Wife named son without my permission and wouldn't allow me to watch his birth.

by Broken Hearted
(U.S.A)

My soon to be ex-wife has been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and Borderline Personality disorder. Her mood swings and temper tantrums eventually led to us separating after she threatened to call the police for fights she started and would not stop.

Minuets before my son was born her sister informed me that I wasn't going to be allowed to see his birth. I stayed in the hospital that night, but the next morning my wife had me removed, saying that she didn't feel comfortable with me there.

Later that day, I called to check on her and she informed me that she had chosen to spell the name we picked out (a week after we found out it was a he) completely different and that he should have a different middle name. A name that has been in my family for over four generations.

Now, even though there is no formal declaration of separation or divorce, I can only see my newborn son at certain times during the day. When I go back to work after time off for the baby,that time will disappear completely.

Please understand I have always been supportive of her. I have taken on the responsibilities of her daughter as my own and made my home OUR home. Nothing was good enough for her and she routinely had uncontrolled outbursts at me and her daughter for next to nothing. At one point she literally yelled at me for breathing while i was going to sleep.

I feel like I have no rights. Her family has already paid for a lawyer, and I can't afford to get one. And she has started to press for child support.

I feel pretty helpless. Worse still my job requires me to be gone at a moments notice for up to several weeks at a time, and very soon that may change to months away possibly. Therefore custody for me is unlikely even though she's really sick and refuses to admit she has a problem.

What do I do?