Missouri cabinet makers wife sounds like you need to find a job. You knew what you were getting into with eyes wide open
Jul 26, 2011 Rating
what is wrong with you? by: Anonymous
What do you mean when you say why does the custodial parent have to be required to provide for the child?? Do you think the child lives on their own? That has to be the dumbest statement I have heard!
May 24, 2011 Rating
Child Support Does NOT Equal Alimony by: Anonymous
I support hardworking parents--regardless of gender.
I hate those who use, manipulate, alienate and abuse their children. I hope that there is a special place in hell for parents like that. A very deep, very painful pit of hell.
Jan 16, 2011 Rating
you guys don't get it by: Anonymous
Some fathers work hard for their kids, some do everything they can to break all ties and abandon them. I guess there are some women out there who play games and there are men out there who are playing games. My ex refuses to see the kids, I keep asking him to be apart of their lives. I pay 70 percent of the cost of the kids. He threatened to lose his job and he did. Now he wants to pay even less. We have a disabled child. He will not even call him let alone do any of the work involved in getting the child the necessary services to make him functional. I do spend everything I get from him on the kids! I even keep a log of it. Some men just want to grip about the money and be responsible for nothing.
Dec 04, 2010 Rating
Wife from Missouri by: Anonymous
Its unfortunate that your husband's cabinet making job has been eliminated. But how does that mean that his kids should suffer??
Looks llike you need to find better employment to make ends meet until he can find employment. It may mean you eat beans by that is the cost you willing entered
Dec 04, 2010 Rating
the truth by: Anonymous
all you mothers please stop pretending that your child actually sees any of that child support money. it may be called child support but we all know that you support yourselves first and the child gets the change.then when a father falls on hard times you complain. Its not because he's not taking care of the child it's because you cant do what you want to do. these judges need to mandate that us mothers keep receipts of how the money was spent. if they did we wouldn't complain. because we know the truth.
Nov 17, 2010 Rating
Your children need your support by: Anonymous
I feel everyone. I was a single mom with 4 kids. I raised my to sons without child support. Their father's refused to help me. I fault in court with an attorney and still did not receive any help. I could not afford an attorney. I went through a divorce with my last two daughter's father. Single again raising them without child support. I lose my apartment,house, funiture and vehicles. I'am still waiting for child support. He live with his girlfriend that makes good money. She bought him a vehicle. He is working his own business and stated to me he have to meet his needs. So who will help with his daughters ME. It take the court forever for a hearing are take any other actions because it cost. So what are you saying.
Nov 26, 2009 Rating
Dead Beat Dads and/or Moms by: Pissed off Custodial Parent
The bottom line is the parents need to support the child. The custodial parent is already doing what they need to do because the child is living with them. The non custodial parent needs to provide financially and mentally for these children they help create. And to the significant others of these non custodial parents, you need to step off because he or she made that child and it is their responsibility to do so rather you like it or not. There are plenty of programs set up to help a non custodial parent find work so stop with the excuses. I think all parents who fail to support their child should spend time in jail for it, they are not paying the support anyway and it is unfair that they don't.
Oct 16, 2009 Rating
say what? by: Anonymous
"Why is the custodial parent not required to provide support for the child? "
With whom does the child live, a foster family? Otherwise then YES, the custodial parent IS supporting the child.
Sep 03, 2009 Rating
CP by: Anonymous
Being laid off is an excuse, time to find some jobs on and off the books to make due. We have 15 million illegals in this country and they can find work why not your hubby?
This isn't societies responsibility its the ncp responsibility to find enough work so the kids are well taken care of. I have no sympathy for those who think its OK to let the CP works extra jobs to make up the difference.
