WHERE IS THE HELP??

by Sydnee W.
(Compton, Ca)

My story is a common one in the are in which I reside. I have allowed myself to become a statistic.. I have 4 children, I am currently on assistance from the government. (no, it hasn't always been that way). Those that have had to apply know that when you do apply those working for the District Attorney ask for all the information that you have on the missing parent.. I don't hesitate to give Any and All information that I have. It frustrates me because I have given social security numbers, addresses, phone numbers, relatives names, other children's names, and NOTHING happens. They always give me the run around. I hear we have done a search, but nothing comes back, and we have sent a verification to the post office but haven't received anything back. I am at my wits end. I have an 11, 9, 3, an 8 month old with NO help. What do you do when you don't know who else to turn too? Who do you turn to when the people that are Supposed to help you. DON'T!

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The government does not care
by: Confused

Well, sorry to say but glad to see I am not alone. The money owed is $56,000.00 plus medical. We get a few payments, then he moves again. "It is too early to do a paid search". Well, does it have to get to $100,000.00. Where are the Feds with all their fancy laws. My taxes were garnised because he did not pay the medical bills (my son's aeortic valve leaked) and it was a state hospital. He lived out of state and does not file taxes. Where are we supposed to go for help? If I treated my kids this way, I would be arrested for neglect, abuse etc. Why can't the government pay us and then they go after him for the monies owed. I bet they wouldn't let it get so far behind. Maybe instead of foreign aid, we should have some at home aid.

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Does the government care about the kids???
by: Becky Prater

Well, I guess my story differs a bit. They know where my ex is but dont inforce him paying regularly. But then when tax time comes around I can assure you they take that money but they keep it. There are months when I live with only two hundred a month because I am unable to work because of having a tumor removed from my spinal cord. But because I have to apply for assistance they get to keep all the tax they intecept. I dont know what they think my two children should live on. I guess the 185 a month they recieve, While I guess the child support they finally collect goes to them so much for the kids we just sitting back watching our kids suffer while the government gets rich on our childrens money and no one will do anything. But you don't see all these politician runnig for office talking about that. I called the state of Tennessee and said I wanted an appeal and was hung up on not once but twice. What a government we have and they wonder why crime is up maybe its just people trying to take care of what the government won't.

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FIND PEACE
by: Sydnee W

Of course people usually, don't plan to be a single parent, but that is the hand that we were dealt. I do ask where is the help out of frustration an anger for these men who are living care free.,but I also find peace in knowing that although things in my life have not gone according to plan..my children and I are surviving without the help of the deadbeats. No, it is not easy, but no one ever said it would be. I take pride in knowing that I can accomplish anything and what greater motivation than that of our children. I hope it brings you peace to know that God can serve these deadbeat fathers an mothers a better dish than we ever could. It may not happen when you want it to, but believe it will be right on time..

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I wonder where is the help too!
by: Anonymous

I am a single mother of 3. My kids father lives in North Carolina. I have a decent job and I am struggling to make ends meet. I applied for medicaid for my children and have been turned down 3 times because of my income. I currently have an application pending through another medicaid organization. It has taken 3 years of tracking my ex down to get papers mailed to him. We have a court date of Aug.5th. He says he is not coming and if they want him they better come get him. He is currently married to a women that has 3 kids (none are his). They live in a brand new house, she just bought a lexus (she doesnt work) he has a new truck and they both have brand new motorcycles. he also owes over 15k in child support for another child. What am I supposed to do about getting support for my kids if he doesn't show up in court?

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