What is the point?

by Evangeline High
(Arizona)

DOES the "Child Support Enforcement Program" really "Enforce" child support payments? It hasn't for me...I don't even know HOW much my Ex owes me in back-payments! Isn't that what the "Program" is for: To keep track of, & to "Enforce" the payments??? I have been somehow surviving & raising our (now teenage) son on less than $10,000/yr. (THANK YOU Food Stamps!!!). I have to account for EVERY PENNY I spend...

In our divorce/custody hearing, the judge calculated over $500/mo.

in child support payments (almost a decade ago), but I opted for less than half of that, since I was making more money of my own back then, & I didn't want to impinge on his "lifestyle" too much.

For this whole past year, he has only paid HALF of that ~ & THAT accumulated amount is not even half of what he already owed me! Anytime I have brought up what he owes me(which is VERY rarely ~ he gets mad about it, so I don't like to address any of it at all, unless my son NEEDS clothes: & even then, I feel bad for having to ask!), he threatens to take our son away from me (not for our SON's benefit ~ he's never had much time for the poor kid ~ but for his OWN financial ease).
I'm well aware that he's the one with the money to get a good lawyer, so I've just been waiting for the "Enforcement" squad to step up & take notice ~ & to "Enforce" the court order.

WHEN (if ever) will this happen? If the court ORDERED payments, why don't they "Enforce" them when they are delinquent? WHY don't they do periodic re-evaluations of each case automatically (even every five years or so...After all, circumstances DO change all of the time!)???

Here's another stupid question: Do they make the non-custodial parent pay the entire accumulated amount eventually? If so, what good does it do the CHILD, if they wait until AFTER the kid is all grown up to enforce it? The money is needed to RAISE the child, NOT to compensate the custodial parent for the years of abject poverty in which the child was raised!!!

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Dec 05, 2011
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VERY DISAPPOINTED IN THE CHILD ENFORCEMENT SYSTEM
by: Anonymous

I am a single mother of 6, my husband has 3 kids outside of our marriage that i know of. He isnt paying child support and, doesnt play an active role in our kids lives. He calls every once in a while or texts me "how are the kids" i tell hiim come see them all the time but he claims hes working but i havent seen any fruits of that labor. Hes shacking up with one of his babys mothers. I work full time but its a struggle for sure at times. I dont ask their father for anything. When will he start taking responsibilty for his actions? It makes me sick to think that he sees and takes care of the kids that he has outside of our marriage but wont give our kids the time of day. Dont know what to do, and the child support enforcement isnt doing anything to enforce this at all.

Jun 01, 2011
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child support
by: Anonymous

I agree this program is useless, everytime my childrens father gets a new job I tell the child support people. they do nothing. then they tell me that they are sending out letters to him and still nothing. They don't check to see if he is working or anything. I think they all should be fired. It makes me so mad that they non-custodial parent can get away with not supporting their children. Just because we broke up doesn't mean that our children should suffer. I'm a single mother of 2 and was on state aid for almost 2 years because their father wouldn't help even though he had a job.

Mar 20, 2011
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child support
by: Anonymous

I agree. They don't support the parents that are supporting the child or children. My son is 2 and I'm a single mom( and still living with my mom) because I can't afford with a full time job to live on my own and support my child. I wish they would enforce child support more, instead of pretending that something is getting done and nothing is getting done. I just started getting child support not too long ago. My sons father claims he has no money but still finds some way to go out to the bar and such and pay his car insurance. WHY DOESNT THE GOVERNMENT CHECK UP ON THESE THINGS!?

