I've worked in the system for many years and hated to see men, and some women, pushed into paying child support. What most don't understand is...the courts do not care about you or the child, you will always be a case number to them. A way of keeping them employed. Also, 98% of child support is filed out of revenge. Child support is unconstitutional. People ought to be able to raise his or her kids without the support of the government. I think there are enough men, and women, who are willing to protest against child support. It only takes one person to get things started. Non-custodial parents shouldn't be treated like criminals. If anyone is in Florida, or anywhere, and would like to conduct a peaceful demonstration, class action suit, email us jrreporting@live.com all non-custodial parents are not deadbeats! It's time to start treating them as such.
Dec 18, 2011 Rating
Where is justice for fathers by: Anonymous
My son has temp orders and is paying $10,000 a yr. in support. The money he has paid every month and on time. My son paid an additonal $200.00 for my grandson to play football and requested his mother to provide the safety cup at $10.00. She refused saying it would have to wait till payday and then proceeded to take him to a Mexican resturant for supper. Never did buy the cup, was sent to his first day of school with no bookbag or supplies. Even went to the school and under reported her income as to obtain free books and reduced lunches. One month's check went to pay back friends for her attorney fees and one month went for a set of new tires. All while my grandson went 5 months with no haircut, underwear or socks. After subpoening her income, we found out she underreported that too and now my son is overpaying child support. Where is there help for him. Oh, then she cut him to one night a week and every other weekend. It appears many mothers are using their kids as cash cows and could care less if there child has a father. What can we do to change some of this. Will check back for response.
Oct 16, 2011 Rating
Unfair Support by: Doug
I pay $600 / month for support plus have to provide medical, dental, vision inurance. My income has dropped over $10,000 / yr. Part of my support incorporates $125 / month for daycare which my daughter has not been to in over 2 yrs. However when I got talk to an attorney or call child support I get the runaround. My daughter spent every day with me this past summer and I have her 2 days a week but I still have to pay and pay and pay.
Sep 17, 2011 Rating
Its time to change all of this by: Mike Matzker
I would ask that anyone that is willing to create a class action law suit or knows of one please contact me at m.matzker@yahoo.com or call me 618 927 4852. In 2005 I had back child support in the state of Illinois for $3500.00 due to a job loss and the irs giving me a hard time on my taxes. I won against the Irs so finally my tax returns were sent to the Illinois Child Support Division for delivery to my daughters mother. Over $5000.00 paid that year. Since then I have paid another $10,000.00 and somehow I still owe $7500.00. I was never ordered in court to pay interest and penalties first of all. Second of all I do not believe my payments are applied correctly, I believe the state holds up money to make you further behind. I have a $2500.00 tax return the US Treasury says has been sent to the Illinois Child Support division 2 months ago but Illinois does not show it received. Plenty of illegal activity in the state of Illinois and I suspect more in other states. Its time to band together as one and stop all of this. I do not have a problem with original court order to pay child support but the added interest and penalties are totally unfair worst than the IRS. Most of these women/and men in some cases, take our money poison our kids brains against and laugh all the way to the bank cashing our checks while we struggle to survive. Call me email me its time to start pushing back in every state.
Jul 06, 2011 Rating
enough is a enough by: Anonymous
I have been paying child support for now three years. I lost my job recently because of a layoff! I make 30 thosand less per year than what i was making. I am still having to pay the full amount. I keep geting futher behind while child enforcement drags there feet. My ex. does every thing wrong she can and doesn't get in trouble!! (overnight guest, drinking and smoking around the child!!)I don't have any rights and i am treated like a criminal!! I love my girl very much and would do any thing for her! thanks
Jun 27, 2010 Rating
my son is old enough! by: Anonymous
On a comment by Holcy...
{ "Why not tell your friends about it so they can leave comments
as well?" }
well first of all she now works for the state...
secondly now that she has all of my son's attention.. brainwashing him about me who I am and what kind of father I am he hates me... no doubt!!
I have no time for trivial games anymore... I played those... not knowing... when he was growing up.
Since she works for the state they will believe her.
it is done! I just have to put it behind me NOW.
there is nothing else that I can do. and I have to treat them both like strangers all the time.
final!
