What I wish about DeadBeat Parents...

by Thea
(Childress)

I wish that dead beat parents could be dealt with more harshly than what they are. I raised my son, now 25, with no help from his father. The ironic thing is, now I am receiving receipts on how the state of California is now attaching daddy's wages for a whopping $50 a month, but I haven’t seen a red cent of it because it's all going for child support in arrears to pay back the old AFDC (Now called TANIF) bill that I had to raise up because daddy wouldn't pay.

Now I live in Texas and I have two grand-children from my oldest daughter; and guess what? Their daddy is a deadbeat too! Also because of daddy, mommy and children have been pretty much homeless since December. That was when daddy kicked mommy to the curb and said she wasn't getting anything from him. Mommy had my 6 month old grand-baby that following April.

I just don't see how anyone, man or woman, could let a child be brought into the world and then not take care of their responsibility. Children should not have to live like this! It's just wrong for the irresponsible parent to let their child(ren) squabble in poverty while they are living it up and having fun.

My 25 year olds daddy did everything he could to avoid having to pay for his son; like quitting his job every time his wages were attached and joining the carnival and getting paid under the table. And would you like to know what he told me the last time I talked to him on the phone? He said, "I have no regrets because he's my son and I love him." I asked him, "Since when did you have anything to be regretful about? You haven’t even seen your son since he was in the first grade!" Then I slammed the phone back on the hook. My son was fifteen when this conversation took place.

Now my two grand daughters, 3 years and 6 mos., is having the same problem with their daddy. In fact he just quit his job and said he was moving. Also on top of it, the only time their daddy wants to see them is when it's convenient for him, so not only do they not get the very much needed money their daddy is supposed to be giving them, they also don't get to see him much. In fact, the 6 month old has only seen him twice since she was born. And to add fuel to the fire, the last time he saw the kids (which was just the other day) he had the nerve to try and sweet talk their mommy into giving him the kids. His ulterior motive I’m sure is to get out of having to pay child support.

Why is this allowed to go on like this? I don't think it's enough for what the law is doing about it now! The child support laws are supposed to help the children, but what can be done when the non-paying parent won't comply? Something more needs to be done to make them pay up, but what? I don't know! Well I do, but my thoughts about it are too morbid to share.

Signed stressing grandmother for distressed mommy