from her biological father. You probably are the main reason the father never came around and maybe never will. You want his money so you can pamper yourself or pay your current boyfriends child support for your son you twp have together. Why is it such a big problem for him to pay this money if you get the money anyway and if you two are really together and living together than you can spend the money like you would have if he didnt pay it to the state. Either you aren't telling the truth about your relationship or your leaving something out. Maybe if you read what you wrote you will understand why people are writing such negative things about you. Your daughter is the onew who needs the atttention and probably would like to have some new toys, I am sure the new baby gets all the attention(of course after you get the attention first.) I hope you change your attitude and think about how your daughter may dislike you someday for keeping her father away or you might just be telling her that this new baby daddy is her daddy. Remember when you have children they always come first even before yourself. Stop being so sselfish and focus on your children.