Jun 27, 2010 Rating
email reps by: Anonymous
I say lets all email our congressman and Senators with these storys . copy them email your senators with change our laws. Keep doing it till their email system gets so jammed. Then get copys of storys and send a letter each day with storys till their mail system is jammed . Then maybe we will get change. Also AG offfice do the same. I have already started but my alone want do anything with out all of you doing daily. So get going.
May 25, 2010 Rating
Unfair and Unjust Child Support Laws by: Anonymous
My fiance pays $800.00 child support a month plus medical insurance he is responsible for. He also has them every Thursday and every other weekend. He has never been behin on his child support obligation. Every Thurdsay and every other weekend we have the, we have to provide meals for them as well. We also have to buy them clothes, undergarments (underwear, socks) and shoes for our home because their mother sends them over without clothes. How is it just that she claims them every year for income tax when he provides half of their necessities and then some. We have a 3 year old together and a 14 year old from my previous marriage and we don't spend $800.00 in one month for both. For my 14 year old, I receive $162.00 a month and that goes into her checking account for her use only. Every year, my fiance has had to pay taxes because he is unable to claim neither one of his children. The child support system is set up for the custodial parent. Who can I write to or what can My fiance and I do to be heard publicly to change some the child support laws in the state of TX?
Apr 27, 2010 Rating
my step daughter by: Anonymous
My husband has a daughter by a previous marriage. And his ex wife is insane! She gets mad at him, if he doesn't call her everyday to check on his daughter. She calls him a dead beat dad. He pays half of his paycheck to her, and he doesn't get to see his child. Me and my husband had a child and tried to get the child support lowered, but because she had other children it kept his child support the same. She remarried a man with a great job. They don't need the child support. But she doesn't care to let us starve. Me and my husband both literally have lost a total of 70lbs between us from not being able to afford food. I buy our son food and make sure he's taken care of. When we tried to lower the child support that set his ex off. She went to the CS office and now, not only does my husband pay her half his paycheck a month, keeps insurance on her, they informed him that if he doesn't pay the co pays for his daughters office visits legal actions will be taken. Why in the world is he responsible for the co pays as well? What is child support suppose to be for exactly? I thought it was suppose to go for support of the child? I love my husband dearly, but every year there seems to be more drama with his ex wife. She will end up breaking us up. I don't think I can set back and see my son suffer, wearing clothes to small and eating whatever is cheap and not nutrient. It's not fair on my child.
Feb 04, 2010 Rating
my son is old enough! by: Anonymous
I am frustrated with this entire thing for several reasons.
1. the mother of my son, when he was born told me he was not mine. I caught her cheating 5 times with my own eyes. I grew tired of her thinking that she sleeps around too much and I keep catching her at it. so I broke up with her.
during that time I was able to get my life together. 2 jobs saving up for a car and almost independent to move out on my own.. i was 19.
after 3 months of saving to move out the ex-girlfriend came back telling me she has a gift for me (do you think that she was trying to ruin all of my hopes dreams and expectations in life? I do.) i told her I did not want it or anything to do with her because of her unfaithfulness
in the relationship.
after opening the shit gift.. it was baby clothes.. I'm like "what the fuk" this ain't for me, it ain't me and it wont be pinned on me!
she left and I had not heard from her for 12 years. I had been in the army for 7 years by then and just got married and starting to feel comfortable when I got a letter from NYS telling me that I need to take a paternity test. my heart dropped. I could not believe that that same old thing comes back to try to ruin what I have finally built.
my then wife (yes this did break us up eventually im telling you this ex-girlfriend is a home wrecker) told me not to worry about it to take the test. I told her that NYS likes to pin things on men like me. which they did.
so now i have a son who i never did not see. although i was paying support to 2 states because i was in the military in another state. I tried at least 30 times in a 3 year span. it was putting a strain on my then relationship.
when i stopped paying back in 2003 because he was 23 years old i thought I would be able to get my life back on track but the economy went bad. I went back to school to get more training. got a masters and stated looking for work. as soon as i finished school i got an interview...got hired and started working... a strange negative feeling started happening I did not know what it was... my supervisor picked up on it and got the administration to let me go.. in the first week.
