I yes being a custodial mother whom has a 6 year old daughter by my ex husband would like to say thank you to those fathers out there that do care and take care of their children the way a father should but on the other hand those dead beat dads need to get up and off their butts and step up you know WELCOME TO PARENT HOOD. A JOB THAT IS 24/7,not just whenever you want. With that being said I am in need of some advice. My ex of 3 years now has since re married and since our divorce he has so so paid his child support but is now behind 6 months. Since that time I have met a wonderful man and planning a wedding. Now that he knows he is threatening taking my rights. I am not working and do not depend on his money what so ever. He is saying that there is a law of if he has to pay a certain amount each week that I have to show proof of income equal or greater than what he pays. I myself do not know how true that is and cannot find any answers. In the 3 years that we have been divorced he has seen our daughter 2 times and will tell her that he will be there when she asks him to join her at a school function or her birthday party then I am always left being the one to tell her maybe daddy had something unplanned come up and he just could not make it but you know that daddy loves you. Why is it that when a deadbeat father is about to be taken to court that he starts threatening? And does anyone have any ideas as to what I can do to maybe help him become a better father? Once again Great appreciation to those fathers that take care of their children!!! You can email them to landersmisty@yahoo.com
If you need a Lawyer? LegalMatch allows you to present your case, and respond only to lawyers who want to help you. It's Free & Confidential. Need a Family Lawyer?
I can totally know what you are going through. They get a little ballzy when they threaten court. However I have never heard of such a law, now when you go to court you will have to fill out a financial statement, everyone does. He must of gotten his facts wrong because if you are out of work, so what, he is still going to have to pay maybe even more. So don't let him scare you, welcome the court hearing because there you will find it is going to go in your favor. Alot of us single parents have lost our jobs, got laid off, are suffering financial difficulties due to the economy. I am so glad you have found someone and are moving on, I think this is what really bothers your ex. Even though he is only 6 months behind he doesn't have the right to threaten you with anything. Remember your kids will be the one to suffer when two parents are arguing, just let him say whatever but take it from one who has been there and back he cannot do a damn thing. If you wanted to file papers for wage assignement so they deduct right from check, you don't have to have contact at all. The courts sends your check every month. I wish you and your family much happiness and may you have a beautiful wedding. God bless maria phoenix, az
Feb 11, 2009 Rating
Wow by: Anonymous
thank you so very much for that bit of information.
Feb 11, 2009 Rating
Parenting by: State Law
You will need to look at the family law for the state you reside in. Each state is somewhat different regarding who should pay what. Texas only considers the non-custodial parents income.
Anyhow, these child support enforment agencies are ruthless and do more damage to families than good. As long as they get money through thier system, that's all that matters. They get credit for it. They could careless where the money is spent and if either parent is involved in the child's life.
To answer you question: The state cannot and will not force the parent to attend any classes to be a better father unless he had custody and was suspected of child abuse.
