Where Are My Rights

Why don't fathers have any rights except when the mother is a drug abusing lying son of a gun. Im a proud father of a little soon to be 2yr old boy whos mother I had plans on marring decided I wasn't moving quick enough so she took me to court for child support for the amount of $1000 a mth. Why is it ok for women to use children as weapons when they don't get there way. I have joint custody which means Im really paying more than my 17% by law when my son is with me in addition to the cost of living adjustment every two years for the next twenty-one years. How am I suppose to live or even try to provide and save for my sons future?