I was hurt really bad about that.. after a couple of days passed i got a letter from NYS child support enforcements telling me that I owe nothing to them for the case... well why do they still have me on their rolls if i don't owe anything for them.
putting it together i realize that the ex-girlfriend and the child are a burden to me. I never got to see him. they wont let me work..nys child support and they have smeared my
good name. what did NYS do.. nothing but help a typical down and dirty ex-girlfriend mess up a tax paying citizens life over and over again. and in this all of my rights have been violated. I am so angry, upset and tired of the positions that it keeps me in not being able to positively contribute to society.
Dec 10, 2009 Rating
My son is suffering by: Anonymous
I wanted a divorce from my husband and finally got it after he found someone else. I then lost my job and had no place to live so I agreed that my son would be better living in a two parent home near his beloved school and friends.
My ex quickly filed for custody and started burying me in court costs and debt. I couldn't bare to see my son cry so I let it go.
His new wife soon became very violent and left him demanding a divorce after she racked up enough debt with new credit cards she openend in his name to bankrupt him. She and her children took everything my son owned including clothes and birthday gifts. She took everything my ex owned (which used to be half mine) as well leaving them with no furniture or dishes.
She constantly threatens them by saying that she is going to kill them. Or one of her other ex's will come and kill them.
On top of my child support I have given them dishes, pots & pans, refurbished my sons bedroom and bought him new clothes. I drive 1200 miles a month to see my son on my appointed days. He has been charging me for medical support that my son hasn't been getting so I have to pay additional for that so he is covered.
What I have a problem with is that the day I told him that I wanted a divorce he started taking anti depressants, anti anxiety, sleeping pills and drinking until his passes out. All on top of his high blood pressure, bata blockers and anti acids he takes. Every single day. My son is in a home that is very sick and I don't know how to get my son back.
At the end of December I will once again be unemployed and have no place to live, yet the child support just keeps marching on. I can't even qualify for a loan because of back payments to pay off my child support.
I feel so helpless and desperate and the Attorney General, the State of Texas and everyone else evolved makes me feel like a dead beat looser.
Dec 09, 2009 Rating
Justice Needed for the Child... by: PD
What everyone seems to forget is that both parents need to do what is right for the Child, not themselves. What happens though is the Child becomes a weapon in the hands of a vendictive custodial parent and the courts seem to turn a blind eye to this. I feel so sorry for every parent who has their rights stripped away just because the one parent CAN... But let me encourage those who have been victimized. KEEP FIGHTING. Your child WILL grow up. And when they say "why didn't want to spend time with me" or "why didn't you care enough for me to help with money?" you can say "I did and here is all the court documents showing how I FOUGHT for more visitation but YOUR mom/dad MADE IT IMPOSSIBLE." Then get ready because by then they CAN make their own decision to come live with you.... I know it might be a long fight but please keep fighting.... Your son/daughter IS worth it.
Jul 09, 2009 Rating
gov.collect interest on C.S thats why they do what they do by: Anonymous
yes we should all go to washington and have them srrest us and put us in jail untill they change the system.The government make money off the interest on the money they collect from the fathers that is why the are like doing this.For some of us it will be better if we dont pay and go to jail because we cant afford it and on top of it we cant see our kids,and once you have a criminal record you have a hard time finding a job.we should all get together and for a co-lotion to stop this madness or else where will it end.BILL CLINTON IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS LAW HE BROUGHT THIS IN.We have no future as it stands
so whats the purpose to becom economic hostages for the government.we should stay in jail we woukld be better off we would have 3 meals and free rent
because once you spend time in jain for child support that case should be dismissed you should not still owe that money you went to jail for.you people better stand up for your rights nor you will loos it all,because the government is run by communist that take the the rights of the father so that they can be the father to controll us. wake up guys and smell the coffee every where its the same thing this is not normal something is wrong,will you just sit back and complain for the life of the support it not like its 1 or two yrs in some cases its 20 yrs.dont you see what they are doing?
