Wife of Non-Cust..Who is going to support my kids...

Here's my story so far...My husband was arrested 2 nights ago for child support, but he is not the deadbeat dad most will automatically assume he is. He and his girlfriend were 17 when they found out they would be having a baby. He immediately found a job and supported them both fully until they decided to break ties. He paid child support for 2 years without any kind of court order after they split. I have seen that man take out every last dime from his bank account for his son. Of course after being denied access to his child and having a check for child support torn up in his face he stopped paying. So when the ex decided that she did indeed wanted child support she took him to court. Sent the papers to a neighbors address (luckily we received them just before the court date) hoping he wouldn't show. He then had back pay tacked on to the support order for every month he did not have evidence of including the years they all lived in the same home and he worked while she stayed home with the child. It seemed like he would never be able to make up the years of payments he already made or she refused and has never fully caught it up.

In more recent years my husband has had some serious misfortune. When I was pregnant with our first child he was involved in a horrible car accident with a drunk driver. Head on collision both going at around 65 mph. The man had no insurance and was illegal so he fled the country or disappeared. My husband nearly died. Had to relearn how to walk, had several reconstructive surgeries, back injuries and has a metal plate in his arm for an elbow. He tried to hold down a job (he only has labor intensive skills, being that he quit school to take care of a young family) but that required heavy doses of pain killers and the more you take, the more you need. Now after 2 rehab stents we have determined that it is not possible for him to work. Pain killers don't help your work performance and jobs aren't very forgiving when you have to go to the doctor once a month for a refill. He can do without the meds when he is not working. Even a desk job which he lacks the skills for is very difficult as he is not able to sit or stand for long periods of time. So for the past 3 years his child support payments have been very irregular, but he has tried. Disability seems like the only option. He has helped contribute to our family in the mean time by watching our child, now 3 and I just had a baby 3 weeks ago. We filled out the disability paperwork which he is not pleased about, but it had to be done and wouldn't you know, He gets picked up for child support before we get anything back.

Now the ex has their son and two other children of her own as well. She is not married, which allows her to lie about the father living with them and get benefits like WIC and Welfare. Although this is not really about her I feel the need to point that out.

So who is supposed to support my kids and me? I have not even been released to drive yet from the c-section and my husband is in jail with a $2,000 cash only bond. He has a good relationship with the oldest child (joint custody) and picks him up for each visit. So all 3 children suffer. Mine most of all. He goes to jail for not supporting 1 leaving 2 others without support as well and none of them able to see their dad and me with no help what so ever. What the heck can I do? It is not that he doesn't want to support the kids, that is his whole reasoning for biting the disability bullet!

I don't know what to do here! If anyone has some advice I would greatly appreciate it. Also, if anyone could give me an idea of how long my husband will be in jail or anything I can do to get him out faster... Other than coming up with money we don't have!