WHAT ABOUT DEAD BEAT MOM'S?

by MICHAEL LONG
(HORN LAKE, MISSISSIPPI)

I AM A FATHER. I HAVE 2 KIDS FROM A PRIOR MARRIAGE. THE DAUGHTER WHOM I HAVEN'T SEEN IN OVER 9 YEARS LIVES IN IOWA. MY 2ND WIFE AND I ARE RAISING MY MENTALLY HANDI-CAPPED SON FROM MY PRIOR MARRIAGE. WE HAVE HAD HIM OVER 10 YEARS. WHEN MY FIRST WIFE'S MARRIAGE WASN'T WORKING OUT, SHE FILED SUPPORT AGAINST ME, EVEN THOUGH I HAVE OUR OTHER SON. IOWA NOR MISSISSIPPI STATE SEEM TO CARE THAT SHE HAS NEVER PAID ONE DIME IN CHILD SUPPORT FOR OUR SON IN ALMOST 11 YEARS.


YET, I AM STILL PAYING SUPPORT ON MY DAUGHTER WHOM DROPPED OUT OF SCHOOL IN 11TH GRADE, HAS MOVED OUT OF HER MOTHER'S HOME BEFORE SHE WAS 18. I CAN NOT GET THE CHILD SUPPORT STOPPED. I AM TOLD TO GET AN ATTORNEY, YET EVERY EXTRA MONEY I GET IOWA TAKES FROM ME. EARLIER THIS YEAR I HAD SURGERY AND DID NOT WORK FOR 4 MONTHS. WE APPLIED FOR ASSISTANCE AND TRIED TO GET AN ORDER AGAINST THE MOTHER. NOTHING HAS HAPPENED TO HER IN OVER 10 YEARS. YET, MY LICENSE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED, I WENT TO JAIL, FOR A DEBT THAT WAS ALREADY PAID, IOWA JUST HADN'T TAKEN THE TIME TO LOG THE INFORMATION INTO THE COMPUTER. S

O OVER FATHER'S DAY WEEKEND I SAT IN JAIL. WHY ARE THE FATHER'S MADE TO PAY SUPPORT WELL AFTER THE CHILD IS 18. YET, MOTHER'S SIT BACK , COLLECT SUPPORT, DON'T WORK, CONTINUE TO HAVE KIDS, NOTHING IS EVER DONE TO THEM ABOUT THEIR BACK SUPPORT. THE MOTHER OF MY KIDS HAS A TOTAL OF 8 KIDS. TWO OF WHICH SHE HASN'T RAISED. IN THE LAST 6 YEARS SHE HAS HAD 4 KIDS. HOW COME I CAN'T GET HELP ON COLLECTING FROM HER.

THEY SEEM TO MAKE THE FATHER'S GO TO JAIL, LOSE THEIR LICENSE, MAKE DAD'S WORK. WHY IS IT A DOUBLE STANDARD FOR WOMEN? I HAVE SUPPORTED MY DAUGHTER HER ENTIRE LIFE, SHE EVEN LIVED WITH MY 2ND WIFE AND I FOR OVER A YEAR, AND WE TOOK CARE OF ANOTHER CHILD THAT DIDN'T BELONG TO ME AS WELL. WHEN WILL THE LAWS ON CHILD SUPPORT BE EQUAL TO BOTH PARENTS? WHY ARE FATHER'S THE ONLY ONES BEING PUNISHED? I HAVE NO SAY TO WHAT OR WHERE MY 18 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER DOES. SHE HASN'T LIVED WITH HER MOTHER IN ALMOST A YEAR. YET, I AM STILL PAYING SUPPORT TO MY EX-WIFE.

I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHERE MY DAUGHTER IS IN IOWA? WILL THE ONE MISTAKE I MADE OVER 20 YEARS AGO WHEN I MET THIS WOMAN, FOLLOW ME UNTIL MY DAUGHTER TURNS 21. IT WOULDN'T BE SO BAD IF MY DAUGHTER WENT TO SCHOOL, WORKED. SHE DOES NEITHER AND SHE DOESN'T EVEN RECEIVE THE SUPPORT MY EX-WIFE DOES ALONG WITH HER NEW HUSBAND. YET, WE HAVE FILED AGAINST HER AND NOTHING IS DONE TO HER. I AM SUPPORTING MY EX, HER HUSBAND, AND ALL HER NEW BABIES SHE HAS EVERY YEAR.

NONE OF THE MONEY OVER THE LAST YEAR HAS EVEN WENT TO MY DAUGHTER. BOTH STATES KNOW THIS, YET, THEY STILL DON'T CONSIDER HER EMMANCIPATED. COME ON, IT SCREAMS EMMANCIPATION. MY FAMILY CAN NOT AFFORD AN ATTORNEY, LEGAL AIDE SAYS WE ARE OUT OF THEIR DISTRICT. WHEN THE PAYING FATHER'S, AND FATHER'S WHOM RAISE THEIR CHILDREN GET A BREAK?

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Go Political!
by: Johnny

I was able to contact my local elected representative, and his office was able to assist me in a situation, of which resulted in a favorable outcome. CONTACT YOUR ELECTED POLITICIANS, I was successful in this avenue. GOOD LUCK!

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RIDICULOUS
by: CARINA WATERS

I READ YOUR STORY AND I FIND IT ABSOLUTELY PATHETIC. FATHER'S SEEM TO ONLY HAVE THE RIGHT TO PAY THE SUPPORT, BUT HAVE NO OTHER LEGAL RIGHTS. I HAD A FRIEND WHOM WENT THRU THE SAME THING. THE STATE IS QUICK TO PUT DAD'S IN JAIL, AND TAKE AWAY FROM THEM, YET THE WOMEN CONTINUE HAVING KIDS AND AREN'T RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYTHING. I WILL KEEP YOUR FAMILY IN OUR PRAYERS.

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