Jun 16, 2009 Rating
Any advice? by: ScareedDaughter
My mother and sister moved to Arizona in 1997 and I stayed in Michigan with my father. I turned 18 in 2002 and my sister turned 18 in 2006. My mother never filed with FOC for moving either of us out of state. Nor did she file any changes in child support as per their agreement. My father has had his wages garnished and his income taxes taken nearly every year since their divorce (1990ish). He has now had his bank account seized and they're saying he owes over 30,000.00 dollars. He's getting charged for both me and my sister as back child support.
My mother told him that she hasn't seen a dime of child support in 15 years but if he just pays the whole thing she'll split it with him. He can't afford a lawyer and he's had a lot of trouble getting in touch with the correct people (run around). What can he do? I'm going out of my mind with worry.
May 28, 2009 Rating
outraged by: outraged father
what is a father to do in my situation? My four yr old daughter was born out of wed lock. her mother called off our engagement 4months into the pregnancy. Then 6 months after she was born decidede to move my daughter out of state to mississippi and i couldnt do nothing bout it cause she was born out of wedlock and no divorce. then when she gets to mississippi she files for food stamps and medicade just so the state would come after me. now im 2 grand behind on cs and she gets a letter stateing that they r ready to issue a warrent for my arrest and suspend my license. In this economy im finding it EXTREMELY difficult to find a job so thats makein matters worse for me. and to top it all off i have a 9yr old felony thats also makeing it difficult to find a job. she is still on medicaid and food stamps even though she is a manager at a resturaunt and just bought a new house how is that even possible? i need help but cant afford an attourney to take it to court. plus can i use a pic sent to me by my ex of her father standing next to my four year old daughter holding an air rifle in court to prove shes in an unsafe environment to get her back into my custady? I NEED HELPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Apr 24, 2009 Rating
to Frustrated Dad by: Anonymous
I completely understand what you're going through. My husband is going through the same thing with his ex GIRLfriend. He's currently in arrears because of our recent bereavement (and believe me this bereavement was so sudden that we didn't have a chance to prepare ourselves financially). We had a son together but he passed away at 6 months due to a brain tumor and his wicked ex-girlfriend got the nerve to subpoena him to court on his own son's funeral day. Every year we file tax, our refund get seized. Now his license is suspended and lost a job and I'm currently 7 months pregnant again working my behind off just trying to keep our little family afloat. My husband's ex has been re-married for almost 4 yrs now and to make matter more complicated she took the kid and moved out of state with her new husband. I'm just so confused and don't know how to help make things any better. I believe if the mother needs support raising the child then she shouldn't be raising the child. I'd be more than happy to take his son in and raise him together with my husband. Sometimes I feel like the only way out of this child support mess is by divorcing my husband.
Apr 16, 2009 Rating
Arizona is the most sexist state!!!! by: Anonymous
What a joke this state has become!!
Why is the woman automatically the victim when she steps into the courtroom? Totally amazing how a woman can commit perjury in a courtroom and there isn?t any consequences. I don?t know if all the counties in Arizona are as sexist as Cochise county, but I have lost all respect for our judicial system.
After fighting a corrupt system and vindictive ex-wife for two years I finally gave up on four wonderful kids. What a shame this is what our judges allow - so much for children needing there fathers.
Mar 24, 2009 Rating
license suspension by: Anonymous
what i would like to know is who the idiot is that came up with the idea of well if there not paying support or are behind lets take there license!!!!! now tell me who in there right mind would ever be able to work without a drivers license???? especialy if your work involves driving !!!!! this is one law i just cannot comprehend!!! and another is well ok if not the license lets put him or her in jail for failure to pay!! ok so now he or she is paying to be in jail plus going further in the whole with support!!! so tell me who are these democratic people who think taking someones license is going to make someone pay support plus then the state gets a kick back to cause then you have to pay a reinstatment fee on top of all the other !!! so how in the world would any of this ever get passed in the law books as helping????? wouldnt it be just hurting the payee and child more ????? ..thanks for your time..