Feb 17, 2011
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System Suck
by: Casey

I was married to my ex for 6 years and we had two girls together whom are now 12 and 10. We split in 2003 and he got one and I got one. I moved to Tenneesse in Nov. 2005 and in May 2006 I got our other daughter because him and his wife got into trouble over drugs and the only way he would sign her to me and not go to court was if I agreed on 150 a month for both kids and I did.I didnt want my kids to go threw a custody battle in court. He was ordered to pay me directly and for a year I never saw a penny. So I let the state start handling it and he had to pay 250 a month until he was caught up and he did. But this pat October he paid $28 and that was all and still hasnt paid anything and I found out he flew him and his wife to California to see their boys whom they do not have custody of due to a different meth charge a year and a half ago, but he cannot pay his child support nor can he drive 2 hours to see the girls or an hour to meet me...Our 10 year old is deaf and he has never one time went to a doctors visit or help with any of her medical bills or equipment, and she gets new hearing aids every 3 years and those require very expensive batteries she goes threw a pack a week and they cost 10 a pack.That is $520 a year only on batteries... All these dead beat dads laugh cause they think nothing will happen to them because of not paying and I WISHHH all of them would get arrested and threw in prison for a long time. They do not realize their actions effect the kids nor do they care if they cared they would pay. I have not worked in 6 years I have been in school the whole time trying to get a good education. Thank God for my new husband he is a wonderful man who had a kid when we got together and has taken care of him since cause the boys mom is a dead beat mom and a violent sex offender....Luckily she is signing her rights over in order to not have to pay but as far as my ex I will not let him sign them over because he is going to pay for the crap he has put me and my girls threw since day one....There are not many good dads but there are quite a few and I raise my hands to you your amazing and I would have gave anything to have a good father for my girls.

Jan 24, 2011
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Judge is Pro-Deadbeat Dads smiling
by: Step-Father talkin'

I'm the stepfather. I'm a career serviceman. I am the sole financial provider for my (step)child; medical, dental, clothes, shoes, homework, school, extra-cirricular activities, etc. My child's bio-father diliberately works under the table to avoid paying child support, owes over 15Gs in back child support, takes us to court regularly to petition to lower support and gain visitation (amongst other bogus claims), has all the head-shop remedies to passing urine tests, and has a +20 year history of being in and out of rehabs for the best of drugs(junk). What is the deal with Judges in NEW JERSEY or at least with my Judge backing the deadbeat dad? Why is the [deadbeat-dads rights] overpowering the rights of the child? This deadbeat-dad is attempting to knickel-and-dime the very folks raising his own flesh'n'blood, providing oppurtunities to, and trying to provide a future for; meanwhile the Judge seems oblivious to that fact and seems to only know how to give MULTIPLE chances to wrongdoers who can shed tears on demand and have no problems commiting acts of perjury.

Shouldn't a Judge know that "...mercy to the guilty is cruelty to the innocent"? -quote by Adam Smith

Jan 17, 2011
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Where is the Justice??
by: Anonymous

I just went to court on the 13th of Jan and finally some justice...so I thought. My ex didn't show and his attorney didn't even show. The judge issued an arrest warrant with at $13,000.00 CASH bond. I was elated. They next day, however, his attorney somehow had the warrant recalled. I have been fighting this so-called "Enforcement" for years now and I thought I had finally received some justice! Our court systems suck. Hey, let's make sure that Disney Dad gets his visitation in, okay?? He just doesn't have to help provide for her financially!!

Dec 22, 2010
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With you
by: Anonymous

I am right there with you! I have been fighting the system for 12 years now. My ex only owes $299 a month, and can't even come up with that. He refuses to work, which is not my problem or our daughters' problem. He always seems to find money to buy cigarettes and alcohol, but just can't drum up the child support. I had to constantly bug the department of child support enforcement for about a year before they finally referred our case to court. But, even when that happens, don't get your hopes up. We've been in and out of court for years, and I still don't get payments. They do arrest him on child support warrants for failing to appear, but then they just release him on "Work Release". If he's "working", then why isn't he paying?

Dec 07, 2010
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in the same boat
by: Anonymous

i totally agree with you the support unit doesnt do anything to enforce child support they dont care they get paid reguardless and nicely for it too. they want you to do the work and in the end it costs you time and money and in the end you still get nothing from the dead beat. i feel for you as i am in the same boat sometimes i just wish they would make it harder for dead beats to get away with this crap! the children are the ones who suffer not the enforcement dept or the dead beat seems like they dont care and never will

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