SEE I PAY CHILD SUPPORT I AM NO WHERE NEAR BEHIND, BUT WITH THE WAY THE LAWS LOOK AT US MEN AS A WHOLE IS NOT FAR, BY NO MEANS. THERE ARE WOMEN OUT THERE THAT PAY CHILD SUPPORT JUST LIKE WE DO, BUT STILL ARE NOT TREATED THE SAME. I FEEL LIKE THE SYSTEM IS FOR THE WOMEN ONLY I MEAN WHEN WILL WE GET A BREAK, MY SON MOTHER QUIT HER JOB FILED FOR A INCREASE AND MY SUPPORT WAS INCREASED BY 300 DOLLARS, 3DAYS LATER SHE WAS BACK WORKING, IN WHICH SHE NEVER STOP WORKING THEY TOOK HER WORD AND RAN WITH IT, SHE HAD TO BRING NO PAPER WORK IN OR NOTHING I HAD TO BRING PAY DOC, TAX DOC AND ALL WHY? WHEN SHE DIDN'T BRING NO ITEMS TO THE TABLE PAY NOR TAX. I FEEL LIKE IT SHOULD BE A CAP AMOUNT OF INCOME IF YOUR NOT WORKING IT SHOULD BE BASED ON THE STATES MINIMUM WAGE WITH A 40HR WEEK WHICH MEANS, SHE SHOULD BE AT LEAST MAKING THE STATES BASE WAGES. ITS SO MUCH I SEE, THAT MAKES NO SENSE, U HAVE MANY FATHERS AND MOTHER IN JAIL TO DAY FOR BACK TIME SUPPORT, BUT REVOKING THERE LICENSES AND EVERYTHING ELSE MEAN NOTHING THATS ONLY MAKING THE SITUATION WORSE IF I CAN'T DRIVE HOW DO I GET TO WORK, IF I AM IN JAIL HOW DO I WORK, AS BACK TIME CHILD SUPPORT INCREASE, WHAT CHANGES ARE OCCURING MORE MONEY FOR THE STATE WITH THERE 17 TO 20 PERCENT A YEAR INTREST RATE CAP THE STATE CAN CARE LESS ABOUT THE CHILD THEY JUST WANT A PORTION OF THE MONEY THAT CHILD SUPPORT IS EARNING THEM, WHEN YOU FILL OUT THAT APPLICATION FOR THAT NEW CAR IT ASK, YOU ARE YOU RECIEVING CHILD SUPPORT ALLOMONY OR ANY OTHER SOURCE OF INCOME WELL FIRST OF ALL THE CHILD SUPPORT IS NOT AND SHOULD NOT BE CONSIDERED AS OUR INCOME, BECAUSE SUPPOSE TO BE FOR THE CHILD IT IS THE CHILDS INCOME NOT THE MOTHERS OR FATHERS. THE WAY CHILD SUPPORT LAWS ARE IT MAKES NO SENSE WHY COME CASES CAN'T BE DROPPED??? IF YOU DON'T KNOW LET ME TELL YOU BECAUSE EVERY CHILD SUPPORT CASE THAT GETS DISMISSED IS A LOSE OF MONEY FOR THAT STATES, SO THEY ENCOURGE YOU NOT TO DROP THE CAUSE OF IF YOU DO THEN THE STATE TAKES OVER THE CAUSE, SO WHERE IS THE JUSTICE WHAT IS JUSTICE WHAT IS A LAW, LAWS IS A SYSTEM STATES USE, US AS PEOPLE TO EARN MONEY FOR THEM, WILL THE SITE BACK AND WATCH ALL OF US AS PARENT MEN AND WOMEN MAKE A FOOL OUT OF EACH OTHER, CHILD SUPPORT ONLY CAN TAKE YOU SO FAR THE BEST WAY TO SOLVE THIS PROBLEM IS GET AN EDUCATION GET A JOB THAT ALLOWS YOU TO SUPPORT YOU AND YOUR CHILD WITH OUT THE SUPPORT OF THE FATHER, MOTHER, GRANDMOTHER, OR GRANDFATHER OR THE DANG GOVERNMENT THATS WHAT WRONG WITH PEOPLE TODAY THEIR STUCK ON THE SYSYEM AND THE SYSTEM IS STUCK ON YOU. WHICH MEAN YOU AS A MOTHER OR FATHER CAN OWE A MILLION DOLLARS IN BACK TIME SUPPORT, BUT IF YOU NEVER GET IT. YOU CAN BEST BELIEVE THE STATE WILL STILL BE WAITING ON THERE 20 PERCENT IF YOU GET IT SO GUESS WHAT OUT OF A MILLION THE STATE TAKES TWO HUNDERED THOUSAND OF YOUR CHILD MONEY. ( SO WHATS A LAW!!! MONEY AND GREED. SEE OVERSEAS THEIR COUNTRY PAY FOR EACH CHILD THEY HAVE WHEATER THE FATHER WORK A NINE
Sep 03, 2008 Rating
Mothers Rights and child support by: Anonymous
I have looked throughout this file, WHERES MOTHERS RIGHTS, I guess we have none, The state of Idaho has been great, to help me, my concern is back child support , after the child support stops (when turning 18), wheres the money from his taxes, that would help. Dead beat may not even file his taxes, wheres the state of Washington, to not monitor back taxes.......................................