Mar 07, 2009 Rating
Where/How do we change it by: Bob
This system is wrong. Whatever happened to equal rights. I cared for my children regularly. Now that there is a divorce the mother gets up in front of the judge and has her attorney tell him that I have never been involved in my children's lives.
Now I pay more than half of my income and am forced to support myself and kids when they are with me on $100 per week. On top of that there are threats of losing my drivers license, my professional license and jail time. Like these will help pay support.
I wonder what would happen if we just all showed up to our local county jails and asked to be incarcerated because its what we can afford to do. At least we would have a bed, a warm place to sleep and 3 meals a day while non-custodial parents could continue to keep our kids away from us.
What would that do to the tax system. The other side would be paying for us by default. Maybe that's the type of revolt that will change the system.
I'm willing to go if the numbers will work in our favor.
Jan 06, 2009 Rating
WE NEED CHANGE by: Anonymous
All I have to say is this I have been married to my husband +living togeather for 20 years He paid some child support to ex and also help support my childern also I filed for child support but never recived it from none of my children what I can not understand is Like that one said in his story we all get cheated out of our rights I belive That a man that helps his wife first second....... and so on should get credit for all this Because in reality he is still supporting that others children And the taxes still come from the same office . And this interst they charge is not right because when I got help Inever recived interst with it I tried to support my daughter on $86.00 a month WAS NOT ENOUGH so I went And got a job.I belive WE NEED CHANGE IN LAWS IN CHILD SUPPORT What do you all think have faith in Tx AND PRay
Dec 10, 2008 Rating
Only takes a few by: Anonymous
You can't wholly blame the women for how the courts view fathers in general. I know many single dads who are raising their children because mom couldn't be trusted to raise a goldfish and plenty of NCP dads who do everything in their power to help raise the kids. It's the one's who walk away,never provide emotionally or financially and then gripe when someone calls them out for neglecting their kids that cause a lot of the problems. Laws and guidelines are written by both males and females,there's no great female lead conspiracy going on. I wish my ex would be consistent with visitation and stop disappearing for months at a time, last absence was a year before he decided he wanted to see them. I wish he would grow up and say how can I help you raise our children.Forget that he quit his job to work under the table so that ,that "expletive" doesn't get his money,and owes $23,000 in CS.He had no problem supporting them when we were married,why is it different now and who's being vindictive. I wish I had made a better choice for a father because in the end it's my children who suffer for it.
Dec 01, 2008 Rating
I don't understand by: ashley
After reading all these posts I pretty much have nothing to say. It's all been said. My husband is the father of a beatiful 3-year-old and his ex treats him like he just one step above a baby sitter. Every chance she gets she undermines his role as the child's father. Everywhere from teaching the child to call her new boyfriend 'daddy' to not letting my husband pick the child up from school.
I also believe that there should be monitoring of how the child support is spent. After child support was set up, my husband's ex drove up in a brand new car and said "Look what you're paying for". It's ridiculous.
He has no say in anything regarding the child's life, but he's suppose to pay all this money and scrape by while having almost no contact with the child. I don't understand why a mother has to be a drug addict/ drunk/ degenerate to lose custody, while father's just have to have a penis. I have thought time and again "We have a stable home together, we don't smoke, drink, or party. Why don't we have equal time?"
When both parties are suitable parents, why can't there be a week by week visitation arrangement. For example, she has him for one week, we switch on sunday then we have him for one week? It seems so simple and yet it isn't.