If they have to spend time in jail, they will realise their responsibility doesn't just end. They can enlist take a contractor job in Afghanistan or cut grass
Sep 03, 2009 Rating
I feel you by: Lily
I feel the same thing as you do. I am too married to my husband who has a beautiful 8 year old daughter (my step daughter) and he pays his child support on time and he even doesn't get to see her that much (it's all when it's convent to the mother) and he just recently got laid off and now we are stuck on trying to figure out how to pay it when his unemployment is half of what he used to make...
the only thing that gets me is that his ex girlfriend (the mother of his daughter) is living very comfortable and has no really need for the money...I know that it's his resonsabilty and he needs to pay it but when hard times hit and he can't make the payments that he used to, she withholds him from seeing his daughter. Also, Child Support does things like suspent his liscense and threatened to send him to jail if he doesn't make his payment...how in the heck is taking away his liscense and locking him up make it any easier for them to get their money? you'd think they would set up programs to help them find jobs so they can make the payments, not make it any harder...
they just assume that if he doesn't pay that he's just a dead beat and that's that. they want their money and that's all they care about.
I totally understand your pain, I really do :(
Aug 17, 2009 Rating
laid off by: Anonymous
What are the children supposed to do because daddy is laid off?? Eat mud?? Sounds like he needs to find another line of employment might even have to work 2 jobs.
You married this winner so I have little sympathy except for the children
May 30, 2009 Rating
I feel your pain by: Anonymous
Courts do not take into consideration the fact that the ncp still has to survive. My boyfriend is ordered to pay $600 a month child support yet he has been "laid off" for 7 months. He has not received any income yet is still expected to pay this amount when the mother is remarried and living very comfortably. Where is the justice for a man who did not want a divorce, did not want to be seperated from his children, and with the current economic situation has to lean on others to support himself? I wish you luck.
May 19, 2009 Rating
ALso significant other of a non costodial parent with a child together! how to make them count! by: Anonymous
My DH pays child support and has been for the past 3 yrs and is never in arrears.
it shouldn't be just the ncp responsibility. I was soo scared of what could happen to my DH and our child as a whole if something were to happen and he failed to pay his child support. I decided to take matters in my own hands to get a better understanding and more control over the situation, the cheapest way possible.
I went and did searches on books on child support.I found a book that has laws by the state on which the order is held, in which the child #1 resides.I found out that our child doesn't matter/count unless they have their own separate case opened, if DH gets a raise custodial mom gets a raise every 3yrs. thats how it works but there are ways around it.
Thought of my DH if he ever gets a promotion or increase in income of $100.00 or more. Then his child support can go up & to her child which takes away from my child! I got to do whats best for MY child too!! how it works is the cs every 3 years sends her a letter saying your term is up you have the option of modifying it to both partys he has the option as well. both can waive the right and not answer or fill the paper work.
after extensive research on my part If SHE CHOOSES to modify it then all it takes for her to get her raise from us is an increase in income of $100.00 they always looks for ways to raise it before they will lower it and he can't try to lower it without her consent unless under other circumstances. motion to mdfy has to be an incr. or dec. of $100.00 or more in income, and NCP prove hardship if NCP seeking modify. CP doesn't have to prove hardship.they overlook the your living expenses, and other children unless!!!! he has other child support obligations!!!!!!!.
they will only lower it if his income has decreased UNWILLINGLY! not if he takes a job for lower pay only if he gets laid off,disabled, fired, or has other support oblig. that makes it a hardship unwillingly on his part. thats the only way they will modify it in NCP favor. with out custodial parents approval/agreement.
by law the first cs case, or child #1 has priority over all other cs cases opened after it in any state. but before they can modify the support order they still have to deduct Child case#2 amount from his earnings first which counts as a decrease in income, before determing the amount for child#1 by his leftover income and vice versa.
its the only way to get child#2 to count! we opened a child support case even though we live together and support our child together.they can't prove we do!!!!
we use the system against itself in our favor.us having a cscase open as well makes it harder for cp to raise it unless he gets a huge! abnormal raise which won't happen anytime ever, unless he wins the lottery.