Aug 13, 2008 Rating
leaving the state by: Anonymous
I believe your daughter is old enough to choose. You will have to petion the court buy her age gives her some say in what goes on.
Aug 13, 2008 Rating
When will custodial parents be held responsible for how they spend 'the childrens' support money? by: Anonymous
This is my second time living with a man who is paying child support for two children. I fully believe they should. What I can't understand is why there are no laws that govern the way that child support should be spent once the Financial Declaration of the Divorce Agreement is signed. Why is the custodial parent not held more responsible to uphold it? Both of these non-custodial dads have paid well over $1,200/month (while barely scraping by) only to watch as the custodial mom spends very little on the children as far as clothing, daily expenses, and entertainment while using the child support money to pay for a better way of life for themselves. Child support should be exactly that, not ex-spouse support!
Aug 11, 2008 Rating
Custodial Parent by: Anonymous
I feel for everyone and I too have a story, my ex left the country for six years and then came back when my daughter was 11. He wanted us to be like it was when we were still together, he treats her like a baby, she is now 13, she does not want anything to do with him. I am trying to move out of state and now he acts like he has some sort of access to her daily, he has been harrassing me on the phone and calling everyday, but before I wanted to move he called like once a month or so. Also, he says he wants to take her overnight, he is a danger of leaving the country as he has done so frequently, so I don't feel that my daughter should have to go and she does not want too. Please leave any comment you think might help!
Jul 29, 2008 Rating
change the law by: Anonymous
I am also looking for ways. In New Jersey it is one blanked law income v income. When the mother know how to play the system she wins no matter what. I am just a working stiff trying to survive.
Jul 29, 2008 Rating
Frustrated Dad by: Anonymous
It seems to me that some women are exploiting the flaws in the system that don't provide equal treatment to the non-custodial parent. The system is one-sided and needs to be revised. Some women will put men up for child support just because the men won't stay with them. I also think that once a woman re-marries the child support should be adjusted. I am re-married and have more children, my ex-wife is also re-married with no additional children. I feel like I am supporting their family while my family is barely making it. Is there anyway to challenge these laws because it seems that nobody wants to do anything to help when it comes to the non-custodial parent. Most lawyers don't do much to help either. It seems like these child support laws can't be touched. I also heard that states get grant money from the federal government based on the amount of child support collected. I really want to do something to fix this broken system I just don't know where to start. I will just keep researching until I find a way to help people in the same situation.
Jun 30, 2008 Rating
there are dead beat moms by: a father
My current wife of 12 years and I raised my daughter. which I had soley since she was one. Rebelled so bad at the age of 15 it was putting my other children in danger. I had to force her bio mother to take her who never paid her child support or visited my daughter. She took me to court right away and the judge ordered me to pay her $800.00 a month. How am I suposed to afford my family now. The mother still doesn't really want her just our money. There is really something wrong with New Jersey's support laws. It didn't matter I raised her for 15 years with no help. The judge wouldn't even here anything I had to say. How does a person try and change a law?
A FATHER LOST
Apr 23, 2008 Rating
I Feel For You by: Anonymous
Unfortuantely non custodial fathers that don't do the right thing make it bad for everyone else. My ex husband is over $25k in arrears and has no relationship with our son (by choice). Now that our son is 18 years and in college he believes that his son should "give him respect because I'm his dad". Go figure? My son should respect someone that has provided limited social, emotional, and financial support; while his mother (and her fiance) has paid private school tuition and related expenses for the past 15 years and is now paying college tuition.