Sep 08, 2008 Rating
MAKES NO SENSE by: Anonymous
SEE I PAY CHILD SUPPORT I AM NO WHERE NEAR BEHIND, BUT WITH THE WAY THE LAWS LOOK AT US MEN AS A WHOLE IS NOT FAR, BY NO MEANS. THERE ARE WOMEN OUT THERE THAT PAY CHILD SUPPORT JUST LIKE WE DO, BUT STILL ARE NOT TREATED THE SAME. I FEEL LIKE THE SYSTEM IS FOR THE WOMEN ONLY I MEAN WHEN WILL WE GET A BREAK, MY SON MOTHER QUIT HER JOB FILED FOR A INCREASE AND MY SUPPORT WAS INCREASED BY 300 DOLLARS, 3DAYS LATER SHE WAS BACK WORKING, IN WHICH SHE NEVER STOP WORKING THEY TOOK HER WORD AND RAN WITH IT, SHE HAD TO BRING NO PAPER WORK IN OR NOTHING I HAD TO BRING PAY DOC, TAX DOC AND ALL WHY? WHEN SHE DIDN'T BRING NO ITEMS TO THE TABLE PAY NOR TAX. I FEEL LIKE IT SHOULD BE A CAP AMOUNT OF INCOME IF YOUR NOT WORKING IT SHOULD BE BASED ON THE STATES MINIMUM WAGE WITH A 40HR WEEK WHICH MEANS, SHE SHOULD BE AT LEAST MAKING THE STATES BASE WAGES. ITS SO MUCH I SEE, THAT MAKES NO SENSE, U HAVE MANY FATHERS AND MOTHER IN JAIL TO DAY FOR BACK TIME SUPPORT, BUT REVOKING THERE LICENSES AND EVERYTHING ELSE MEAN NOTHING THATS ONLY MAKING THE SITUATION WORSE IF I CAN'T DRIVE HOW DO I GET TO WORK, IF I AM IN JAIL HOW DO I WORK, AS BACK TIME CHILD SUPPORT INCREASE, WHAT CHANGES ARE OCCURING MORE MONEY FOR THE STATE WITH THERE 17 TO 20 PERCENT A YEAR INTREST RATE CAP THE STATE CAN CARE LESS ABOUT THE CHILD THEY JUST WANT A PORTION OF THE MONEY THAT CHILD SUPPORT IS EARNING THEM, WHEN YOU FILL OUT THAT APPLICATION FOR THAT NEW CAR IT ASK, YOU ARE YOU RECIEVING CHILD SUPPORT ALLOMONY OR ANY OTHER SOURCE OF INCOME WELL FIRST OF ALL THE CHILD SUPPORT IS NOT AND SHOULD NOT BE CONSIDERED AS OUR INCOME, BECAUSE SUPPOSE TO BE FOR THE CHILD IT IS THE CHILDS INCOME NOT THE MOTHERS OR FATHERS. THE WAY CHILD SUPPORT LAWS ARE IT MAKES NO SENSE WHY COME CASES CAN'T BE DROPPED??? IF YOU DON'T KNOW LET ME TELL YOU BECAUSE EVERY CHILD SUPPORT CASE THAT GETS DISMISSED IS A LOSE OF MONEY FOR THAT STATES, SO THEY ENCOURGE YOU NOT TO DROP THE CAUSE OF IF YOU DO THEN THE STATE TAKES OVER THE CAUSE, SO WHERE IS THE JUSTICE WHAT IS JUSTICE WHAT IS A LAW, LAWS IS A SYSTEM STATES USE, US AS PEOPLE TO EARN MONEY FOR THEM, WILL THE SITE BACK AND WATCH ALL OF US AS PARENT MEN AND WOMEN MAKE A FOOL OUT OF EACH OTHER, CHILD SUPPORT ONLY CAN TAKE YOU SO FAR THE BEST WAY TO SOLVE THIS PROBLEM IS GET AN EDUCATION GET A JOB THAT ALLOWS YOU TO SUPPORT YOU AND YOUR CHILD WITH OUT THE SUPPORT OF THE FATHER, MOTHER, GRANDMOTHER, OR GRANDFATHER OR THE DANG GOVERNMENT THATS WHAT WRONG WITH PEOPLE TODAY THEIR STUCK ON THE SYSYEM AND THE SYSTEM IS STUCK ON YOU. WHICH MEAN YOU AS A MOTHER OR FATHER CAN OWE A MILLION DOLLARS IN BACK TIME SUPPORT, BUT IF YOU NEVER GET IT. YOU CAN BEST BELIEVE THE STATE WILL STILL BE WAITING ON THERE 20 PERCENT IF YOU GET IT SO GUESS WHAT OUT OF A MILLION THE STATE TAKES TWO HUNDERED THOUSAND OF YOUR CHILD MONEY. ( SO WHATS A LAW!!! MONEY AND GREED. SEE OVERSEAS THEIR COUNTRY PAY FOR EACH CHILD THEY HAVE WHEATER THE FATHER WORK A NINE
Sep 03, 2008 Rating
Mothers Rights and child support by: Anonymous
I have looked throughout this file, WHERES MOTHERS RIGHTS, I guess we have none, The state of Idaho has been great, to help me, my concern is back child support , after the child support stops (when turning 18), wheres the money from his taxes, that would help. Dead beat may not even file his taxes, wheres the state of Washington, to not monitor back taxes.......................................
Aug 13, 2008 Rating
leaving the state by: Anonymous
I believe your daughter is old enough to choose. You will have to petion the court buy her age gives her some say in what goes on.
Aug 13, 2008 Rating
When will custodial parents be held responsible for how they spend 'the childrens' support money? by: Anonymous
This is my second time living with a man who is paying child support for two children. I fully believe they should. What I can't understand is why there are no laws that govern the way that child support should be spent once the Financial Declaration of the Divorce Agreement is signed. Why is the custodial parent not held more responsible to uphold it? Both of these non-custodial dads have paid well over $1,200/month (while barely scraping by) only to watch as the custodial mom spends very little on the children as far as clothing, daily expenses, and entertainment while using the child support money to pay for a better way of life for themselves. Child support should be exactly that, not ex-spouse support!
Aug 11, 2008 Rating
Custodial Parent by: Anonymous
I feel for everyone and I too have a story, my ex left the country for six years and then came back when my daughter was 11. He wanted us to be like it was when we were still together, he treats her like a baby, she is now 13, she does not want anything to do with him. I am trying to move out of state and now he acts like he has some sort of access to her daily, he has been harrassing me on the phone and calling everyday, but before I wanted to move he called like once a month or so. Also, he says he wants to take her overnight, he is a danger of leaving the country as he has done so frequently, so I don't feel that my daughter should have to go and she does not want too. Please leave any comment you think might help!
Jul 29, 2008 Rating
change the law by: Anonymous
I am also looking for ways. In New Jersey it is one blanked law income v income. When the mother know how to play the system she wins no matter what. I am just a working stiff trying to survive.
Jul 29, 2008 Rating
Frustrated Dad by: Anonymous
It seems to me that some women are exploiting the flaws in the system that don't provide equal treatment to the non-custodial parent. The system is one-sided and needs to be revised. Some women will put men up for child support just because the men won't stay with them. I also think that once a woman re-marries the child support should be adjusted. I am re-married and have more children, my ex-wife is also re-married with no additional children. I feel like I am supporting their family while my family is barely making it. Is there anyway to challenge these laws because it seems that nobody wants to do anything to help when it comes to the non-custodial parent. Most lawyers don't do much to help either. It seems like these child support laws can't be touched. I also heard that states get grant money from the federal government based on the amount of child support collected. I really want to do something to fix this broken system I just don't know where to start. I will just keep researching until I find a way to help people in the same situation.
Jun 30, 2008 Rating
there are dead beat moms by: a father
My current wife of 12 years and I raised my daughter. which I had soley since she was one. Rebelled so bad at the age of 15 it was putting my other children in danger. I had to force her bio mother to take her who never paid her child support or visited my daughter. She took me to court right away and the judge ordered me to pay her $800.00 a month. How am I suposed to afford my family now. The mother still doesn't really want her just our money. There is really something wrong with New Jersey's support laws. It didn't matter I raised her for 15 years with no help. The judge wouldn't even here anything I had to say. How does a person try and change a law?
A FATHER LOST
Apr 23, 2008 Rating
I Feel For You by: Anonymous
Unfortuantely non custodial fathers that don't do the right thing make it bad for everyone else. My ex husband is over $25k in arrears and has no relationship with our son (by choice). Now that our son is 18 years and in college he believes that his son should "give him respect because I'm his dad". Go figure? My son should respect someone that has provided limited social, emotional, and financial support; while his mother (and her fiance) has paid private school tuition and related expenses for the past 15 years and is now paying college tuition.
